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ok this has been bugging me for a while now

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are there really people out there that cant get any help from family in some way?

my parents ask me everyday if i need anything from food to diapers to toilet paper, even if they are traveling and i need something they will put money in my bank so i can get it. i understand that sometimes we dont have parents anymore but come on there has to be someone that you know that can help you in some way even if you have to pay them back. 

ok now im off to make me a bowl of cereal and watch sesame street with my little one, i will respond when i have time

EDIT: i understand there are times when there is no one but see i dont understand how a parent can abandon their child like that. it boggles my mind when someone says that their mom or dad doesnt care about them

i would hope those moms out there that have parents like that will treat their child better and help out if they can, even if its something small and im sure yall ladies do 

i know when my son gets older and he needs my help, i would do what i could to help him out 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:02 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:46 PM
Of course, but I was pointing out my husband doesn't have that.


Quoting Anonymous:

but if u really needed money to buy food or something, would they send you some or put some in ur bank account?


Quoting Anonymous:

My mil left when my husband was 7, his dad died in 2010. So no help from his family ever. My parents are great, but 2000 miles away.



nellyb118
by Gold Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:48 PM
Nor everyone is that fortunate. My family lives across the country and doesn't have the means to help us. My in laws are well off but never ask and honestly I don't know if they would help us if we asked. I would only ask them if I had no other options.
Consider yourself very lucky to have a support system like that :-)
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armybratmom612
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:50 PM
That was my family. Now my dhs family complete opposite. They are always sending boxes even when we tell them not to. They have paid bills for us then told us later. Once we find out we try to pay them back but they just won't cash the check. This is the second year our car registration was paid for without us knowing. She won't take the money but justified it by saying spend the money we would have on gifts from them for bays but I bet you two hundred dollars they still send gifts. It's crazy! I've never known a family to do this and honestly it makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable
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abbymommy915
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:50 PM
My mom owes me $3000 and my dad lives off ss so he can't afford to help... Mil works min wage and fil is on ss also :/
Bree88
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:52 PM
We would never ask for help, even from family... we just don't want to be that way. We are responsible adults, if we can't afford something that came up at the last minute... we've gone and gotten payday loans. Since we both make pretty good money we can get several hundred dollars each. I would rather do that, than borrow money from anyone.
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johnnys_mom6605
by Silver Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:55 PM
I'm better off than most of my family. And we are still paycheck to paycheck. I'm actually getting ready to move in with my sister to help her out since she just left her df.
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rancharobeans
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:56 PM

Yeah neither of my parents were there for me ever. they raised me... but I had to do everything from buying school supplies in elementary school to figuring out where to find help with homework... they did bare minimum and I rarely hear from them. They are both alcoholics and they dont seem to have that "mother" or "father" instinct. they could care less what I do in my life. and yes I make it a priority to help my kids and be there for them in everyway because I know how it feels when they werent there

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:57 PM
Yup! When ds gets older, I'll do it if I need to! I'd rather go hungry than see my baby go hungry.


Quoting LadyStork:

That's what I do too. It pisses Dh off because I am hypoglycemic but ya gotta do what ya gotta do to see to it that your kids eat.



Quoting Anonymous:

They don't have it, ever. I was out of meats the other day and my mom gave me 2 pork chops, 2 ribeyes and a pack of hamburger meat for $9. Wanna know what she did with that money? She got ciggs. Yea. If she hadn't needed ciggs or had the extra meats (her best friends buy my mom and dad meats twice a month or they'd go without) then I wouldn't have had anything to eat this past week. My son is breastfed so he won't go hungry no matter what. I haven't had milk in weeks, I have what I have because we eat very little. I don't eat during the day unless I have to so that when dinner rolls around we have enough to eat.






Quoting Anonymous:

but if you have no food, would your mom or dad really want to see their grand kids go hungry? i mean if they have a little extra money to help would they if you really needed it?




Quoting Anonymous:

My family is just as broke as me. If I need something I have to figure out a way to do it. Not everyone's families have money.




Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:58 PM
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I find it sad too that people have no one. But it is that way for a lot of people. My family would and will help if we ever need it. Thankfully we don't need to ask, anymore, but when our kids were small and we struggled it was so nice to have help. I can't imagine how hard it would have been without them. Makes me feel really bad for those that don't have the help.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 1, 2012 at 12:01 AM
Don't feel guilty! You are their children. They like to spoil you just like you probably like to spoil your own once in a while. Just be thankful and roll with it. They may not always be around and they wouldn't do it if they couldn't afford it. Enjoy!

Quoting armybratmom612:

That was my family. Now my dhs family complete opposite. They are always sending boxes even when we tell them not to. They have paid bills for us then told us later. Once we find out we try to pay them back but they just won't cash the check. This is the second year our car registration was paid for without us knowing. She won't take the money but justified it by saying spend the money we would have on gifts from them for bays but I bet you two hundred dollars they still send gifts. It's crazy! I've never known a family to do this and honestly it makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable
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