Obviously God didn't want you to have children..
I believe in God and that He has the ultimate say in whether we have children or not but those are my personal beliefs. I couldn't imagine saying something so hurtful about a woman who wanted a child of her own. Maybe the question about the adoption put her in a defensive position...please understand I am not making excuses just trying to add a different perspective. We all say things we later regret and if she is truly your friend just talk it out? I do think you're being a bit unfair in judging her economic situation. Money should never be a reason to have or not have a child.
Quoting Anonymous:I think she was out of line for her remark and it was horribly off as God wouldn't do that. If he was then she would have money for her home and her car. But aside from her being an ass, you and your other friend over stepped your boundary. You had no right to ask if she were giving up or keeping this pregnancy. Whether you meant it in a good way or not, you said it wrong. She didn't say anything about contemplating what to do and you should have never told someone what to do with their child. Does the mom with 2 pregnant again owe her sister who can't even have 1 her third child? WTH.... You might want to just apologize for making a comment that you intended to be nice but finding all the wrong words and realizing that there are not right words. This isn't oh you have some extra shoes, so and so needs some. This is HER baby.
And then I would ask her why she feels she is privy to God's thoughts.
Quoting stephanie73401:Am I the only one that thinks the poster of this was the one out of line? People have ups and downs financially. I don't know her so I have no way to judge her...with that being said, you call her your FRIEND and then tell her she should give her baby up for adoption. You, my dear, are a cunt. You are quite lucky. If one of my "friends" said anything like this to me when I was in my first trimester....my hormones would have drove me to shove my salad fork into your eye. That is all.
Thank you for the laugh and yes I think OP was a bitch first and this woman responded. The hormones really had me roflol. I'd of killed them. They owe her an apology.
Why are the rest of you defending the OP and saying stuff about God not giving her money. The woman was slapped with such ignorance. Can anyone here please tell me what their answer would be if they had a number 3 or more pregnancy and out with two so called friends who suggest to you that you should give your Xnunber pregnancy to another friend who has been trying?
While I would never suggest a *friend* give her child up for adoption, I don't agree with her comment about God giving people children. I don't believe God has anything to do with whether or not we have children. I don't believe God takes an active involvement in any of our actions or inactions; God has given us free will, and is more involved in our minds than in the workings of the physical world.
If this girl was/is your *friend*, you had no business suggesting she give her child up for adoption, unless she is living in absolute impoverished squalor. However, I also wouldn't be friends with a nutty religious idiot.
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Bronze Member on May. 1, 2012 at 1:19 AMAm I the only one that thinks the poster of this was the one out of line? People have ups and downs financially. I don't know her so I have no way to judge her...with that being said, you call her your FRIEND and then tell her she should give her baby up for adoption. You, my dear, are a cunt. You are quite lucky. If one of my "friends" said anything like this to me when I was in my first trimester....my hormones would have drove me to shove my salad fork into your eye. That is all.