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I am angry and hurt and a few other emotions right now. PIOG

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I found out some things last week, well more like had a few things confirmed. My husband finally admitted he has a problem with porn and alcohol. I'm angry and hurt. He says he wants to get help. I told him if he doesn't get it together I'm divorcing him. I refuse to live like this anymore. I can take a lot of things, but I can't take the lying.

Does anyone have any experience with this?

by on May. 1, 2012 at 4:27 PM
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by Platinum Member on May. 1, 2012 at 5:47 PM


by on May. 1, 2012 at 7:27 PM

That's awesome! I hope that offers you some reassurance, because it should. That shows a commitment to making things work. At least he sees the value in it. I find a lot of people really undervalue what a counselor or therapist has to offer. This is outside of what is considered a normal issue and it is difficult to deal with. Whoever you see will give you the tools you need to get through this. Then it's up to you to utilize them. Have faith that things will work out :)

Quoting catrig:

We are making a counseling appointment later this month.  The therapist he wants to use is out of town.  We are planning to do all kinds of counseling though.

Quoting tifbrown:

I understand your anger. To me lying is just so hurtful. It only worsens the situation, especially when you know there is more going on. Have you guys tried or considered counseling?

Quoting catrig:

That's awesome that he's been clean for over a year.  Lying is the worst.  The thing is I knew what he was up to but I couldn't prove it.  He would just sit there and lie about it.

Quoting tifbrown:

My husband and I had a rough first few years. He had a pretty bad cocain addiction. It was horrible. What kept me going and kept me willing to work at it with him was his honesty. He never lied about it or hid it. With that and a lot of hard work we made it through and he has been clean for over a year. Had he lied and hid it I would have left long ago without a look back. It's pretty tough to work on something and try to help and be supportive if they don't tell the truth.


by Ruby Member on May. 1, 2012 at 10:50 PM

Quoting catrig:

He is going to be getting some type of treatment whether it's inpatient or outpatient.  This situation is complicated by the fact he also has depression and aspergers.  We do have insurance so I am thankful for that.  All the alcohol is out of the house.  I will never keep it here again.  Thank you for your response.

Quoting DixieL:

About a week ago I sent this person a reply to her drinking problem. I think the only way to help with the drinking is rehab. That's what helped me. I hope you have insurance. I know it costs a lot but it's well worth it when he quits drinking. I don't know about the porn. I haven't had a drink in twenty four years and the day I got out of rehab. I went back to making drinks for my family with no problem at all. Good Luck

 Your welcome If you need to talk to someone about that subject I think I am the person to talk too. I didn't tell any of my story to you. Just enough to let you know he needs to get help.Good Luck and hopefully I will be talking to you again. At least let me know how he is doing. He can do it if he really wants too.

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