S/O Wedding rings- Does it REALLY matter that much? ETA with pic
Sheesh, I didn't realize how ornery some women can get over engagement rings!!! Why does it matter how much someone else's ring costs or how much your OWN ring costs? Is the cost and size of the ring directly in proportion with your husband/fiance's love for you? Did you interrogate him about the cost and clarity of the diamond when he proposed before you said yes?
Here is my 3/8 carat engagement ring, my 1/2 carat 10th anniversary band and my plain gold wedding ring. No clue how much they cost and no desire to find out!! My diamonds aren't huge and they aren't from Tiffany's but they are beautiful to me because my wonderful husband picked them out!
Quoting poietes:
I dont care. Hubby picked mine out himself and its perfect. I do admit when I see people with an insanely large ring on I tend to think they are compensating for something or are a little to worried with status. But I hate large jewerly, if some one else likes it more power to them.
I have freakishly small hands so large stones look ridiculous on me. If it looks good on you though, then wear it proudly!!
My engagement ring cost $60. The band was my mom's orginal engagement ring that she had lost the diamond from. The diamond in my engagement ring is the solitaire diamond from a pendant DH gave me for our one year dating anniversary. It only cost him $60 to get the diamond set in the band.
So my ring has sentimental value which is worth far more than the size and the cost spent.
I guess I was a bit distracted by my kids. What I am saying is that we didn't buy rings because we didn't want to spend so much money on something that may or may not last. After we were married for 5 years we bought bands that we liked, but they weren't expensive. After 5 years, we were confident enough in our marriage, we felt that we could buy rings without worrying about the cost. We chose inexpensive rings because they are merely a symbol of our union, not the union in itself.
Quoting ARmomOf3:the first three sentences are a bit contradicting
Quoting Anonymous:I never got an engagement ring and we didn't get married with rings. In fact, we didn't buy rings until we had been married for 5 years, just so that we didn't invest money into something that wouldn't last. We are confident enough in our love that we don't need expensive jewelry to prove our love to each other. I would probably slap him if he bought me diamonds. I can think of many better things to spend the money on that diamonds.
Quoting Bethsunshine:
Quoting poietes:
I dont care. Hubby picked mine out himself and its perfect. I do admit when I see people with an insanely large ring on I tend to think they are compensating for something or are a little to worried with status. But I hate large jewerly, if some one else likes it more power to them.
I have freakishly small hands so large stones look ridiculous on me. If it looks good on you though, then wear it proudly!!
While there is no correlation between the size of a diamond and the man's love, to me, a ring could be a status symbol like anything else. My ring is nice, it's the style I wanted, but isn't really huge and no debt was incurred from its purchase. But I don't like to make a habit out of judging what other people spend their hard earned money on. I'm curious if the OP has a similar problem with designer purses or clothes or luxury cars. I drive a used minivan. My in-laws have two BMWs. They have the money to spend and they like luxury cars, so I don't think much about it. In the same way, some women like fancy jewelry. I don't really see it as a character flaw.
that's a little more clear, but why would you get married at all if you werent confident it would last? expecting failure even a little bit is setting yourself up for it IMO.
Quoting etsmom:I guess I was a bit distracted by my kids. What I am saying is that we didn't buy rings because we didn't want to spend so much money on something that may or may not last. After we were married for 5 years we bought bands that we liked, but they weren't expensive. After 5 years, we were confident enough in our marriage, we felt that we could buy rings without worrying about the cost. We chose inexpensive rings because they are merely a symbol of our union, not the union in itself.
Quoting ARmomOf3:the first three sentences are a bit contradicting
Quoting Anonymous:I never got an engagement ring and we didn't get married with rings. In fact, we didn't buy rings until we had been married for 5 years, just so that we didn't invest money into something that wouldn't last. We are confident enough in our love that we don't need expensive jewelry to prove our love to each other. I would probably slap him if he bought me diamonds. I can think of many better things to spend the money on that diamonds.
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"
- Bethsunshine
on May. 1, 2012 at 8:21 PM