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Should I be freaking out or am I over reacting?

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I really need help with this, I can't sleep and my mind is going crazy! I want go give a little background first so everyone understands and can tell me if I am completely over reacting or if it's ok to be freaking out!
My daughter is a very spunky, outgoing, not afraid of anything, always laughing, Daddy's girl, spiderman loving two year old. Since the moment she could wrap her hand around "bear" she hasn't let him go. She has never even gotten him taken away it would break her heart! When he is dirty she sits at the washing machine and dryer until he is done. She has also been on toddler formula since she was 9 months old due to stomach sensitivities. She has a special cup it goes in and when she is tired or doesn't feel good it is a comfort to her. She has always been a stay at home child, she doesn't like to spend the night at Grandmas very often when her older siblings go she always tell them she is going to stay home with Mommy and Daddy. She is very independent though and has to know what is going on every where and even though her siblings are 7 & 8 she is in charge. She doesn't sit still for very long and has to do everything Daddy does! Recently she has changed though, she is very clingy, clingy to the point of she constantly wants one of us to hold her, rock her, lay with her, or she has to sit in our lap. By constantly I mean every minute that we are with her. She has never been this way since she was born. If we aren't right there with her it is heartbreaking. You would think that someone abandoned her. I put her in a new daycare in Febuary. We both work full time. Now on to what I need help with.

Today she came home with a huge bruise in her cheek. It is black, blue and pink. She said she got it on the slide. When I asked my husband if he received and incident report he said he hadn't but he text the owner and she said she forgot to have him sign it. My husband had to mow someones lawn after work and she cried for about 20 minutes after he left because she couldn't go and she spent the rest of the evening in my lap. When he got home she sat with him on the couch and I went in our room and sat in the bed while I printed coupons to go to the store when she fell asleep. She came in not long after and we were playing with her bear and she was hiding under the blanket and then should would hide me. All of a sudden she started talking about "Grandaddy". Which is the daycare owners Dad that comes in and cooks the kids lunch. According to her this is all he does. She said that he had toys, so I asked what kind and she thought and said just toys. I asked her again if she knew what kind and she said Zaines toys. This is her baby brother. I asked her if they were Zaines toys or they just looked like his toys. She didn't answer and was on to the next thing. She told me that he took her bear. So I asked her why? She didn't know but kept telling me he took her bear. I even asked where he took bear? She didn't know but she said that he was very mean to bear and that her and bear cried. Of course I was infuriated but I kept my cool and she continued. He took bear then he took my milk. Well I knew it had to be nap time, so I asked her I she was taking a nap when he took it. She said she was in her bed (nap mat) and he got in her bed and took her bear and milk and she wasn't asleep. I asked her where all the other kids were, I was hoping she would tell me where her teacher was. She just looked at me with a really weird look like she didn't know the answer. They should have been all around her it's the only full class there. I didn't ask anymore questions I just let her talk to see what I could make sense of. She went on about him being mean. Finally I could tell she wanted me to respond so I asked her why he was mean. She told me he took her panties, so I'm trying not to just go over the edge and yell at my husband to get off of the couch hunt this man down and figure out what the hell is going on, so I asked her if he had put a diaper on her. She halfway nodded her head yes but stopped and went on about him being mean and needing a time out. She started rolling around in the blanket laughing again so I went back to printing my coupons. All of a sudden she got really quite looked me dead in my eyes and said Granddaddy says he is going to hit Momma. She has never said anything like that and no one in our house threatens like that. They fight but they never tell who they are going to hit. She repeated it in the same tone with the same expression once more before I could ask her why he said that, she just said it once more but this time it was hurt instead of hit. After that she grabbed her milk and her bear snuggled up on Daddy's pillow and was sound asleep in 5 minutes. I still had the shocked expression on my face when my husband came in to check on her. I am not sure what to think. I also want to let you know another thing that caught my attention before this happened. Her sister had convinced her to play cards in her room while I tried to feed the baby. She wasnt up there a few minutes and I heard her say she had to potty. I knew she would be down to get her sticker and the baby had just fallen asleep. I had started to get up when I heard a horrible scream and she came running down the stairs. I didn't even have time to finish getting up and she was at my side screaming that her bottom hurt. I put him in his bed and ran to get the cream and a diaper. I tried to look before i put the cream on but I couldn't see much she was screaming in painand wiggling and she had grabbed the cream herself and was trying to put it on. I plan to look first thing in the morning. She never wants a diaper. We have to make her wear one to bed. She hasn't been using the potty very long and still has some accidents at night. Even if we put one on while she is still up she takes it off and uses the potty. Tonight she never did, I asked her if she needed go before I went to my room and she shook her head no.

Should I freak out? Should I stop over reacting? Could this be a phase? Why would she randomly say something like that about him hitting me? I really want to go up there before she does in the morning and demand answers but I doubt I would get the truth and I probably would never make it to work! Can someone give me their perspective?
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by on May. 2, 2012 at 2:01 AM
Replies (41-50):
Mrs.Winchester
by on May. 2, 2012 at 4:12 AM

I know that you don't want to speculate or accuse someone,  but really-  how much more evidence do you need??  There are not just one but NUMEROUS red flags that have been raised here.  Please listen to your gut.  From another persons perspective it sounds like your daughter has been molested, and possibly assaulted to boot.  PLEASE do not let her return to the daycare.  PLEASE take her to get checked by a professional and file a report.  It is your responsibility as a parent to do right to this child.  ALWAYS listen to yout gut.

Ask yourself this:  Can you live with yourself sending her back to that daycare knowing that she might be molested or assaulted?  Can you live with yourself knowing that you thought about it but decided to send her anyways?

mommy1LA
by on May. 2, 2012 at 4:18 AM
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whoda007
by on May. 2, 2012 at 4:18 AM

ER and then I would start sharpening my knife!! No ONE hurts my kids!

etsmom
by Ruby Member on May. 2, 2012 at 4:22 AM

I think that you need to speak to the police before you speak to the daycare. I would be concerned if he is taking her bear and her underpants. That he is threatening to hurt her and he has toys. Do the math and figure out what is adding up. Your daughter SHOULD NOT go back to that daycare. I would take her in to see her doctor immediately and then go to the police. I hope to God that this is a misunderstanding, but if it isn't, you are her mother and protector. You must protect your baby.

jeremy1
by on May. 2, 2012 at 4:29 AM
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karma88
by on May. 2, 2012 at 4:30 AM
my prayers are with you.
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usmc.momma
by on May. 2, 2012 at 4:32 AM
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Everything about this post is sending up huge red flags!! A child her age wouldn't know to make something like this up. I agree with another poster. You are under reacting. If there are marks, they could heal by morning!! Take her now and get authorities involved before that monster has a chance to get to that daycare tomorrow!! Chances are your daughter isn't his only victim!!
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NoahsMommy1121
by Ashley on May. 2, 2012 at 4:46 AM
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You need to take her to the doctor ASAP for an exam & dont send her back to that daycare!
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Jessica_Esqueda
by on May. 2, 2012 at 11:49 AM

Please keep us posted. 

nathansmommy331
by Silver Member on May. 2, 2012 at 12:13 PM
Bump for update. Prayers for you!
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