my 4 year old ds told me my ex showed him his penis. updated
my ex was abused as a child and teen from what he told me. i have hated him a lot over the last two years and have tried to forget him. he lied to me multiple times and choked me out, got me pregnant 2x, then i found out his real last name and that he was married (separated) and had 2 kids he never/could not see right before we finally split.
i never thought he'd do something like that purposly. my son had seen him pee a fewtimes when he left the door open and had only been in the shower, with me standing there, with him once, because my ds puked on them both after a big breakfast.
this is especially hard because i had had feelings and unresolved things with my ex before and the two pregnancies were aborted very early... my head was way fucked up by him. i have mdd and went into a month long depression once where i only got out of bed once a day to go to the bathroom and showered every 3 days if that and never ate.. just cried. my son never acted like he was scared of him, only 2x i ever saw anything. and even then it wasn't teally bad. b.c he was actually good with my ds and ds liked him a lot. none of this is making any sense to me.
i wanted to beat the living shit outta my ex the day after my son told me and had friends talk me outta it. i let it go b.c i was waiting on the police. my ds seems fine and i didnt want to make it worse. he wasn't distraught over it even when he told me. but ihad to make the report. yesterday i took a copy of the report to the police station in the city this occured. i have been sad and anxious and depressed all day, night, and today over this. i drove by the last place i know he lived 3x. i want answers and i dont think i'll ever get them. i am so confused because i want to confront him, yell, bash his face in, and all normal mother instincts. everyone says not to do anything. i know the police wont have much to go on and the case will get dropped.
i feel like this is my fault. i don't know what to do. what do i do? i left my son with my mom b.c i was about to fall apart even now i'm getting teary and i can feel my stress building. it's a lot easier for people to tell you not to do something when it isn't their child. i want to vomit and scream and cry and beat the shit outta him for EVERY fucking thing he has done. i am about to explode.
the dective agreed with ME. we are going to specialists. i didn't feel the need to explain word for word what my child said. the man was not his father and what he did makes him a piece of shit. some of you are right and maybe nothing will happen, but at least i'll find out the truth. also for those of you not understanding if it was in the bathroom or shower, it was neither, it was in the livingroom! no i don't care about punctuation or grammer or spelling. you're all smart enough to understand what is being said.