He was an alcoholic and not the best husband or father for a year and went into rehab and 7 years later he's sober and a wonderful dad.
He divorced his wife 4 years ago because he realized he married her for all the wrong reasons and 3 years ago I met him and we started dating.
Everything was going great but then she threatened to kill herself if he didn't come back so he did.
I'm past the wanting him back and just want to help him. I talked to him about the reasons he staying and it's basically because he feels he deserves to be punished and doesn't deserve happiness. He's miserable and I want to help but I just don't know what to say to get through to him, any ideas?