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I Think StepMoms Who Hate on BioMoms Are

Anonymous
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Insecure about their relationships with their husbands. They try to make the ex look like a psycho bitch cuz that pleases their husbands, without thinking that if your husband talks about his ex like that, chances are he speaks of you the same way. 

I also think trying to turn the kids against their parents is pretty f'ing low. If mom/dad is a lowlife, letting them know makes the child feel like they are the same peice of trash.

Kids should never know of the conflicts between parents, nor should they be used as pawns. Doing so damages them, so much!

If step parents were truly out for the best interest of the children (which they should be, being that they entered into a relationship with a person who already had kids), they would not let petty things like haircuts, pickup times, and child support be determining factors in their relationships with their SK's.

I have been on both ends, and know damn well all the shizznit I said about BM was out of anger.



Edit: 

I do realize that BM's often hate on the SM. But, they are hurt and/or angry. They are not insecure, b/c there is nothing to be insecure about. They no longer have an intimate relationship with BD. The SM's I am referring to are the ones who go out of their way to make every single mistake BM makes out to be horrible parenting. The ones who complain about arrears being spent on BM, without thinking that BM already spent her own money to supplement BD's when he wasn't paying. There are good SM's out there. However, if you badmouth your SO's ex for everything, chances are, you are not. 




Edit No 2: Since so many people seem to have missed the point, here. I do not justify BM's being rude and mean to SM's. But, when BM got pregnant, she most likely did not know she would later have to deal with another woman in BD's life. It was just a card that fate dealt her. She got the short end, KWIM? SM, on the other hand, knew exactly what she was getting into when she started dating a man with children. She can't undo the kids or the fact that her SO's ex will always have a relationship with "her man." Which is when most resort to the insults and badmouthing.

Posted by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 1:09 AM
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skyelyns_mommie
by Gold Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:11 AM
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I wish more sm and bm thought like you
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 1:15 AM
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TOTALLY 100% AGREE!  WAY TO GO MAMA!

msalice_21
by Platinum Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:16 AM
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I never had a problem with my ex's gf... Till she got pregnant. Then she bacame a wicked bitch and shoved herself in the middle of EVERYTHING!!! She had the nerve to flip me off while holding my son one day picking him up for visits. They're baby is only 6 months now and theyre no longer together. Karma sucks :)
Grumpylilpixy
by Ruby Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:18 AM

My ex husband tried to say I was "STALKING" his ex wife.. LMAO!

I said umm.. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.

Divorced that. And I wouldn't go back.

I wouldn't stalk her after all.. She is with you! 

I gave up that short dick years ago honey and I DO NOT REGRET IT..

It was all over a picture she posted up of my kids playing it off as if they were hers.. LMAO

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 1:18 AM
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If only the BM, I deal with felt the same way as you. But since she is the one bad mouthing and using the kids as pawns, I'll go on hating her.

Chatema
by on May. 3, 2012 at 1:19 AM
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 Glad I'm not one of those sm. But I don't have to make the ex look like a psycho. She does that on her own. Should have seen the look on her face when we told her we were married. She was pissed. And the only thing is that I do not understand why?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2012 at 1:19 AM

Way to be an adult. 

Quoting Anonymous:

If only the BM, I deal with felt the same way as you. But since she is the one bad mouthing and using the kids as pawns, I'll go on hating her.


Momniscient
by Ruby Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:20 AM
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Parents should be mature and put the children first always. It's tough because divorces and custody issues are so emotional. But adults need to be adults regardless of their insecurities and feelings. It isn't appropriate, reasonable or mature to put kids through the emotional trauma for the sake of an adult emotion.

BJAponte77
by on May. 3, 2012 at 1:21 AM

 I guess it depends on the person.  I don't trash talk my s-kids bio mother but when it's called for I do.  I've talked about her 3x.  Once was when me and her got in a fight because she was yelling at my boyfriend and no one but me and his mama can do that.  The other time was when she got a big child support check from some arears we had to pay back and it was the months of birthdays.  One is the end of march one is beginning of april, she went a bought a tattoo with the money when it's CHILD support.  The last time was when she gave birth to her new baby and sent my step son to live with his grandma for the 1st week she was home and let the daughter stay home because he's hyper and she didn't want to deal with him, FYI he's great with babies and I trust him with my son a LOT.  So I don't talk trash because I hate her, to the contrary when she's normal I like her, I talk trash when she deserves it.

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Sunnysdmom
by on May. 3, 2012 at 1:21 AM
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So you are insecure?
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