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It literally makes me sick to my stomach to imagine him with someone else, or having our kids around someone else. Now don't get me wrong I do love my husband we have been together since we were 16 now were going on 24 have been married for 6 years and have two daughters . He has put me threw hell over the years although I don't have evidince of physical cheating I know he has text ex girlfriends being all flirty even asked for pictures a few times, saw that he was talking to sluts on creigslist ...told me that was a joke him and his friends were messing around. We have gone to councling and stuff but its not the same as it used to be . I feel distant from him, I don't trust him, whenever he leaves I'm wondering what he is doing, who he is with if he is lying . He was the first boy I kissed, dated seriously, had sex with. I feel like he is just here. He doesn't try to improve the relationship . It's like living with a roomate you share a bed with and on occasion have sex . Yet I will never leave him because I don't want my kids around another woman that's not a family member , and the thought of him with any one else sickens me . Seriously makes me ill . Im depressed , unhappy a lot of the time. I feel like I'm by myself even when he is here . He plays video games whenever he is home, doesnt help me with our girls he , doesnt help with the house we hardly talk at all. I dunno I just kinda wanted to tell someone that I can't tell anyone in my family. I try talking to him but he doesn't care . I dunno I suppose that's it. Thanks for listening .
Posted by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 5:08 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 5:17 AM
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I'm sorry you are going through this. Me and Dh have been together since i was 16 and im now 29. We desperately need counceling but cant afford it. I'm not even sure if i would be able to get him to go anyways. we fight all the time. There is no communication. Everytime i try to have an adult conversation with him about my feelings and stuff he instantly gets offensive and goes off then tells me to grow up. When i talk to him most times i feel like he isnt listening. Half the time i wont even get a response. He has been absolutely so self obsorbed lately and everyone is noticing it too! Mr muscles lol.

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by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2012 at 5:21 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

I'm sorry you are going through this. Me and Dh have been together since i was 16 and im now 29. We desperately need counceling but cant afford it. I'm not even sure if i would be able to get him to go anyways. we fight all the time. There is no communication. Everytime i try to have an adult conversation with him about my feelings and stuff he instantly gets offensive and goes off then tells me to grow up. When i talk to him most times i feel like he isnt listening. Half the time i wont even get a response. He has been absolutely so self obsorbed lately and everyone is noticing it too! Mr muscles lol.



Looks like we are in the same sinking boat lol. I'm sorry your going threw this too its horrible. Good luck
Lindalou907
by Silver Member on May. 3, 2012 at 5:23 AM

Well,that is pretty heartbreaking,I'm sorry,it hurts a LOT to not feel loved and desired by your man. I hope you will just work on being the best person you can be,for YOU,not him.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 5:24 AM
Hugs momma. Truth be told that's the only reason I stay with mine too
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2012 at 5:27 AM
Quoting Lindalou907:

Well,that is pretty heartbreaking,I'm sorry,it hurts a LOT to not feel loved and desired by your man. I hope you will just work on being the best person you can be,for YOU,not him.



Thank you, I am usually ok during the day because i have my kids and they make me so happy . I'm probably the only mom on the planet that hates when my kids go to bed . After there sleepibg even tho.my husbands here its like being by myself its depressing .
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2012 at 5:28 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

Hugs momma. Truth be told that's the only reason I stay with mine too


Thank you. And hugs to you to I'm sorry you feel like I do :'
mom2cheesebug
by on May. 3, 2012 at 5:34 AM
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I'm sorry your dealing with that, but honestly wouldn't your girls be better off with two happy parents, with two happy step parents, wrather than two unhappy parents, one of which is completly uninvolved. I have seen women go down this path and then their children grow up thinking thats how moms and dads are suppose to be, distant, cold, and one parent being uninvolved just to avoid the other parent. Then they end up in the same relationships because thats whats normal to them.

And if you think he is cheating, why would you want to stay? The thought of him being with someone else might make you sick, but what about him being with someone else just to bring you home whatever he might of caught from them?

lovelove211
by Platinum Member on May. 3, 2012 at 5:34 AM
I love him. But not the way I used to. I wish I was strong enough to leave


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

Hugs momma. Truth be told that's the only reason I stay with mine too



Thank you. And hugs to you to I'm sorry you feel like I do :'

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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on May. 3, 2012 at 5:35 AM
I posted with my sn so you can pm me if you ever need a chat


Quoting lovelove211:

I love him. But not the way I used to. I wish I was strong enough to leave




Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

Hugs momma. Truth be told that's the only reason I stay with mine too




Thank you. And hugs to you to I'm sorry you feel like I do :'


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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2012 at 5:38 AM
Quoting lovelove211:



Thank you
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