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I only stay with my husband because....

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It literally makes me sick to my stomach to imagine him with someone else, or having our kids around someone else. Now don't get me wrong I do love my husband we have been together since we were 16 now were going on 24 have been married for 6 years and have two daughters . He has put me threw hell over the years although I don't have evidince of physical cheating I know he has text ex girlfriends being all flirty even asked for pictures a few times, saw that he was talking to sluts on creigslist ...told me that was a joke him and his friends were messing around. We have gone to councling and stuff but its not the same as it used to be . I feel distant from him, I don't trust him, whenever he leaves I'm wondering what he is doing, who he is with if he is lying . He was the first boy I kissed, dated seriously, had sex with. I feel like he is just here. He doesn't try to improve the relationship . It's like living with a roomate you share a bed with and on occasion have sex . Yet I will never leave him because I don't want my kids around another woman that's not a family member , and the thought of him with any one else sickens me . Seriously makes me ill . Im depressed , unhappy a lot of the time. I feel like I'm by myself even when he is here . He plays video games whenever he is home, doesnt help me with our girls he , doesnt help with the house we hardly talk at all. I dunno I just kinda wanted to tell someone that I can't tell anyone in my family. I try talking to him but he doesn't care . I dunno I suppose that's it. Thanks for listening .
Posted by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 5:08 AM
Replies (21-30):
psychessun
by Gold Member on May. 3, 2012 at 3:47 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Lindalou907:

Well,that is pretty heartbreaking,I'm sorry,it hurts a LOT to not feel loved and desired by your man. I hope you will just work on being the best person you can be,for YOU,not him.



Thank you, I am usually ok during the day because i have my kids and they make me so happy . I'm probably the only mom on the planet that hates when my kids go to bed . After there sleepibg even tho.my husbands here its like being by myself its depressing .

think about what kind of harm leaning on your kids for emotional support may do to them.  they're kids, they're not responsible for making sure their parents feel okay. 

I'm sure that's not your intention, but it could be a down side you don't even realize may be developing.

I hate weekends, holidays, and summer!
xomrsweaver
by Gold Member on May. 3, 2012 at 3:56 PM

sorry :/ 

Come over to the dark side...we have cookies :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 3:58 PM

 you were both too young when you got together, so I think now he wants to make up what he didn't do in his teenage years..but this can't end good..

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2012 at 3:59 PM
Quoting psychessun:



I don't do anything diffrent then any other parent might do , I get them up make breakfast bathe them dress them I clean the house while they play, we color go to the park , go to the store. Make lunch and dinner get them ready for bed read them a story and they sleep I love having them during the day we play and color have fun after they go to bed its quite and just me and my husban who's playing verily games so we don't even talk I usually just clean the house do laundry then I just shower and go to bed . It's like that everyday its so irritating
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2012 at 4:04 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

 you were both too young when you got together, so I think now he wants to make up what he didn't do in his teenage years..but this can't end good..



I've been thinking about telling him I'm leaving to see if that would snap him out of whatever thing he is in . But I'm also afraid that he wouldn't care if I left and I know very well I couldn't handle it .
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 4:06 PM

I'm sorry, are you me?? LOL. I am the complete and total same as you, except we haven't gotten married and we have a ds and dd. But I feel the same as you!! And I can't bring myself to leave either!

kittysRcute7
by on May. 3, 2012 at 4:10 PM

Well you have to remember if you guys do split up he'll be having to face the same thing when you move on, he'll have to know there's another man that makes you happy, that might be doing a better job than he ever did, he'll have to know there's another man making his little girls laugh and smile. It's a two way street and men don't like thinking about those things either

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 4:11 PM

 not trying to be negative but you seem to be the only one putting an afford to save this relationship, you can't do much to make him change other then your DH putting a lot of afford himself, you can try and retry again but it will be in vein, if he isn't willing, So maybe it's time to move on with out him, why waste more time with a person that's not supporting you at 100%..

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

 you were both too young when you got together, so I think now he wants to make up what he didn't do in his teenage years..but this can't end good..



I've been thinking about telling him I'm leaving to see if that would snap him out of whatever thing he is in . But I'm also afraid that he wouldn't care if I left and I know very well I couldn't handle it .

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 4:12 PM

i only stay for the kids. If I left him, I know I couldn't stay home with them & care for them the way I want to and the way I feel works best for them.

LexRi0709
by on May. 3, 2012 at 4:14 PM
I think you need to go to counseling by yourself! If you can afford it look up a crisis center near you, or the suicide hotline. You need to get you better before the relationship can get better.
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