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Dating while separated and not divorced IS ADULTERY!

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Adultery or not?

I think it is. what say you?

Posted by Anonymous on May. 3, 2012 at 11:42 PM
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wulfeyes05
by Ruby Member on May. 4, 2012 at 10:04 PM

I think it is.

SnapIt
by Ruby Member on May. 4, 2012 at 10:12 PM

As long as both spouses are in on it and know about the divorce and papers are filed and lawyers are involved. No it's not

Some people arent even living together. And some divorces may take YEARS.

Going through the divorce and not being intimate anymore the marriage is already done and over with. You would have to be one selfish ass to think your spouse should wait for those papers to be signed and sealed in order to start dating. The only one who would want it that way, is the person who didn't ask for the divorce and are bitter at their STBX for leaving them. 

Better to start moving on in your new life.  What are you waiting for? Hope? lol yeah ok... Life goes on!

And for crying out, not everyone is religious! Shit 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 4, 2012 at 10:21 PM
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I'm still technically married. My divorce has taken over two years. It'll be final in october. I'm engaged and have had a baby with my fiance. Adultery? Maybe. I don't think so, my ex cheated repeatedly. He broke the covenant, I'm no longer his wife...only according to the new york court system.
jamieharper08
by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:24 PM

 I think married or not....if you tell someone it is over....ITS OVER!!!! I am free to do whatever I want and so are you. IMO

ginene
by Silver Member on May. 4, 2012 at 10:24 PM
Yep! I try my best not to judge and that includes judging the judgers. Lol it's hard but I try. Sin is sin and like you said you can't pick one and ignore the rest that you(not you people in general) do. Just try to do your best and ask for forgiveness.

I'm always first to admit that I know I do wrong and thank God that He is a forgiven God!


Quoting Anonymous:

What I can't stand is the ones who say things like once saved always saved, justify all their own sins and then jjudge everyone elses. The bible says "judge not that ye might be judged, but whatsoever judgment that ye passed, you will be judged with the same judgement." The woman of ADULTERY was taken to Jesus (I've always wondered where the man disapeared to in that) and Jesus said he that is WITHOUT SIN let him cast the first stone, well consideering all the examples of sin in the bible, "to him that believeth and trusteth him not to him it is sin." "To him that know good and doeth it not to him it is sin." And it goes on and on...gossiping, smoking, lying, deceiving, pride, arroange, disobeying a husband, treating kids like slaves, ....its all sin...but I love how people pick and choose..instead of peopple looking at everyone else we need to judge ourselves first...and I'm talken to myself also..




Quoting ginene:

Right. It clearly states not to judge in the bible but people do it all the time.


Just because someone sins doesn't mean they don't have morals. Everyone sins.






Quoting Anonymous:

Honestly, some people who date while still married do have morals. There is a reason why they are divorcing the person they were married too. A lot of loneliness can take place when a divorce first happens so of course some will date, they might be strong in front of everyone else, but they probably aren't, and every situation is different. I mean, if the husband was cooking meth nd she's getting a divorce, why should she be bound to her husband anyway? Esp if they've been legally seperated anyway.








Quoting Anonymous:

not speaking legal but morals have no concept in this society nowadays.so sad.

Quoting Anonymous:

In my state as long as there is no hope for fixing the marriage there is nothing legally wrong with dating while separated.

I had a friend who left her DH and she made sure before she started dating just to be on the safe side.







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Saille717
by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:24 PM

Legally, no it's not adultery if you and your spouse are no longer living in the same residence, which indicates that there is no expectation of exclusivity.  

Morally, that's each person's personal decision.  I don't believe it is.  Sometimes it can take years to work through a divorce and get everything figured out, fought out, and filed.  Nobody should have to sit there alone basically being punished for a lousy previous marriage.  

Religiously, I'm sure it is adultery.  And I'm sure all the f***s I give about that could dance on the head of a pin.  lol! 


Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 4, 2012 at 10:54 PM

I think it's fine. Soon to be divorced people need love too

Evelynsmama2012
by Bronze Member on May. 5, 2012 at 1:41 AM

My soon to be ex husband was an abusive pyscho ,Btw yes i saved myself for marriage,but two weeks into it,and he was already spending more time looking at porn than having sex with me,and no,i never planned on getting divorced,i tried to make it work,but when it got to the point where he was holding a knife to my neck,and telling me he was gonna slit my throat,i had no choice but to leave him,and by my states dumb laws you have to be seperated for a year and a day before filing for divorce,and it won't be a year til June, and yes i am with someone else now,and pregnant by him ,due june 15th,yes,i moved on fast,so go ahead and preach,But you know what ,i'm happier with him than i ever was with my husband,because our whole marriage was miserable and abusive

Quoting Oostera:

I believe in God and I am happily married, in my first marriage, with the only man I gave myself to. I still don't see it as adultery since the marriage is over in the eyes of God. Do you think they had divorce court in Abraham's time?

I, personally, don't believe in divorce in most circumstances. This just means that I try extra hard to make sure my relationship stays on a path that makes us both happy. That DOESN'T mean I take the burden on my shoulders to judge all who walk before me. That's God's job, not mine, and not yours. The way you come across is nasty and judgmental. It's no wonder so many people turn from God with representatives like you! Learn to trust in God's path for all people, dear, and you will be happier.


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Lindalou907
by Silver Member on May. 5, 2012 at 5:58 AM

I don't see it as a morality issue,but I do think that people need to be happy with themselves alone before they start dating.

SOCO101
by Silver Member on May. 5, 2012 at 6:00 AM

No. Not the same at all.

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