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Be raped and cumming...is it possible?

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I'm just curious if it's possible.  I'm not trying to start drama.  I've been with my husband for 5 years.  Last night, we had a horrible fight.  It ended with him forcing me to have sex after I asked and begged him to stop repeatedly, trying to push him off of me, saying no.  I couldn't budge him.  He held my hands down, and even used lube because I wouldn't get wet.  I love rough sex, normally, but he'd hurt my feelings pretty badly, and I was not in the mood for sex whatsoever.  I didn't want him to touch me.  Eventually, my body reacted to him, as it always has, though I was still saying no and begging him to stop.  He's never done this, and it blew my mind.  Afterwards, I felt upset, dirty, emotional, shockingly hurt.  I laid there and cried myself to sleep on our couch, refusing to come to bed to lay next to him.  I did cum, however...I tried to just lay there, I tried to just focus elsewhere, but he's always known what to do to get me over the edge, and it was like I had no control of it.  So, my question, though I came, I said no, I fought, I begged for him to stop, so is it rape???

Posted by Anonymous on May. 4, 2012 at 5:02 PM
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RaLALA
by Bronze Member on May. 5, 2012 at 4:04 PM
Praying for you.


Quoting Anonymous:

Sorry for the late return.  I am in the process of studying for finals.  After speaking to the church counselor, she has set us up for more counseling.  I am still very uncertain, and had hoped that last night would give me some more....I dont know, I guess definite answers.  Neither of us can afford to move out, so we've separated the rooms, and the counselor has let him know she could come by anytime, day or night, and if he is near my room, or if I have any complaints, she herself is calling the law.  She has also programmed her number into my speed dial list to assist me if I feel there is any danger.  I know this is most likely not the outcome people were hoping for, however it is much more complicated than many in here realize.  Thank you all for the advice, concern, help, and good intentions.


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 27 on May. 5, 2012 at 4:11 PM
I'm glad you are trying to work things through. It would be silly to abandon your marriage because of one disagreement.
purpleducky
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2012 at 5:00 PM
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it wasn't one disagreement; it was the violation of a person.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm glad you are trying to work things through. It would be silly to abandon your marriage because of one disagreement.
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mommysangelface
by Emerald Member on May. 6, 2012 at 8:35 PM
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i guess i missed the memo where RAPE is a disagreement  SMH

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm glad you are trying to work things through. It would be silly to abandon your marriage because of one disagreement.


mommysangelface
by Emerald Member on May. 6, 2012 at 8:36 PM

i agree totally

Quoting purpleducky:

I understand the pressure of finals. And I understand the uncertainty. However, I do not believe you have made the right decision (sex offenders cannot be rehabilitated and just because he cannot afford to move out doesn't mean you should suffer because of it). Nevertheless, if you are looking for support, my support group is still available. There are many great people there and harassment is NOT allowed.

Quoting Anonymous:

Sorry for the late return.  I am in the process of studying for finals.  After speaking to the church counselor, she has set us up for more counseling.  I am still very uncertain, and had hoped that last night would give me some more....I dont know, I guess definite answers.  Neither of us can afford to move out, so we've separated the rooms, and the counselor has let him know she could come by anytime, day or night, and if he is near my room, or if I have any complaints, she herself is calling the law.  She has also programmed her number into my speed dial list to assist me if I feel there is any danger.  I know this is most likely not the outcome people were hoping for, however it is much more complicated than many in here realize.  Thank you all for the advice, concern, help, and good intentions.



lovinglife0682
by on May. 6, 2012 at 8:39 PM
Exactly. This shows so much about him, his character, lack of respect, abuse the list could go on and on. A disagreement is when people are upset over a toilet seat being left up. This is so much more.


Quoting purpleducky:

it wasn't one disagreement; it was the violation of a person.



Quoting Anonymous:

I'm glad you are trying to work things through. It would be silly to abandon your marriage because of one disagreement.

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militarywife09
by on May. 6, 2012 at 8:41 PM
Yes.

(((HUGS)))
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