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How do you get over something like that?

Anonymous
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Found out DF had a secret email and within that secret email were a ton of dating site accounts!

Here are some I can name at the top of my head: wilddatez.com, fuckbook, Ashley Madison, fling, seekbang, and meetlocals.com.
There's way more but can't remember the rest.
Anyway, I retrieved all the passwords to those dating site account (yes, I had a lot of time on my hands) and saw that he was writing women, having cyber sex with them, exchanging nude photos, and connecting on all sorts of levels. :/

My heart dropped to the pit of my stomach. I can't believe he had all of these account and the worst part about it, I was pregnant while he was doing this!! I'm not an ugly girl but DAMN have you seen these women on sites like that??? Talk about play boy status. How do you compete with that? :(

But most of all, how do you get over something like that?? :/
I asked if he's had any physical contact with any of these women and he says no (OF COURSE) but I really don't believe him.
I got tested and I don't have anything, thank goodness.

Im so depressed at this point and I've never felt so low about myself. All self esteem and self confidence went completely out the window!! :(
Posted by Anonymous on May. 5, 2012 at 3:39 AM
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noel1979
by on May. 5, 2012 at 3:43 AM

I know the feeling, i am dealing with the same issue in a sense.. my issue is with yahoo im, and cam4 porn site. I have many saved chats his has had and made up account names. so far as i know he hasn't done anything but every weekend it is hell for me when i go to bed because i don't know what he is doing. it is very hard very very hard

black.eyeliner
by on May. 5, 2012 at 3:43 AM
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Sorry but he would be out the door. I could not get over something like that.
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cassie19831
by on May. 5, 2012 at 3:46 AM

Sorry. I don't know find someone else?If you can't trust him and he's out shopping for another person maybe he's not all that ready to settle down. It's still cheating what he did. Its not you though. It's him. He did it. Find someone that only wants to be with one person. He's scumhugs

MamaLub
by Gold Member on May. 5, 2012 at 3:50 AM
It isn't anything to do with You. You are with a man that can't be trusted. You could have been anyone and he would have cheated. You know how you get over it? You leave that disrespectful bastard and find someone worthy of your time. Why are you still calling him your fiance??
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mamaxkitty
by Gold Member on May. 5, 2012 at 3:54 AM

Wow.:( That is low. What a fucking asshole. Leave his ass. Thats so many damn sites to be on..........I honestly don't know how you would get over that...........

MumsTheWord571
by Platinum Member on May. 5, 2012 at 3:57 AM
I agree. I believe Ashley Madison is specifically for cheating.


Quoting black.eyeliner:

Sorry but he would be out the door. I could not get over something like that.

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Mom_2_Be_313
by on May. 5, 2012 at 4:08 AM
I agree with the ones say kick him out! You will have that in your head that stress will cause problem to the baby u need to be at ease forget how you love him but that three strikes if u keep him hey good luck to u but drama is not for nobody!
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GomezMami2908
by on May. 5, 2012 at 4:13 AM

First off, a lot of those pics are fake!! So don't feel low, he's the one who should feel low! He fucked up, not you.

You need to figure out if after this huge betrayal your marriage is worth you staying.

I don't know how to answer your question, it would be hard..probably impossible, for me to get over something like that.

momofpreemieboy
by on May. 5, 2012 at 4:22 AM

Honey just remember that either the photos were not theirs or they were touched up. I know because My cousin met one of those so called playboy types and was sorely disappointed. He also told me some of the girls in the sites are huge fat and disgusting. So hon you are beautiful and more so when your prego. A friend of my old friend was on one of the sites you mentioned her screen name was bobbysox. She weighs 321#s so none could compete with you and men just seem to gravitate out of curiosity and get caught up in it. they dont all cheat but some do.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 5, 2012 at 4:23 AM
Sorry I mean ex DF. I'm so used to writing DF on here :(
However, we are still together, just not engaged.
I stayed to see if we could work things out for the sake of our family but I haven't gotten over what he did to me. It's been 5 months and paranoia always gets the best of me!
I'm hurt everyday and I put us both through hell. I think it's time to move on :(

Quoting MamaLub:

It isn't anything to do with You. You are with a man that can't be trusted. You could have been anyone and he would have cheated. You know how you get over it? You leave that disrespectful bastard and find someone worthy of your time. Why are you still calling him your fiance??
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