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Controversial Topic: How does abortion affect you? *EDITED*

Posted by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:51 AM
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***Since many did not seem to take the time to actually read what I have posted please see page 43 for a brief overview of my statement.  This is not a post that is trying to sway you to become pro-choice.  This is not a debate on whether abortion is right or wrong.  This debate is on a woman's right and why it is that one side feels that it is right to take away those rights through legislation.


reading the news this morning and still seeing articles on states trying to defund Planned Parenthood and trying to find ways to stop abortions from occuring. 

The thing that bothers me the most about these articles is I don't understand how abortions affect these people.  If I were to get pregnant tomorrow I would be setting up an appointment to get an abortion.  No questions asked.  I am on birth control to help ensure I do not get pregnant so that would mean my birth control failed and right now I absolutely cannot add a baby to the equation.  But how does that affect anyone other than my husband (who be supportive of my decision) and I?  If you are Pro-Life why is it that you would want to force something onto me that could potentially put us in such a bad place that it would be detrimental to my family?  Why is it that the Government (namely the GOP) feels the need to tell me that I don't have a right to make decisions that are best for my family and my life?  How does what I do with my family, my body and my life affect this nation as a whole or you as an individual?

And before we begin with the obvious statements I would like to give you a few MYTHS of abortion.

MYTH: Women are using abortion as a method of birth control.

In fact, half of all women getting abortions report that contraception was used during the month they became pregnant. Some of these couples had used the method improperly; some had forgotten or neglected to use it on the particular occasion they conceived; and some had used a contraceptive that failed. No contraceptive method prevents pregnancy 100% of the time.

If abortion were used as a primary method of birth control, a typical woman would have at least two or three pregnancies per year - 30 or more during her lifetime. In fact, most women who have abortions have had no previous abortions (52%) or only one previous abortion (26%). Considering that most women are fertile for over 30 years, and that birth control is not perfect, the likelihood of having one or two unintended pregnancies is very high.

MYTH: Women have abortions for selfish or frivolous reasons.

The decision to have an abortion is rarely simple. Most women base their decision on several factors, the most common being lack of money and/or unreadiness to start or expand their families due to existing responsibilities. Many feel that the most responsible course of action is to wait until their situation is more suited to childrearing; 66% plan to have children when they are older, financially able to provide necessities for them, and/or in a supportive relationship with a partner so their children will have two parents. Others wanted to get pregnant but developed serious medical problems, learned that the fetus had severe abnormalities, or experienced some other personal crisis. About 13,000 women each year have abortions because they have become pregnant as a result of rape or incest.

MYTH: Women are often forced into having abortions they do not really want.

Some women say that pressure from a husband, partner, or parent was one of several reasons they chose abortion, but only about 1% give that reason as the "most important" one in making their decision. Conversely, some women who do not want to continue their pregnancies are pressured to do so by family members, friends, or fear of social stigma. Pre-abortion options counseling is designed to determine whether a woman is fully comfortable with her abortion decision, and if she is not, she is encouraged to wait until she has had a chance to consider her options more fully.

MYTH: Many women come to regret their abortions later.

Research indicates that relief is the most common emotional response following abortion, and that psychological distress appears to be greatest before, rather than after, an abortion.

There are undoubtedly some women who, in hindsight, wish that they had made different choices, and the majority would prefer never to have become pregnant when the circumstances were not right for them. When a wanted pregnancy is ended (for medical reasons, for example) women may experience a sense of loss and grief. As with any major change or decision involving loss, a crisis later in life sometimes leads to a temporary resurfacing of sad feelings surrounding the abortion. Women at risk for poor post-abortion adjustment are those who do not get the support they need, or whose abortion decisions are actively opposed by people who are important to them.


ETA:  I have noticed that the topic of murdering someone who is already living has come up.

The topic is on why it is ok to force your moral view of when life begins and personhood rights onto people who do not agree with that view point.  I think it is safe to say that a person who has been born has life and has person hood so that point is moot.

Furthermore, I have posted on Page 2 a link to the Theological, Philisophical and Scientific Arguements for when life begins.  Here is the link

Some will die in hot pursuit and fiery auto crashes. Some will die in hot pursuit while sifting through my ashes. Some will fall in love with life and drink it from a fountain that is pouring like an avalanche coming down the mountain. ~Butthole Surfers


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by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:55 AM
Such great information!
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by Anonymous 1 on May. 5, 2012 at 6:55 AM
Bumping to come back and read after wake up some more.
by The Dorkfish on May. 5, 2012 at 6:56 AM
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I'm wondering too, OP. So, here's a bump.

by Butters on May. 5, 2012 at 6:56 AM
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I honestly dont care. Not my baby, not my womb, not my it's none of my business. 

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by Anonymous 2 on May. 5, 2012 at 6:56 AM
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Just the fact that women do not regret killing a defenseless 'baby' is disgusting. To feel relief for destroying a life makes you no better than a murderer. 

Abortion may not be 'murder' but the people who have them voluntarily with no regret have the attitude of one.

by Platinum Member on May. 5, 2012 at 6:57 AM
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Abortion doesn't affect me unless I have one. Which is why I don't care what others choose to do.

by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:58 AM
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Pro choice but i would never murder my child!!
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by Anonymous 3 on May. 5, 2012 at 6:58 AM
It doesn't because I will never have one.
by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:59 AM
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I think for most pro-lifers its a human rights issue. If they see a fetus as a human being, or believe that life begins at conception, they are essentially fighting against the idea that some human lives are disposable, unvaluable, and unimportant. I think the lines are most often drawn there.

The same reasons why people are outraged by genocide that happens on the other side of the world. Or why people will fight for justice for victims of murder in any situation.

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by on May. 5, 2012 at 7:00 AM
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Planned parenthood tried to force me to have one. they even when as far as to get my mom to sign off a release form. and try to pitch us againist each other. it didn't work. 4 year later i have a great blessing and a pure HATE FOR PLANNED PARENTHOOD

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