I will never breastfeed my children.
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I want to, I really do, and I may even be able to.. but I'm not going to.
I have Polands Syndrome. Which is the absence of the pectoralis major on one side. The left side, for me. When I was 16 I had an expander put in my chest, and when I was 17 I got an implant on my left side.
I have researched breastfeeding with Polands Syndrome.. there isn't much information on it, because it is a very rare condition, but I found some. Almost every mother on there who breastfed with their implant said that breastfeeding left them looking worse than before they had surgery. I can't do that. I remember what it was like having one size C breast and one completely flat side. It was horrible.. once I finally had surgery it was amazing! It changed my life! I never want to be so uneven and off again :(. I also don't want to undo thousands of dollars of appointments and surgery.
Even not breastfeeding with my first I am a little uneven.. as my right side is saggier than my left because it isn't an implant. I would love to get surgery to lift my right side back up when I'm done having kids.. but don't want to go through the whole thing with my already exsisting implant.
So there you have it. I feel guilty, and kind of like a sucky mom because half of the reason I won't do it is cosmetic.
But I know I'll probably never breastfeed.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Like I said to the other one, I really don't give a shit what you say about me.
OP admitted that her reasons are superficial. That disgusts ME, that somebody would care more about their appearance than their child's nutritional needs.
Quoting KYLIEAARONMOMMY:
You know what, you disgust me! You don't know what this mom has been through! You don't have the condition that she does! Until you walk a mile in her shoes, you have no right to judge her for this!
Quoting briansmommy2010:Eh...I feel I may have to walk out of this post. I just can't imagine choosing to not breastfeed because you don't want your breasts to not look good. They make push-up bras ya know.
the breastfeeding nazi's turn a lot of folks off. Don't even get me started on the EBF vs breastfeeding only 3,6 months or to a year. Some of the EBF ladies can be ridiculous if you didn't nurse over a year. Motherhood is not a competition.
Quoting valeriesmom1112:Exactly! and this is coming from someone who breatfeeds! Im so tired of seeing posts/replies about how other moms look down on the moms who dont breastfeed! if formula wasnt ok for babies to have then there wouldnt be any formula!
Quoting Anonymous:
I chose not to breastfeed for no other reason than it was my choice. You don't have to have a reason not to... it is personal.
My boys are happy and healthy kids... my sister breastfed and her kids were always sick. As long as you are caring foor your child, that is what matters.
No... no I don't think you could.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Uh oh, watch out now, the CM police are in town, telling everybody what they can and cannot respond to.
Enjoy your perfect breasts. Hope your child doesn't suffer in order for you to have them.
Quoting Anonymous:You said that already.
Any time now..
Quoting briansmommy2010:I never claimed to be a better mother. I just can't fathom not wanting to give your child the best nutrition possible, because it may make your breasts look uneven. Seems as if your priorities are pretty messed up here.
Quoting Anonymous:well thank you for your understanding. I'm sure you are a much better mother.
You can walk out of the post now.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Yes, I do understand, but thank you for insulting my ability to read.
I still don't agree with your point here. I can't imagne how the way your breasts look could be more important than your child's nutrition.
Quoting Anonymous:You obviously don't understand.
I don't have a left breast. At all. Underneath my implant it is as flat as my toddlers chest.
No amount of push will make it unnoticeable.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Eh...I feel I may have to walk out of this post. I just can't imagine choosing to not breastfeed because you don't want your breasts to not look good. They make push-up bras ya know.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Eh...I feel I may have to walk out of this post. I just can't imagine choosing to not breastfeed because you don't want your breasts to not look good. They make push-up bras ya know.
Quoting briansmommy2010:I never claimed to be a better mother. I just can't fathom not wanting to give your child the best nutrition possible, because it may make your breasts look uneven. Seems as if your priorities are pretty messed up here.
Quoting Anonymous:well thank you for your understanding. I'm sure you are a much better mother.
You can walk out of the post now.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Yes, I do understand, but thank you for insulting my ability to read.
I still don't agree with your point here. I can't imagne how the way your breasts look could be more important than your child's nutrition.
Quoting Anonymous:You obviously don't understand.
I don't have a left breast. At all. Underneath my implant it is as flat as my toddlers chest.
No amount of push will make it unnoticeable.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Eh...I feel I may have to walk out of this post. I just can't imagine choosing to not breastfeed because you don't want your breasts to not look good. They make push-up bras ya know.
I don't tell anyone they shouldn't BF, but I also don't feel any mother should be ashamed or made to feel guilty because they made a different choice.
Quoting Angeldolphine:Babies are supposed to get colds so that the mother's body can assist their bodies and "teach" them how to fight off infections. Much like having a trainer on the job. Saliva from the baby actually lets the mother's body know what bacteria baby has been in contact with. Getting colds or not isn't a sign the child is healthier. More antibodies are actually produced in the second and third year, which is why they should be breastfed until at LEAST two, but three is much better. A year helps the immunity system, but two or three years GREATLY affects it. Just because a baby is sick or not sick now doesn't mean they are actually healthier later or that it doesn't have life long benefits or consequences. Think about the difference between putting food into your child they are designed to have, that has the perfect nutrition for their health vrs, processed, chemical food with no antibody or antiviral protection. Think about how not having the passive immunity of breastmilk may affect a child later in life. Did you know that breastmilk is antiviral and antibacterial and has actually been found to kill some cancer cells?
Quoting Anonymous:
I chose not to breastfeed for no other reason than it was my choice. You don't have to have a reason not to... it is personal.
My boys are happy and healthy kids... my sister breastfed and her kids were always sick. As long as you are caring foor your child, that is what matters.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?