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I am racist against my own race & sexist against my own sex... EDIT: ROLLS.. Edit: Trying to be reasonable

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

 White people drive me crazy sometimes. I am white, and sometimes it embarasses me when I see & hear the stuff they say. I find a lot of white people to be very judgemental & stuck up. I have had other races in complete shock for me opening doors for them, letting them ahead of me in line, and striking up conversations with them. I have heard many times, "You are the nicest white person I have ever met." It makes me sick. My BIL, Sister, & Mother have all made racist comments in front of me and I jump all over them. Now I absolutely know not ALL white people are like this, but in all honesty, I prefer other races for friendship over my own. My DH is actually the first "white boy" I had ever been with or dated, and he is very very dark skinned.

Now onto women, holy cow! Sometimes I want to tell them to STFU and get their bitch ass in the kitchen and make me a pie. I also know not ALL women are pains in the ass, but most are. Needy, whining, complaining, insecure, etc. I honestly think that a man has his role & a woman has hers. I believe that the reason women are getting so out of control sexually and emotionally is because it goes against our nature the way the world has become. We push to be treated equal, but we're all NOT. Most women are natural nuturers, and when you go against your born nature because todays women say that natural womens roles aren't womens roles anymore it causes problems. I believe in womens rights to vote & all that, but I get so tired of women going against their instincts because being a SAHM isn't "the way" anymore, or sacrificing yourself for your family is frowned on, when it has been done for years and years and years. I don't find a woman who takes care of her husband, works a full time job, takes care of kids, bills, and everything else in the world admirable. I find it foolish. I don't understand why women are trying to put men in their places, when we really just need to acknowledge where our place is, and how fair is it to break down a man to build ourselves up? We are trying to undercut and bring men down so we can over power things, and it isn't natural. Men are built different for a reason, they are who they are for a reason, and us for a reason. I honestly think that men not being a part of their children's lives as much anymore is due to women feeling they have more rights than men. They can do it on their own, until they can't anymore... Ok, now BASH :-)

 

Edit: When I was growing up I lived in 2 different enviroments. I went from living in a State where I was the only white girl in the school, to another State where I was, for once, the majority.

Examples of things that have made me very upset with my race:

  • When our football team played an all black school, the football players put nooses on the back of their vehicles and some put monkeys on them and drove them around. They didn't get in any trouble.
  • I have seen countless people shut doors in non-white peoples faces.
  • We were all sat down in our homeroom class in HS for them to tell us that we would have a black student coming in. They never did this when we would get new white students.
  • When I would defend racist comments I was called an "n-lover"
  • We got a brother and sister in our school that were mixed races and were tortured daily and called "oreos", when I defended them, the students making fun of them slashed the tired on my Dad's truck and threw mud all over our house.
  • I told my Mom when I was younger I had a crush on Malcolm from The Young & The Restless, and she told me that I better have children with blonde hair and blue eyes or I would bring shame into our family.
  • My Grandmother would tell my Aunt that she loved my Mother's kids more because we weren't mixed race.
  • I wore an Obama shirt to work one day and was told that I had to go home for the day if I was going to support that "n-word" (I told him he couldn't do that or I would sue)
  • We had a young black man that worked at this place, and after he would use the bathroom my boss would go and wipe down the handles, and eventually he started using the women's bathroom because he said, "no blacks went in there"

There are a few for you guys. Maybe you can see why I get so upset. I have tons and tons of stories and could really go on forever...

 

Posted by Anonymous on May. 5, 2012 at 3:23 PM
Replies (81-90):
momo3fgr8tteens
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2012 at 7:37 PM

Maybe OP you should edit your original post and take out so much about women and their role's and explain more about the racism and things you saw growing up. That is not in the original post and from my experience making posts on here, people do not read through the thread. I would love to read about your experiences because I grew up in a completely different environment and am very naive to a lot of racism. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Why don't you use your space bar... yountalk?? What does that mean??? Did you make a typo??? Oh no! I'll bash you from here on out for it k?

Did you by chance read anything I wrote referring to the racism I saw? Do you find it acceptable? Do you think it's something I should ignore and be proud of seeing people of my race do? Explain this please.. I would love to take the attention off of grammar and put it on the subject. If you would like, I will go make a post with everything spelled wrong and you can go in and correct it if that is where your heart is content.

Quoting CadesMum:

She can say anything she wants about your grammar when yountalk about "rolls." Editing it isn't going to change the fact that until today, that is how you thought it should be written.


Quoting Anonymous:

 You are absoluely SICK to read what I just wrote and be able to say shit about my grammar. "SO what that it was allowed for teenagers to make references to hanging black people, she needs to use better grammar."


Perfect example of what I am trying to say.


Quoting Anonymous:


Grammar lessons are in need here. 


Quoting Anonymous:


 I said not ALL, I do NOT for a minute believe everyone is like this, but I do get completely angry by some of the things white people say and do in association to other races when they aren't around someone of that race. I do understand the irony of being against racism and being some what racist against my own race. I do undersand that it is odd, but I feel the way I feel.Growing up where I grew up it's no wonder I am this way. We were all actually notified in HS by our homeroom teachers that we would have an African-American young man joining our school... It was disturbing. We had plenty of new white kids and never got a notifications. Racism is still huge in our country. And it is very embarassing to me when white people do racist things, or act certain ways. I am embarassed by the whole "Redneck trailer trash" image. I am embarassed when I see a white man slam a door in a black ladies face. It infuriates me. Maybe I live in a different place than everyone else, so I see it a lot lot more, but where I live it's still segregated. When we played an all black team in football in HS the football players tied nooses to the back of their vehicles, how can I watch and grow up with stuff like this and not be sickened??? Everytime I defended a different race I was tortured for being a "N-lover" and if we ever got any mixed kids in the school, they would nickname them "Oreos" and torture them. It's sickening. Disturbing. And WRONG.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


Judging an entire race (or group) by the actions of a few is the same whether it is against your own race (group) or another. So, you are basically saying that you are just as bad as they are.


Quoting Anonymous:


 I love myself. I love my roll as a wife and a mother. I may not especially LIKE all white people or females, but I never, ever treat them different in person. I treat everyone how they treat me. I am 100% respectful until given a reason not to be. Yes, I have my own opinions about people I see and meet, and I have been treated very poorly by women mostly. I have just heard so much hatred spilt from white people it has made me dislike a lot of them. I was told as a child, for finding black men attractive that I "better have babies with blonde hair & blue eyes or shame will be brought into our family." I have heard my Grandmother tell my Aunt that she loved my Mom's children more because they resemble her race. It didn't make me racist against other races, it made me sick with how people in my family judged other races and people.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


That means you actually have hate for yourself.


 




 




 


 


mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on May. 5, 2012 at 7:40 PM

 Wow....im backing away from this one

Good luck OP

merimack
by on May. 5, 2012 at 7:43 PM
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you hate white people? I have met ignorant people from all walks of life, regardless of race, sex, gender, or age. Also, if being a stay at home mom makes you proud, that is awesome. Everyone should do something that they love and makes them happy. Isn't it great that we all have the choice to decide what is best for ourselve, our family's, and our husbands. The best part is that we can all love doing different things, while being mothers and wives in equaly great, but different ways. I remeber always thinking that that there were only two things that I could be: 1.) A successful mother/wife 2.) a successful business woman/student. Fortunately, I have met so many amazing men and woman, that I now know I can do as little or as much as I want to do (and do it all well), as long as I am doing what works best for me and mine. I hope that at some point, when you look at a person, you will define them by their greatness and potential, ( isn't that how we all want to see ourselves?) not their race, gender or faults. Have an awesome day!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 5, 2012 at 7:47 PM

I think you are correct. I did put in there I didn't feel that all women did it. But if I wanted to get my point across I really should of payed closer attention to detail. I was ranting. And in all honesty, I think the change of roles as our generations have gone on is a reason behind a lot of issues, including the high divorce rate. I believe that men have been pushed aside from what they were brought up learning to do. Provide. It doesn't make a man feel good when a woman is taunting him because she makes more money than he does. Women are constantly attacking men and all that they do, never good enough is what I usually hear. Now I am not saying all, but everyone knows women like this.

Would you raise your son telling him that when he grows up he needs to make sure he gets married to a woman and she takes care of the kids, works, cleans house, and does it all for him? I don't think so. I personally am trying to raise men who will step up and take care of their family when they have one. If it is in their better interest for the woman to work and he be a SAHD that is their given right. But if she is going to beat him down for wanting to provide the best life he can for his family, and that role becomes a competition, how many problems can that cause?? I believe family life should be equal, whether it is the woman or man that works. I find no problem with a woman working if her husband doesn't feel less of a man for it.

Quoting Anonymous:

The thing is you were criticizing women as a group. You can't  just say women in a statement and then change it to what a few women do. When you make a post insulting a group of people but use incorrect grammar, spelling etc. , you lose credibility in what you are saying. You are talking about people's role in the family but put "rolls" when you don't know why people have the roles they have to make their family work best. I understand the whiny, complaining etc. part but not the whole "get back in the kitchen" part. I think everyone agrees with the racism part. Honestly I had to read the post three times to make sense out of it. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 I guess you don't. It's not that I don't want rights for women, it's that they take the whole "rights" thing to a new degree, IMO. She never commented on my post about that, all she has done and her little buddy is pick on the fact that I used the wrong spelling. She couldn't see my post, but knows that I had bad grammar? She could see my replies where I put about the stuff I had seen. If you haven't noticed, not one person bashing me has made any comment on how what I have seen growing up could be bad or wrong. It's all about grammar and words I have spelled wrong, that just shows to me how little attention they are really paying to what I am trying to say, therefor, why even post? If you're going to say something that can't change my opinion, and just adds to it and proves more and more why I dislike women and how overly proud they are of themselves, then go on. It's so obvious they have nothing else to say or add except for attacking grammar, and it's a complete waste of my time and energy to even read it.

Quoting Anonymous:

Did you see where she said it was ok for schools to be segregated? OP you don't want rights for women but you want it for all races? I just don't get your post I guess. 

Quoting SDarvasi:

okay...um..What?!?

I was simply pointed out that YOU felt the need to correct the word "rolls" because other people pointed it out to you.

Other than that...I was merely asking that if you felt the need to hear THEM out...why couldn't simply make the font size bigger so I can actually read it without it hurting my eyes!!

I don't even know what your rant is about because I'm not going to strain my eyes to read it.

But thank you for proving your own point, by ASSUMING you know what I meant and put me in a category of people you don't like? Um, yeah.....thanks.

Quoting Anonymous:

 You're a prefect example of my post. Thank you for helping prove my point! IMO, you're pretty much saying, I see that you have made examples of things you have seen white people do to blacks, and that is acceptable, but seeing that you made a spelling error is not. So do you find it OK for schools to be segregated and the white schools make references to the black schools by bringing up horrific things their ancestors went through? Do you find that funny? I would imagine that is something you don't have the balls or heart to comment on, because it's much easier to knit pick unimportant things. Maybe you just don't have the knowledge, and in that case, it's time to educate yourself on the horrible things that happen ouside pretty little suburban towns.

Quoting SDarvasi:

So you fixed "rolls".......but now can you make the font bigger??

 

lol

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 5, 2012 at 8:01 PM

 Took your advice, kinda. I'm not going to delete what I put about women because I think that would make me a coward. I wrote that, and people can put their opinions on that. I also included things that I have seen that have made me upset with being white, and some of the reason I am ashamed sometimes.

Quoting momo3fgr8tteens:

Maybe OP you should edit your original post and take out so much about women and their role's and explain more about the racism and things you saw growing up. That is not in the original post and from my experience making posts on here, people do not read through the thread. I would love to read about your experiences because I grew up in a completely different environment and am very naive to a lot of racism. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Why don't you use your space bar... yountalk?? What does that mean??? Did you make a typo??? Oh no! I'll bash you from here on out for it k?

Did you by chance read anything I wrote referring to the racism I saw? Do you find it acceptable? Do you think it's something I should ignore and be proud of seeing people of my race do? Explain this please.. I would love to take the attention off of grammar and put it on the subject. If you would like, I will go make a post with everything spelled wrong and you can go in and correct it if that is where your heart is content.

Quoting CadesMum:

She can say anything she wants about your grammar when yountalk about "rolls." Editing it isn't going to change the fact that until today, that is how you thought it should be written.


Quoting Anonymous:

 You are absoluely SICK to read what I just wrote and be able to say shit about my grammar. "SO what that it was allowed for teenagers to make references to hanging black people, she needs to use better grammar."


Perfect example of what I am trying to say.


Quoting Anonymous:


Grammar lessons are in need here. 


Quoting Anonymous:


 I said not ALL, I do NOT for a minute believe everyone is like this, but I do get completely angry by some of the things white people say and do in association to other races when they aren't around someone of that race. I do understand the irony of being against racism and being some what racist against my own race. I do undersand that it is odd, but I feel the way I feel.Growing up where I grew up it's no wonder I am this way. We were all actually notified in HS by our homeroom teachers that we would have an African-American young man joining our school... It was disturbing. We had plenty of new white kids and never got a notifications. Racism is still huge in our country. And it is very embarassing to me when white people do racist things, or act certain ways. I am embarassed by the whole "Redneck trailer trash" image. I am embarassed when I see a white man slam a door in a black ladies face. It infuriates me. Maybe I live in a different place than everyone else, so I see it a lot lot more, but where I live it's still segregated. When we played an all black team in football in HS the football players tied nooses to the back of their vehicles, how can I watch and grow up with stuff like this and not be sickened??? Everytime I defended a different race I was tortured for being a "N-lover" and if we ever got any mixed kids in the school, they would nickname them "Oreos" and torture them. It's sickening. Disturbing. And WRONG.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


Judging an entire race (or group) by the actions of a few is the same whether it is against your own race (group) or another. So, you are basically saying that you are just as bad as they are.


Quoting Anonymous:


 I love myself. I love my roll as a wife and a mother. I may not especially LIKE all white people or females, but I never, ever treat them different in person. I treat everyone how they treat me. I am 100% respectful until given a reason not to be. Yes, I have my own opinions about people I see and meet, and I have been treated very poorly by women mostly. I have just heard so much hatred spilt from white people it has made me dislike a lot of them. I was told as a child, for finding black men attractive that I "better have babies with blonde hair & blue eyes or shame will be brought into our family." I have heard my Grandmother tell my Aunt that she loved my Mom's children more because they resemble her race. It didn't make me racist against other races, it made me sick with how people in my family judged other races and people.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


That means you actually have hate for yourself.


 




 


 


 


 

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on May. 5, 2012 at 8:12 PM

Hmm. My mom made more money than my dad, mostly because the type of business she was in boomed and created a lot of wealth at that time and he seemed ok with it because it  helped pay for his kids to go to college. I think women have to just make choices for themselves and men need to be raised that everyone is capable of doing both things. I think it is good for someone to be home with a young child whether it be the man or the woman. Also one of the reasons for the high divorce rate is like you said women being able to work and make decent salaries but that is also what allows women to leave unhappy, abusive, loveless relationships also so more women have chosen to be happy and support themselves. Also you have to remember that children grow up and then many women choose to work or have careers when their kids are like in middle or high school. I don't really think what you are is sexist against your own gender, I think it is more about respecting one another for whatever role each other has in the home and family. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I think you are correct. I did put in there I didn't feel that all women did it. But if I wanted to get my point across I really should of payed closer attention to detail. I was ranting. And in all honesty, I think the change of roles as our generations have gone on is a reason behind a lot of issues, including the high divorce rate. I believe that men have been pushed aside from what they were brought up learning to do. Provide. It doesn't make a man feel good when a woman is taunting him because she makes more money than he does. Women are constantly attacking men and all that they do, never good enough is what I usually hear. Now I am not saying all, but everyone knows women like this.

Would you raise your son telling him that when he grows up he needs to make sure he gets married to a woman and she takes care of the kids, works, cleans house, and does it all for him? I don't think so. I personally am trying to raise men who will step up and take care of their family when they have one. If it is in their better interest for the woman to work and he be a SAHD that is their given right. But if she is going to beat him down for wanting to provide the best life he can for his family, and that role becomes a competition, how many problems can that cause?? I believe family life should be equal, whether it is the woman or man that works. I find no problem with a woman working if her husband doesn't feel less of a man for it.

Quoting Anonymous:

The thing is you were criticizing women as a group. You can't  just say women in a statement and then change it to what a few women do. When you make a post insulting a group of people but use incorrect grammar, spelling etc. , you lose credibility in what you are saying. You are talking about people's role in the family but put "rolls" when you don't know why people have the roles they have to make their family work best. I understand the whiny, complaining etc. part but not the whole "get back in the kitchen" part. I think everyone agrees with the racism part. Honestly I had to read the post three times to make sense out of it. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 I guess you don't. It's not that I don't want rights for women, it's that they take the whole "rights" thing to a new degree, IMO. She never commented on my post about that, all she has done and her little buddy is pick on the fact that I used the wrong spelling. She couldn't see my post, but knows that I had bad grammar? She could see my replies where I put about the stuff I had seen. If you haven't noticed, not one person bashing me has made any comment on how what I have seen growing up could be bad or wrong. It's all about grammar and words I have spelled wrong, that just shows to me how little attention they are really paying to what I am trying to say, therefor, why even post? If you're going to say something that can't change my opinion, and just adds to it and proves more and more why I dislike women and how overly proud they are of themselves, then go on. It's so obvious they have nothing else to say or add except for attacking grammar, and it's a complete waste of my time and energy to even read it.

Quoting Anonymous:

Did you see where she said it was ok for schools to be segregated? OP you don't want rights for women but you want it for all races? I just don't get your post I guess. 

Quoting SDarvasi:

okay...um..What?!?

I was simply pointed out that YOU felt the need to correct the word "rolls" because other people pointed it out to you.

Other than that...I was merely asking that if you felt the need to hear THEM out...why couldn't simply make the font size bigger so I can actually read it without it hurting my eyes!!

I don't even know what your rant is about because I'm not going to strain my eyes to read it.

But thank you for proving your own point, by ASSUMING you know what I meant and put me in a category of people you don't like? Um, yeah.....thanks.

Quoting Anonymous:

 You're a prefect example of my post. Thank you for helping prove my point! IMO, you're pretty much saying, I see that you have made examples of things you have seen white people do to blacks, and that is acceptable, but seeing that you made a spelling error is not. So do you find it OK for schools to be segregated and the white schools make references to the black schools by bringing up horrific things their ancestors went through? Do you find that funny? I would imagine that is something you don't have the balls or heart to comment on, because it's much easier to knit pick unimportant things. Maybe you just don't have the knowledge, and in that case, it's time to educate yourself on the horrible things that happen ouside pretty little suburban towns.

Quoting SDarvasi:

So you fixed "rolls".......but now can you make the font bigger??


lol

 



 


 


momo3fgr8tteens
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2012 at 8:19 PM

I understood your part about the racism. I don't think you are actually sexist against women. That would mean you had negative feelings about them for their biological makeup. You are having issues with the whole gender role and how you see women's rights. Remember it is the right to choose, whichever you choose, whether it be career or taking care of the household full time. Even when I was a sahm my dh came home and helped with kids and house because it allowed us to have more quality time as a family that way. While there may be some women that act the way you describe, I have never come across those that do. I see that kind of behavior on CM but not in real life. Most of the women I know, work and make good incomes. They do not act that way, both partners just do the best they can for their families regardless of roles. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Took your advice, kinda. I'm not going to delete what I put about women because I think that would make me a coward. I wrote that, and people can put their opinions on that. I also included things that I have seen that have made me upset with being white, and some of the reason I am ashamed sometimes.

Quoting momo3fgr8tteens:

Maybe OP you should edit your original post and take out so much about women and their role's and explain more about the racism and things you saw growing up. That is not in the original post and from my experience making posts on here, people do not read through the thread. I would love to read about your experiences because I grew up in a completely different environment and am very naive to a lot of racism. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Why don't you use your space bar... yountalk?? What does that mean??? Did you make a typo??? Oh no! I'll bash you from here on out for it k?

Did you by chance read anything I wrote referring to the racism I saw? Do you find it acceptable? Do you think it's something I should ignore and be proud of seeing people of my race do? Explain this please.. I would love to take the attention off of grammar and put it on the subject. If you would like, I will go make a post with everything spelled wrong and you can go in and correct it if that is where your heart is content.

Quoting CadesMum:

She can say anything she wants about your grammar when yountalk about "rolls." Editing it isn't going to change the fact that until today, that is how you thought it should be written.


Quoting Anonymous:

 You are absoluely SICK to read what I just wrote and be able to say shit about my grammar. "SO what that it was allowed for teenagers to make references to hanging black people, she needs to use better grammar."


Perfect example of what I am trying to say.


Quoting Anonymous:


Grammar lessons are in need here. 


Quoting Anonymous:


 I said not ALL, I do NOT for a minute believe everyone is like this, but I do get completely angry by some of the things white people say and do in association to other races when they aren't around someone of that race. I do understand the irony of being against racism and being some what racist against my own race. I do undersand that it is odd, but I feel the way I feel.Growing up where I grew up it's no wonder I am this way. We were all actually notified in HS by our homeroom teachers that we would have an African-American young man joining our school... It was disturbing. We had plenty of new white kids and never got a notifications. Racism is still huge in our country. And it is very embarassing to me when white people do racist things, or act certain ways. I am embarassed by the whole "Redneck trailer trash" image. I am embarassed when I see a white man slam a door in a black ladies face. It infuriates me. Maybe I live in a different place than everyone else, so I see it a lot lot more, but where I live it's still segregated. When we played an all black team in football in HS the football players tied nooses to the back of their vehicles, how can I watch and grow up with stuff like this and not be sickened??? Everytime I defended a different race I was tortured for being a "N-lover" and if we ever got any mixed kids in the school, they would nickname them "Oreos" and torture them. It's sickening. Disturbing. And WRONG.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


Judging an entire race (or group) by the actions of a few is the same whether it is against your own race (group) or another. So, you are basically saying that you are just as bad as they are.


Quoting Anonymous:


 I love myself. I love my roll as a wife and a mother. I may not especially LIKE all white people or females, but I never, ever treat them different in person. I treat everyone how they treat me. I am 100% respectful until given a reason not to be. Yes, I have my own opinions about people I see and meet, and I have been treated very poorly by women mostly. I have just heard so much hatred spilt from white people it has made me dislike a lot of them. I was told as a child, for finding black men attractive that I "better have babies with blonde hair & blue eyes or shame will be brought into our family." I have heard my Grandmother tell my Aunt that she loved my Mom's children more because they resemble her race. It didn't make me racist against other races, it made me sick with how people in my family judged other races and people.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


That means you actually have hate for yourself.


 




 




 


 


 


ashleyrenee24
by 2ne1 on May. 5, 2012 at 8:23 PM

I absolutely HATED being a SHAM. Thank "god" I work.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on May. 5, 2012 at 8:26 PM

I am curious as to how old you are OP? I am trying to get a gauge on the time period you were referring to. Also what state was it. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 5, 2012 at 8:32 PM

 I believe in the right to choose. I believe that if a woman wants to work then she should. I just do not get the whole attitude about how they "do it all" and how they break down their husbands to feel like less of a man to make themselves feel like more of a woman. I see a lot of disrespect towards men from women. I am not saying that I have not ever disliked a man. I have disliked plenty, and been treated horribly by ex bfs. But if a woman goes off about her husband, it's applauded. If a man goes off about his wife, he is being a jerk.

I was a 911 dispatcher for a long time, and this may be where it stems from, I picked up 911 a few times and heard a woman telling the man how she had just called the cops and would be telling them that he hit her, angry as could be, then when she would hear my voice she would start a fake cry saying he hit her... It was sick... I had to pull out a few tapes of this to get the husband's/bf's out of trouble. I believe some women play the victim, and then throw jabs at men. It really takes away from the true victims who are abused and need true help. I can tell you know that 80% of the calls we went on for these things, were crap. I see women as being very manipulative of systems and of men, to get what they want. I don't think it makes us look good as women.

Quoting momo3fgr8tteens:

I understood your part about the racism. I don't think you are actually sexist against women. That would mean you had negative feelings about them for their biological makeup. You are having issues with the whole gender role and how you see women's rights. Remember it is the right to choose, whichever you choose, whether it be career or taking care of the household full time. Even when I was a sahm my dh came home and helped with kids and house because it allowed us to have more quality time as a family that way. While there may be some women that act the way you describe, I have never come across those that do. I see that kind of behavior on CM but not in real life. Most of the women I know, work and make good incomes do not act that way, both partners just do the best they can for their families regardless of roles. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Took your advice, kinda. I'm not going to delete what I put about women because I think that would make me a coward. I wrote that, and people can put their opinions on that. I also included things that I have seen that have made me upset with being white, and some of the reason I am ashamed sometimes.

Quoting momo3fgr8tteens:

Maybe OP you should edit your original post and take out so much about women and their role's and explain more about the racism and things you saw growing up. That is not in the original post and from my experience making posts on here, people do not read through the thread. I would love to read about your experiences because I grew up in a completely different environment and am very naive to a lot of racism. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Why don't you use your space bar... yountalk?? What does that mean??? Did you make a typo??? Oh no! I'll bash you from here on out for it k?

Did you by chance read anything I wrote referring to the racism I saw? Do you find it acceptable? Do you think it's something I should ignore and be proud of seeing people of my race do? Explain this please.. I would love to take the attention off of grammar and put it on the subject. If you would like, I will go make a post with everything spelled wrong and you can go in and correct it if that is where your heart is content.

Quoting CadesMum:

She can say anything she wants about your grammar when yountalk about "rolls." Editing it isn't going to change the fact that until today, that is how you thought it should be written.


Quoting Anonymous:

 You are absoluely SICK to read what I just wrote and be able to say shit about my grammar. "SO what that it was allowed for teenagers to make references to hanging black people, she needs to use better grammar."


Perfect example of what I am trying to say.


Quoting Anonymous:


Grammar lessons are in need here. 


Quoting Anonymous:


 I said not ALL, I do NOT for a minute believe everyone is like this, but I do get completely angry by some of the things white people say and do in association to other races when they aren't around someone of that race. I do understand the irony of being against racism and being some what racist against my own race. I do undersand that it is odd, but I feel the way I feel.Growing up where I grew up it's no wonder I am this way. We were all actually notified in HS by our homeroom teachers that we would have an African-American young man joining our school... It was disturbing. We had plenty of new white kids and never got a notifications. Racism is still huge in our country. And it is very embarassing to me when white people do racist things, or act certain ways. I am embarassed by the whole "Redneck trailer trash" image. I am embarassed when I see a white man slam a door in a black ladies face. It infuriates me. Maybe I live in a different place than everyone else, so I see it a lot lot more, but where I live it's still segregated. When we played an all black team in football in HS the football players tied nooses to the back of their vehicles, how can I watch and grow up with stuff like this and not be sickened??? Everytime I defended a different race I was tortured for being a "N-lover" and if we ever got any mixed kids in the school, they would nickname them "Oreos" and torture them. It's sickening. Disturbing. And WRONG.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


Judging an entire race (or group) by the actions of a few is the same whether it is against your own race (group) or another. So, you are basically saying that you are just as bad as they are.


Quoting Anonymous:


 I love myself. I love my roll as a wife and a mother. I may not especially LIKE all white people or females, but I never, ever treat them different in person. I treat everyone how they treat me. I am 100% respectful until given a reason not to be. Yes, I have my own opinions about people I see and meet, and I have been treated very poorly by women mostly. I have just heard so much hatred spilt from white people it has made me dislike a lot of them. I was told as a child, for finding black men attractive that I "better have babies with blonde hair & blue eyes or shame will be brought into our family." I have heard my Grandmother tell my Aunt that she loved my Mom's children more because they resemble her race. It didn't make me racist against other races, it made me sick with how people in my family judged other races and people.


Quoting TrouserMouse:


That means you actually have hate for yourself.


 




 


 


 


 

 

 

 

 

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