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porn problems *piog*

Anonymous
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*sigh* so like a month, maybe 6weeks ago df and i decided to
incorporate porn into our sex life, i was pretty nervous about
it (you may have seen my old post) but we both wound up
enjoying it.
he actually complained about the 'skeezer' in the film (it was
a turnoff for him) and for the past week or 2 he's been using his cell to record me going down on him instead. even first
thing in the morning, pimply and all lol.
the other day he tried showing me while i was going down
on him, he put it so we could both see what he recorded. to
me it was a total turn off bc well.. it was me! i just had a baby
3mos ago and im not too confident. i tried to just get off on the fact that HE was getting off to me but no go.. BUT that's
not the point of the post.
LAST night, he rented a porn off tv (thats always how we've
done it) and it was some babysitter threesome video. it didnt
bother me when i saw the title, threesomes are a fantasy
we've discussed and we both enjoy it as just that, nothing else. we've discussed doing them in real life butt he said he
wouldn't want to have sex w another woman, maybe get
head, but he would enjoy watching me w another woman. he
also brought up mmf threesomes and while its a hot fantasy
for both of us (both are actually) we agreed both of us are
just wayy too jealous lol. we agreed we have many years to explore that.
back to the point. within a minute or two of turning the movie
on, i realized it was supposed to be a couple, (with kids
obviously since there was a babysitter involved) and it was
basically just the 'husband' fucking the 'babysitter' while the
'wife' watched/ played w the babysitter. i wasn't expecting it, but i was such a turnoff!!! it made me
really really upset i just kind of faked it and pretended to
watch and when it was over i wanted to cry. i didn't expect
to react like that. it also made me start thinking about, how
we decided before to save porn for when we 'needed' it, and
after i had the baby viola, he needs porn to get off :( it just, idk, between that realization and the storyline/setup of the
movie, i just feel like ugly doggy doo now, and i feel like he
wants to hire some hot babysitter and fuck her :/ idk why this
effected me so bad and idk how to communicate w him bc
this could really hurt our sex life. help please :( i dont want to
make him feel nervous to pick a movie out or explore new things with me but this had such a negative effect on me, i
cant just ignore it :(
Posted by Anonymous on May. 6, 2012 at 10:00 AM
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GraceHudson
by on May. 6, 2012 at 10:01 AM
bump


Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 6, 2012 at 10:03 AM
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You need to talk to him about how you feel about the movie... If he doesn't know, he's going to think it's okay,

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 6, 2012 at 10:05 AM
That's hot.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 6, 2012 at 10:12 AM
While I am not happy with the way I look after kids, my hubby does. So I let him record different sexual acts so he can use them if he wants. But we don't watch porn to get turned on at all.
WrapNLoseInches
by on May. 6, 2012 at 10:15 AM
ive never incorporated porn into our lives. i know df looks at mags when hes offshore, and he occassionally brings them home and i will enjoy them alone. before he comes to bed to get in the mood. however, in your situation, you oth want porn, but cant decide what type of porn will work best, your just going to have to continue to explore until you both find one your comfortable with. if your both into mmf, then try one of those next time, or amature porn where the guys aret as endowed, or try lookig online for real peoples sex tapes....might help
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singlemom1208
by on May. 6, 2012 at 10:18 AM
This

Quoting WrapNLoseInches:

ive never incorporated porn into our lives. i know df looks at mags when hes offshore, and he occassionally brings them home and i will enjoy them alone. before he comes to bed to get in the mood. however, in your situation, you oth want porn, but cant decide what type of porn will work best, your just going to have to continue to explore until you both find one your comfortable with. if your both into mmf, then try one of those next time, or amature porn where the guys aret as endowed, or try lookig online for real peoples sex tapes....might help
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2012 at 11:30 AM
bump how do i talk to him about how i feel
SDarvasi
by Sarah Berri ♥ on May. 6, 2012 at 11:33 AM

Just straight up tell him "I am not into that movie at all. Nothing about it turned me on. I don't want to watch it anymore."

Quoting Anonymous:

bump how do i talk to him about how i feel


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on May. 6, 2012 at 11:35 AM
Dh likes porn, but I hate it. Hate hate hate it. I tried it for him and eventually it got to the point where he seemed to need it every time we had sex. So, I told him since I am doing something I hate for him, he will do something he hates for me.

For every "porn session" we have, he will watch Glee with me. No whinning or complaining. Bahahahahaha! He hasn't looked at porn in over a month :)
Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 6, 2012 at 11:37 AM

how do you talk to him about other things that bother you?  We can honestly only suggest, we can't tell you how to tell him or talk to him about the situation.

Maybe start with "Honey, I love how we incorporate Porn in our lives.... however, there is some things that have been really bothering me........"

Quoting Anonymous:

bump how do i talk to him about how i feel


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