Help us come to an agreement.

[Roxygurl]

I don't want a wedding. I just want to got to Vegas and elope.

My reasons:

I'm extremely shy and the thought of standing in front of people, even a small group of family terrifies me.

I have no contact with my mother and her husband and if they are not welcome at our wedding but I know it will cause a rift between my family. And no I will not budge on that, she physically abused me and allowed her husband to put a shot gun in my face and threaten to blow my brains out.

I don't want to spend a lot of money we don't really have.

He wants a real wedding, on the beach or in a church.

He won't give me reasons other than he doesn't want to go to Vegas and get married.

This will be his second marriage, my first and I know he had no control at all over his first wedding and it was really small and in a backyard.

So help us figure this out, we are so far apart I don't know how we can come to an agreement.

[Roxygurl]

Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

No and I dont spend the holidays with them.

They go over to my grandmothers and once they leave an aunt calls me and we go over there.

If I was to exclude her from our wedding my grandmother would shit a brick. She's bearly tolerating how things are now, that would push her over the edge.

[Anonymous]

Have a small wedding on the beach :)That still doesn't mean you have to invite your mom... maybe she can't afford to fly out there anyways? The flying and hotel costs will cut down the number of people who show up, and you could have a little wine before you get in front of a crowd... white wine in case you spill on your dress ;)

[Roxygurl]

Quoting Anonymous:

Have a small wedding on the beach :)That still doesn't mean you have to invite your mom... maybe she can't afford to fly out there anyways? The flying and hotel costs will cut down the number of people who show up, and you could have a little wine before you get in front of a crowd... white wine in case you spill on your dress ;)

Lol well we all live in the Houston area so it's just an hour drive to the beach...can't use that as an excuse unfortunately.

I could drink before hand, which might help.

I was in my best friends wedding and actually passed out due to the anxiety and I was just the maid of honor, I wasn't the bride.