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I think it's extremely rude to attend a child's bday party without a gift!

Posted by on May. 7, 2012 at 12:08 PM
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We threw a party for our son and one of the kids showed up without anything. Not even a homemade card. A week after the party the mom even made mention that they "owed" us a gift. That gift never came. The football camp they attend together is $500 so I doubt they couldn't spare a buck for a card and gum or something...

So rude!!! I would never show up without a gift.

***yes, I knew this post would cause controversy, I couldn't care less. Yes, I think you lack manners, etiquette, and social grace if you show up without a gift. How were you raised? I will know that somebody failed to teach you proper manners. Why is it so hard to fathom that bringing a gift to celebrate the birthday child is the norm? Did you attend parties as a child sans gift? If so, I can see where you get it from! I did not grow up that way, sorry. Is it so terribly difficult or time consuming to purchase a small gift? Make a hand drawn card? Pick a flower? ANYTHING? You are there to acknowledge and celebrate the birthday child so put a little effort into making him feel special for the day! I bet you expect to get fed at a party, right? Social norms...it's a 2-way street.****

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on May. 7, 2012 at 12:10 PM
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I didn't know gifts were mandatory maybe you should've put on the invite that your child was registered at target. Geez.
Chuckydoodle
by on May. 7, 2012 at 12:11 PM
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I personally wouldn't ever show up without a gift for a child, and I would have made an inquiry into what they like. However, I never think badly of the children that don't bring a gift to my childs party. The only times it really bugs me is when they bring a lot of family with them and basically mooch off the situation.

sophiesister2
by Gold Member on May. 7, 2012 at 12:12 PM
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Seriously? Uhm i agree with OP its rude af to show up without a gift


Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't know gifts were mandatory maybe you should've put on the invite that your child was registered at target. Geez.

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Tesserae
by Mrs.Mellark on May. 7, 2012 at 12:12 PM

Oh no, he wasn't registered.

Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't know gifts were mandatory maybe you should've put on the invite that your child was registered at target. Geez.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 7, 2012 at 12:12 PM
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Unless your child is a spoiled brat, he was probably just happy that his friend came to the party.

Lyssa0587
by Gold Member on May. 7, 2012 at 12:13 PM
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Sometimes maybe the family can't afford an extra gift but would like their child to experience a birthday party...as long as it doesnt become a routine for the same person..its ok every once in awhile.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 7, 2012 at 12:13 PM
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 I think it's rude to expect a gift.

Tesserae
by Mrs.Mellark on May. 7, 2012 at 12:13 PM
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oh we always have that too! They bring an extra aunt and siblings and cousins. lol. plus they don't even RSVP so we have to scramble for more food.

Quoting Chuckydoodle:

I personally wouldn't ever show up without a gift for a child, and I would have made an inquiry into what they like. However, I never think badly of the children that don't bring a gift to my childs party. The only times it really bugs me is when they bring a lot of family with them and basically mooch off the situation.


alliesaurus
by on May. 7, 2012 at 12:13 PM
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We usually request no gifts.

I think it's awkward, i dont like having my kids open gifts in front of people and "showing off" material things. Some people stlll bring gifts. We open them after people have left and write Thank You cards.

jandyrodax
by on May. 7, 2012 at 12:13 PM
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Gee! Did you put on the invitation that gifts were required in order to attend the party.

Birthday parties are meant to celebrate the birth of your child with family and friends. Big deal someone didn't bring a gift!

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