I think it's extremely rude to attend a child's bday party without a gift!
We threw a party for our son and one of the kids showed up without anything. Not even a homemade card. A week after the party the mom even made mention that they "owed" us a gift. That gift never came. The football camp they attend together is $500 so I doubt they couldn't spare a buck for a card and gum or something...
So rude!!! I would never show up without a gift.
***yes, I knew this post would cause controversy, I couldn't care less. Yes, I think you lack manners, etiquette, and social grace if you show up without a gift. How were you raised? I will know that somebody failed to teach you proper manners. Why is it so hard to fathom that bringing a gift to celebrate the birthday child is the norm? Did you attend parties as a child sans gift? If so, I can see where you get it from! I did not grow up that way, sorry. Is it so terribly difficult or time consuming to purchase a small gift? Make a hand drawn card? Pick a flower? ANYTHING? You are there to acknowledge and celebrate the birthday child so put a little effort into making him feel special for the day! I bet you expect to get fed at a party, right? Social norms...it's a 2-way street.****