I think being a SAHM in this situation is harder than a working mom IMO

[Anonymous]

I have done both so i am speaking from experience. Also before any of the trolls can talk out of their butts, we have never been on any P.A..  When I was a SAHM I never had a babysitter, ever, literally never and this went on for 3 years. I had to take a double stroller with hyper whining kids to the dentist, yes that was so fun trying to get shots in my gums while my kids are screaming, but I had to do what I had to do. Yet I am now a working mom as of the last 4 years and I think being a working mom (out of the home) is easier than being a SAHM with no breaks EVER. This does not include those who have help in that area, I have no comment on that as I have never had that so I don't know how that is. I only speak from my experience.  No SAHM vs WM bashing here, just my opinion from my own experience!

Edit:The comparison isn't just working moms to SAHM's it's working moms who work outside of the home to SAHM's who NEVER have a break. That's the key factor, as in never have a babysitter (example, 3 straight years as in my case!).

[mommy259]

I have done both and now I am a WAHM and to me that is even harder then the other two because I am literally doing everything at the same time trying to work while caring for a house and 3 kids. 1 who has alot of health issues and goes to doctors and specialist quite often

[gilbertgrl627]

lol, I agree with you. That's how it feels, for me, anyway. We don't live near family, so any "breaks" I get are few and far between. It's gotten a little better now that my DD is in school, and I've met some of the other parents (and have used their babysitting services-lol) but before that- ugh, it kinda sucked. And it REALLY sucked when DH would go out of town and I wouldn't even get a small break from the kids (like, when he'd come home from work). It's one of those things....you do what'cha gotta do.

I liked working because it meant a break from kids. lol. And even real breaks from everything. I could pee without someone in my face. I could sit down and eat. I didn't have to change diapers for 4hrs. lol. I'm sure things will get (slightly) easier as the kids get older (and out of diapers), and they're all in school, but right now, it's tough. lol. DD is 5; DS1 is 2.5; DS2 is 2 months. lol. I've got a few more years before they're all in school. Then the REAL chaos begins! LOL!

[gilbertgrl627]

I don't know if I could ever do that. lol. Honestly, I think WAHMs have it harder. Really. I've never done it, but I've done the other two. WAH, unless your kids are in school full time, has got to be tough.

Quoting mommy259:

I have done both and now I am a WAHM and to me that is even harder then the other two because I am litterally doing everything at the same time trying to work while caring for a house and 3 kids.

[Snapdragon88]

In that case, maybe.

I'm a SAHM and I have it so easy. I only have one child right now though, and one on the way. I'm sure it gets harder with each addition... but I'd still rather be a SAHM. I don't know how working moms do it.  

[doodasmomma]

 I agree with you. And it all depends on what the mother does. Some mothers have it harder than others, doesn't matter whose a SAHM and whose not.

[NonaScheib38]

I have nothing nice to say.

[momma_sam]

i agree. i am on disability so im a SAHM. but i worked for a handful of years after i graduated highschool. an actual job has its difficulties. but it seems like going to work gives you the chance to recooperate. most jobs get at least a lunch break and some give and extra 15 min. break or 2. even if you are at home sitting down you still need to know where your child is and what he/she is doing. its basically like being on call 24/7. i dont mind it. i love being a mom. just saying what ive noticed :)

[amber7_marie]

I work full-time. My son is in preschool and I miss everything. I can't get time off the last minute for school activities or anything. I was a SAHM mom for 2 and a half years. I'm so tired when I get home. I have to do everything I did when I stayed at home. Nothings changed. Now I've just added A 10 hr work day in my schedule. You tell me which is easier.

[mom2cheesebug]

I have done both as well, and I think being a working mom would be easier IF i had help at home. I work full time 3rd shift and still do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping,  doctors appts, dentist appts..... everyones situation is different and i would LOVE to go back to being a SAHM, but unfortunantly my SO, the father of my kids is disabled and unable to work. Oh im also preggo too, so i think thats a bit draining as well.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I know exactly how you feel, I was pregnant and working the night shift. So when I got home my 2 year old was waking up , it was tough but we had to have the extra $ for bills. That is a hard job, stay strong!

Quoting mom2cheesebug:

I have done both as well, and I think being a working mom would be easier IF i had help at home. I work full time 3rd shift and still do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping,  doctors appts, dentist appts..... everyones situation is different and i would LOVE to go back to being a SAHM, but unfortunantly my SO, the father of my kids is disabled and unable to work. Oh im also preggo too, so i think thats a bit draining as well.