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Porn ultimatum..... your thoughts?

Anonymous
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I caught porn on Dh's computer again. I have set an ultimatetum that if I see it again, I am gone. (this is the 5th time! and I have begged and begged him to stop) It is very hurtful to me, yes I have self esteem issues. BUT It would NOT bother me to the point of leaving if he actually had sex with me more than once every few weeks! 

But I watch it on occasion. ( like once every few weeks) not fair I know but I don't EVER get mine, no matter how much I beg/tease. I can literally blow him and he still wont want sex. So I say fine, wait for him to go to work and take care of myself anyways.

So I caught it on the computer again, when he had 5 minutes to himself! and I am telling him tonight either he is leaving or I am.

(this is not the only issue,he has little respect for my wishes/concers/wants while I bend over backwards to make him happy except for on this issue. We have watched porn together, no problem, it's the sneaky shit I hate. Tonight was just the dealbreaker for me) 

Thoughts?


Posted by Anonymous on May. 9, 2012 at 12:30 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:33 AM
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 would you rather him watch porn and fuck himself or go out and fuck someone else?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 9, 2012 at 12:37 AM
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For me it is the same thing because either way he chooses something else over me! 

At least with me I can masturbate and 1 minute later want sex again, he persistantly chooses masturbation and/or porn over sex and knows I have an issue with it but does it anyways.

Kind of like, if he doesnt fuck me should he worry that ill go out at fuck someone else? No.

Quoting Anonymous:

 would you rather him watch porn and fuck himself or go out and fuck someone else?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:40 AM
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You're ready, willing, and trying hard to get his attention. He still chooses unrealistic sexual scenarios and his hand over actual physical contact with you? Yeah I'd leave and find someone who appreciated me for my efforts.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:40 AM

 um not trying to be rude but, does he just not enjoy sex with you and thats why he wont? Try like learning a strip tease or something, i heard it work wonders

Quoting Anonymous:

For me it is the same thing because either way he chooses something else over me! 

At least with me I can masturbate and 1 minute later want sex again, he persistantly chooses masturbation and/or porn over sex and knows I have an issue with it but does it anyways.

Kind of like, if he doesnt fuck me should he worry that ill go out at fuck someone else? No.

Quoting Anonymous:

 would you rather him watch porn and fuck himself or go out and fuck someone else?


 

BJAponte77
by on May. 9, 2012 at 12:41 AM
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 You're looking for drama and a fight.  That's what I think.  We love porn here!  He's a grown ass man you're gonna leave him and hurt the kids because he watches porn when you do it.  That's lame.  It's your life but if you want my thoughts...lame.

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parentalrights1
by on May. 9, 2012 at 12:43 AM
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It's not because he watches porn people, it's because he obviously has a sexual libido but won't use it on her. He'd rather use it to jack off to porn.

I enjoy porn myself, but my husband and I give eacnother the attention too. We don't shut ourselves away to watch porn and then turn eachother away

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 9, 2012 at 12:44 AM

It's not lame to me. It's something I don't agree with "right now" and he goes behind my back and does it anyways knowing this is the straw on the camels back and that he WILL lose his family

(this is not the only thing he does without regard to his family (like skipping work for a week after DD was born and my other DD was sick just to play videogames and lying about it), it's just my personal breaking point)

Quoting BJAponte77:

 You're looking for drama and a fight.  That's what I think.  We love porn here!  He's a grown ass man you're gonna leave him and hurt the kids because he watches porn when you do it.  That's lame.  It's your life but if you want my thoughts...lame.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 9, 2012 at 12:45 AM

Tried that.Several times, actually.

Tried everything. Seriously, make a list and I'll try to find something I haven't attempted :(

Quoting Anonymous:

 um not trying to be rude but, does he just not enjoy sex with you and thats why he wont? Try like learning a strip tease or something, i heard it work wonders

Quoting Anonymous:

For me it is the same thing because either way he chooses something else over me! 

At least with me I can masturbate and 1 minute later want sex again, he persistantly chooses masturbation and/or porn over sex and knows I have an issue with it but does it anyways.

Kind of like, if he doesnt fuck me should he worry that ill go out at fuck someone else? No.

Quoting Anonymous:

 would you rather him watch porn and fuck himself or go out and fuck someone else?


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 9, 2012 at 12:46 AM

Exactly! We used to watch porn together and seperately with no issues until he started to turn me away :/

Quoting parentalrights1:

It's not because he watches porn people, it's because he obviously has a sexual libido but won't use it on her. He'd rather use it to jack off to porn.

I enjoy porn myself, but my husband and I give eacnother the attention too. We don't shut ourselves away to watch porn and then turn eachother away


BJAponte77
by on May. 9, 2012 at 12:48 AM

 YOU watch porn too!  Doesn't matter the reason you do it.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's not lame to me. It's something I don't agree with "right now" and he goes behind my back and does it anyways knowing this is the straw on the camels back and that he WILL lose his family

(this is not the only thing he does without regard to his family (like skipping work for a week after DD was born and my other DD was sick just to play videogames and lying about it), it's just my personal breaking point)

Quoting BJAponte77:

 You're looking for drama and a fight.  That's what I think.  We love porn here!  He's a grown ass man you're gonna leave him and hurt the kids because he watches porn when you do it.  That's lame.  It's your life but if you want my thoughts...lame.


 

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