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Homeless with Kids!!!! What would of you do?

Anonymous
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Today as I did my weekly jaunt into the city I came across a family. This family was well put together. Dad works 4am to 6pm, mom works nights from 10pm to 12am, they have a SUV, 2 kids 11 and 13 and THEY ARE HOMELESS!!!!

They city has closed the shelters for the warm months. What happen is dad owes back child support and sadly the husband pays 60% of his income to child support 30% for normal support and 30% for back child support. Wife got sick and lost her full time job but has her part time job. They were evicted from their apartment because they couldn't pay rent. Husband was driving over an hour to and from work an with gas prices the way they are one thing after another they are now homeless. Reason for her husband having back support is he lost his job and couldn't find another one for 22 months.

It really struck a cord with me on how her husband is paying support like my husband made me think how we could be in their shoes if one thing went wrong. My husband was unemployed for 18 months and now has to pay 60% of his income till the back support is paid up. Thankfully were half way to getting caught up.

While I was chatting with the mom she said every day they fear some one is going to call CPS on them. Their kids are 11 and 13 in middle school and the school works with them to make sure the kids are showered every other day and get a free lunch. I assured the mother that she and her husband are doing the best they can and wished her luck. I gave her the last of my money in my pocket, gave her all the water I pass out to the homeless and gave her extra sandwiches.

So ladies if you all ended up like this family what would you do. An yes, once a week I take a case of water and sandwitches to the city for the homeless its my way of paying it forward so if the day our family would fall I'd hope some one would be kind to us.

How would you all handle being homeless with kids? Should kids be taken for familys that fall on hard times? Should these parents be able to get help?

Posted by Anonymous on May. 9, 2012 at 12:32 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:35 AM
I was, my kids and I bounced from my friend's place and a motel from October 2009 till March 2010. All of my youngest's therapists were awesome about it all.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:38 AM
I was but I gave my kids to my (now) ex inlaws so that way the kids were stable and OK.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:39 AM

 wow thats really awesome of you to do! Way to go! I honestly dont know how i would handle it. I would try to stay strong, do th best i could.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 9, 2012 at 12:39 AM

That is wonderful that the therapists were awesome about it. An glad you aren't homeless anymore.

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I was, my kids and I bounced from my friend's place and a motel from October 2009 till March 2010. All of my youngest's therapists were awesome about it all.


happymotherof6
by on May. 9, 2012 at 12:41 AM
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oh my gosh, if I was inn that situation I would apply for emergency housing and welfare and food stamps until my husband and I got back on our feets.

it sounds like this mom will not get the help she needs because of fear of getting her kids taken away but that is not the case.

help is out there she just needs to seek it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 9, 2012 at 12:43 AM

I am hoping to start a movement and get other involved in passing out simple things like water, sandwiches and maybe blankets in the cooler months. In my small town alone at the vista view there are trucks parked with homeless in them. With how the economy is going I think its only going to get worse.

Quoting Anonymous:

 wow thats really awesome of you to do! Way to go! I honestly dont know how i would handle it. I would try to stay strong, do th best i could.


Master_Debater
by on May. 9, 2012 at 12:43 AM
I would do whatever I could to get back on my feet.
No they should be taken.
Yes they should receive help.

I've been homeless with a kid before and we crawled out of it slowly. OP you rock.
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by Anonymous 5 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:43 AM
That's so sad. And such a reality for many families. For us, it wouldn't happen. Not that we couldn't lose everything, just that we have plenty of family that would take us in until we could get on our feet. I feel really sad for those that don't have that option. I think what you do is great.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on May. 9, 2012 at 12:43 AM

i was for a month when we moved to CA.  thankfully this sity has a family homeless shelter.  we came expecting a job and help from family, got neither, and were in the shelter.  i can't belive that the city doesn't have a family one, or even that it closes its doors EVER.  thats just so wrong

JLo1486
by Gold Member on May. 9, 2012 at 12:44 AM
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They shouldn't be taken if they have found a way for it to work for them and they are fed and safe. It's not ideal at all, but if they have exhausted all options and still make it work somehow, why take kids away from the last thing they have?
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