I know you fell in love and shit, with you heart. But guess what? You use your head when you complain about the child support.
Its not about the babys mama, and how she's a bitch. Its about him having to pay for another family, as long as his children are young enough to receive support. If you are fine with that marry him.
People live in a fantasy world. His child support, and his children WILL effect you. You guys might not be doing well forever, and in those hard times he will STILL be paying for another family.
What's wrong with making that a deal breaker? What's wrong with not wanting to mother another womans children, financially or physically??
So the people whose tax returns and extra checks go to BM grow up, take a chill pill, or choke on it.