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[Anonymous]

My confession: I think too many women cry wolf when it comes to domestic abuse. So many women on here claim their husbands abuse them by being controlling/mean/etc then try to tell their husbands what to do, call him names, hit/slap him, tear him down, and then cry wolf when he retaliates. There are women being seriously abused everyday and people don't take them seriously because of all the overly dramatic women who claim abuse that isn't there. Everytime I hear another woman complaining about her "abusive, controlling husband" I wonder if they are really being abused or just being dramatic for sympathy. Sometimes abuse is very black and white and sometimes it isn't so clear. From what I've read women post, many of you would be considered controlling and abusive by your own definitions. Stop with the double standards. Crying wolf makes t harder for real abuse victims. If you hit your man and he hits you back he isn't being abusive (in most cases). There's always exceptions but most things can be twisted into what you want it to be. So many women on here jump to the divorce route over the dumbest shit on here. No wonder so many of you are divorced! According to you Most men are terrible abusive men. How hypocritical!!! I know real abuse victims and it's horribly offensive when women claim abuse just to get out of a marriage. I don't really care if I offend people with this. I read enough on this site to make me sick. I care about my marriage, I forgive my husband when he makes mistakes, and I have no intention on divorcing him if he doesn't help me around the house or wants to play a fucking video game or look at porn!! I probably won't reply o this because I'll actually be taking care of my children instead of playing on here all day.

[Anonymous]

Saying things like that are why a lot of women don't report what's going on or tell anyone.  They think to themselves "he just shoves me, or says mean awful things...everyday.  He's not controlling by telling me I can't do anything without asking permission, he's just being protective.  Yeah he grabs me too hard, but he just doesn't know his own strength".  She'll sit there and try to rationalize and minimize everything because people like you try to draw a line.  Why try to get help or talk to someone if it hasn't crossed that line?  A lot of those women end up severely traumatized or dead, because they were ashamed to say anything because of what other people would say/think.  It doesn't just take broken bones and black eyes to be abused.  Who are you to judge someone and say they cry wolf, anyone who says they are being abused needs to be listened to.  Someone shouldn't have to sit there and ask themselves things like "he put a gun to my head, but didn't pull the trigger, would this be considered abuse?"  You should never belittle someone's situation, you don't know what fully goes on, because let's face it, victims hardly ever give all the details.  And with an attitude like this, what's the point really?

[gemikris82]

OP you are the reason why women are scared to report it

[TattoodMommy19]

Exactly this. My ex husband was emotionally abusive. He called me crazy, a stupid bitch, a retard, always saying I'm nasty, and then he was controlling
He had alarms installed so I couldn't leave cause he thought he was gonna kick me out and keep my baby. I had a friend of mine in the police acadamy come over unannounced in uniform with another officer. They helped me get all my possessions and had his dad waiting with a u haul truck.
An ex years ago was physically abusive. He broke my jaw once when my oldest daughter was 1. She was sleeping in our bed when he did that.
To be honest, I'd prefer to get hit than to be systematically broken with insults and hurtful shit.

Quoting illegallyblonde:

Physical abuse and emotional abuse are 2 kinds of domestic violence. There are many women who are emotionally abused all day long. Many of these women would probably rather be hit than endure constant emotional abuse.



Domestic violence is very prevalent. Don't be too quick to judge.

[mkuebler]

You are right, a lot of women are damn liars or pity-partiers.  The OP said nothing about any one particular person, so chill the fuck out.  If the shoe doesn't fit, don't try to force it on.

[laranadtony]

Quoting mkuebler:

You are right, a lot of women are damn liars or pity-partiers.  The OP said nothing about any one particular person, so chill the fuck out.  If the shoe doesn't fit, don't try to force it on.

The problem is,if you have daughters ,by the time they are married,it will be like rape.

They(your daughters) will be the criminal until they are proven innocent should they get into a domestic violence situation.

[mkuebler]

I've never seen any such case.  I've seen many cases in which a woman started a physical altercation with her DH/SO and were stunned and amazed that they didn't win.  Waaaahhh!  He abused me because he didn't let me win!!!

Quoting laranadtony:

The problem is,if you have daughters ,by the time they are married,it will be like rape.

They(your daughters) will be the criminal until they are proven innocent should they get into a domestic violence situation.

[Renee47]

You seema little defensive?

[TugBoatMama]

Abuse doesn't always leave scars that the eye can see.

[10yrsapart9505]

for me - broken bones heal a hell of a lot faster than emotional ones

Quoting illegallyblonde:

Physical abuse and emotional abuse are 2 kinds of domestic violence. There are many women who are emotionally abused all day long. Many of these women would probably rather be hit than endure constant emotional abuse.

Domestic violence is very prevalent. Don't be too quick to judge.

 

[Anonymous]

It appears that you are not understanding what the OP is saying. YOU and people in your exact situation are the one's she is defending. She is saying that people who make false accusations are the one's that are taking away from the severity of your situation...BTW, I hope you got justice.

Quoting Anonymous:

So I am crying wolf about the night my ex BF fractured my skull, fractured my neck, broke my back, broke my nose, fractured my jaw,made me miscarry our baby and left me for dead? His reason for beating me?, I had gone to a rock concert without asking his permission.