This past saturday I found out that a few months ago he confided our problems in a girl at work (the girls whose house he goes to on sundays) and they kissed AT WORK. He didnt tell me about it until I read his text messages and found a ton of dirty messages that he sent to her. He did appoligize and say that they both instantly agreed that is was a mistake. He even cried when he was telling me and we both cried for the next 48 hours.
I am feeling angry, upset, betrayed, furious, frustrated and a little guilty (because we were having problems at the time). I really do love him and I do have 2 young children with him. I really want to make this work but I have never been so hurt in my entire life. How do I get over this? I desperately need some advice. Thank you!
Quoting kiralyn:"Fiance of 11 years..."
Leave. 11 YEARS? Why do you think he hasn't married you yet?
most people are going to say leave. I think everyone makes at least one big mistake. he never slept with her so i think this is something you guys can work on. but why havent you gotten married yet ?
EDIT : i forgot you said he goes to another females hopuse every sunday. uhm yeaaa that sounds fishy.... id be making rules.
You feel a little guilty? So you think that is is someway your fault for him confiding in this other woman and kissing her?
Quoting Elle.tea.22:Quoting Anonymous:Yeah he admitted to kissing her at work... but he failed to tell you he was really fucking her every sunday while watching "HBO" at her house!!
Do yourself a favor and move on from that loser!
Isn't true blood on Sundays (when it's on)? That's a show to fuck to :-/
LMFAO... I have no idea, I never watched it.. but I can think of some shows on Show Time that are on Sundays... Show Time is like the "soft porn" channel IMO
He doesn't want you. If the 11 years weren't a big enough hint, maybe this will be.
you can start by not taking the situation to heart. Hes still your fiance and youre not his wife for a reason. He is still legally considered single although you are in a relationship which still gives him the lead way to do things like what you described because the doorway for other options is still wide open, take it with a grain of salt and eventually gain a marriage or let him go? 11 years what are you waiting for
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Elle.tea.22:Quoting Anonymous:Yeah he admitted to kissing her at work... but he failed to tell you he was really fucking her every sunday while watching "HBO" at her house!!
Do yourself a favor and move on from that loser!
Isn't true blood on Sundays (when it's on)? That's a show to fuck to :-/LMFAO... I have no idea, I never watched it.. but I can think of some shows on Show Time that are on Sundays... Show Time is like the "soft porn" channel IMO
how do we know he hasn't slept with her? I 'd say yes it's a one time mistake, and to let it slide... BUT this is the same girl he is alone with at her house every single Sunday to watch "HBO"... think about it.. they "kissed" once... they probably fucked since then or before then.
Quoting mama2ameira:most people are going to say leave. I think everyone makes at least one big mistake. he never slept with her so i think this is something you guys can work on. but why havent you gotten married yet ?
EDIT : i forgot you said he goes to another females hopuse every sunday. uhm yeaaa that sounds fishy.... id be making rules.
leaving baby alone while i do laundry?
- TroubledInPA
on May. 9, 2012 at 12:46 PM