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yes its another post about porn and not wanting a man to watch it

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When a woman says she doesn't want her man watching porn for whatever reason and she says that if he does its a deal breaker or a woman leaving her husband over watching porn, why do you women keep making excuses for the man? If your man did something that disrespected you as a person and your moral values over and over again then why in the world would you stay with him? If you feel like your man looking at porn is cheating he SHOULD respect you enough to care about how you feel, instead of thinking with his dick! We are given brains for a reason, was humans are fully capable of controlling urges and sexual release is not a necessity! Yes it feels good and can be fun but its not a need. Everyone makes compromises in their relationships. If a man cannot respect the way you feel and not want to hurt you he is not worth your time or love!
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by on May. 9, 2012 at 1:14 PM
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AnnieMcD
by Platinum Member on May. 11, 2012 at 4:34 AM

I think to me that the main difference is between the woman dictating what he can and cannot do, and between a couple coming to a compromise. It's one thing if a couple gets together and she says "porn makes me uncomfortable" and he then promises not to watch it. If he does after that, then he's breaking his word, that he made through compromise with the person he loves. 

However, if a woman looks at a man she knows watches and enjoys porn and says "Porn makes me uncomfortable and you can't watch it" and he says "no, I'm an adult and I'll watch it if I like" or if she pressures him into making a promise he doesn't mean, then she has no room to get upset if she "catches" him watching it. 

tazz67mom
by on May. 11, 2012 at 10:06 AM

I guess it would depend on a few things:  Did he agree to this? Did she know about his porn watching before they married? Did she at anytime watch with him?  I am not a huge porn fan, but I would rather him watch porn while deployed that find another way to get off. That is just me tho.

erika9009
by Bronze Member on May. 11, 2012 at 11:54 AM

OK, so he agreed not to watch?  Maybe I missed that.  Or is it one of those things we THINK they should know?

Steve and I have run into this problem between us many times.  I think the right or common sense action is one thing, he thinks it's totally different. 

Understanding without disscussion is just assumption.  We all know what assume means.  It makes and ASS out of U and ME.

Quoting kmorales7690:

Its the disrespect issue, not the porn

Quoting erika9009:

Leaving over just porn is a bit superficial.


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kmorales7690
by Ruby Member on May. 11, 2012 at 4:38 PM
Yes that would be the key, if he knew and had said that he wouldn't and went being your back!!

Quoting erika9009:

OK, so he agreed not to watch?  Maybe I missed that.  Or is it one of those things we THINK they should know?

Steve and I have run into this problem between us many times.  I think the right or common sense action is one thing, he thinks it's totally different. 

Understanding without disscussion is just assumption.  We all know what assume means.  It makes and ASS out of U and ME.


Quoting kmorales7690:

Its the disrespect issue, not the porn



Quoting erika9009:

Leaving over just porn is a bit superficial.


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littlepinkrose
by Silver Member on May. 12, 2012 at 2:30 AM

I agree I on the other hand knew my husband had a problem that is why we said no porn both of us agreed on that.  And then he does have slip ups we do talk about and why he does it his triggers and what we can do better so it does not keep happening.  And yes I respect my husband and do my best to support him and take care of the house like he wants.

Shesus
by on May. 31, 2012 at 9:04 PM

My belief.


Quote:

Your eyes should be as loyal as your heart. ~ Shawna Carpenter- AKA- Me.


I sacrifice for my significant other all the time, why shouldn't he, that's the only thing I don't like...and if your in a relationship what is the need for it anyhow? Nothing but a selfish sin. in my opinion. But still each to there own. But I feel if my man is looking at that its cause hes not satisfied with your body sexual that he still needs to look at other women to get turned on. Or possibly that he needs more...idk i just feel that its not necessary to look at other human beings when the woman you love don't go around showing her body to others. I don't watch porn, and I don't need too. Its disrespectful in my opinion, too watch it and for the women to not care about their body's to just display them for cash. I'm beautiful inside and out, I'm not jealous. I just find this act immoral. But if your single i guess who cares...Just not my cup of tea.


Shesus
by on May. 31, 2012 at 9:05 PM

BUMP!

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