My 14 YO daughter stole my vibrator

[Anonymous]

I have a vibrator. I am not ashamed of this. But I keep it hidden in a old shoebox waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay in the back of my closet under a pile of shoes boxes and clothes. My husband and I were getting ready to have sex and he likes to watch me use it. I go back there to get it and it's gone. I play it off by telling Hubby I don't want to use it tonight. I wanna go "solo". Anyway.... DD goes to school and I search her room. I find the vibrator under her mattress with two of my other toys that were hidden under my bed in a taped up box.

What in the holy hell am I supposed to do? Do I confront her about it or save the embarrassment by throwing the vibrators away?

[SaraSnider]

No she is not TO YOUNG. Would u rather her be having sex with a guy?

Quoting Anonymous:

I will not buy my daughter a vibrator! She is too young to be having sex or feeling any type of pleasure down there

Quoting Angela_Barlow:

Dude. Gross.

Buy her one for herself:)

[wulfeyes05]

I agree with you not buying her one of her own, but she probably was already masturbating before that. Most girls her age are probably already having sex. I would talk to her about it, buy yourself some new toys and lock them up and carry the key around with you. She's at that age where she's going to want to explore her body. Don't make her ashamed of herself, just explain that taking something like that of yours is not ok.

Quoting Anonymous:

I will not buy my daughter a vibrator! She is too young to be having sex or feeling any type of pleasure down there

Quoting Angela_Barlow:

Dude. Gross.
Buy her one for herself:)

[Anonymous]

My mom found something like this with me and totally humiliated me and even told my grandma. :/ throw those out and then later on have a talk with her about not using other women's toys and why.

[Anonymous]

would you rather her have sex ? this way if u buy her one she will know that you care enough to support her and teach her about it

[Anonymous]

Then she can work and pay for her own! After she does enough chores to replace the stolen ones, she can keep doing chores to pay for her own. I get the "teach her safe sex practices" and all that bullshit. But I think at this point the brat needs to get a lesson on stealing someone elses super personal property

Quoting mommyrustina:

The point isnt to reward her, it is to help her to adopt safe and sanitary practices. I would ,uch rather buy my daughter a silver bullet and some toy cleaner than have her doing some crazy shiznit with a vibrating toothbrush.



Not all issues are black and white,and this qualifies as one of those grey areas. So yes, punish her for stealing, but then use the opportunity to educate her about safe and sanitary practices and buy her a toy of her own so you do not shiver in disgust whenever you look at her toothbrush.

Quoting Anonymous:

Buy her one? What the fucking fuck is wrong with some of you? Confront her. What she did is called stealing, and its wrong. Not to mention, gross! If she were my child she would be grounded and would have to make chores to pay for those toys that will need to be replaced.



Buy her one, wtf?! As if there weren't enough self centered assholes in this world that think they deserve everything. Steal something so personal from mom and get a reawrd. Awesome parenting some of you are doing.

[laranadtony]

Quoting randi1978:

But you're failing to understand that it is NOT inappropriate for that age.

Quoting kmorales7690:

Not wrong, inappropriate for that age,

Quoting Anonymous:

Simply....because of shame you will be imposing on them.

Telling them that something normal, natural and healthy is wrong. Shame Shame Shame.

You will not be able to stop your kids from masturbating.  I could not imagine telling my kids that they aren't allowed to masturbate.  It just sounds so ridiculous.  THAT is what is inappropriate!

Quoting kmorales7690

She is in for a big surprise in a few years if she thinks that is too young to have sexual thoughts...LMAO!I would invest in heart pills now...

[ButterflyGenie]

Good luck with that. And good luck making your children ashamed of their bodies, sexuality, and eventually sex itself.

Quoting kmorales7690:

At this house, it is.

Quoting randi1978:

But you're failing to understand that it is NOT inappropriate for that age.

Quoting kmorales7690:

Not wrong, inappropriate for that age,

Quoting Anonymous:

Simply....because of shame you will be imposing on them.

Telling them that something normal, natural and healthy is wrong. Shame Shame Shame.

You will not be able to stop your kids from masturbating.  I could not imagine telling my kids that they aren't allowed to masturbate.  It just sounds so ridiculous.  THAT is what is inappropriate!

Quoting kmorales7690

[tifbrown]

I would confront her. The feelings are normal, but stealing is not, especially someones vibrator. Yes, I'm sure you clean it, but would you really use someone else's vibrator? I sure as hell wouldn't. Have an open, healthy talk about sex. It might be awkward, but it could be a good way to get closer to her. I would have the talk. 

[kmorales7690]

I'm not, I'm teaching my child that its not appropriate at such a young age.

Quoting ButterflyGenie:

Good luck with that. And good luck making your children ashamed of their bodies, sexuality, and eventually sex itself.

Quoting kmorales7690:

At this house, it is.

Quoting randi1978:

But you're failing to understand that it is NOT inappropriate for that age.

Quoting kmorales7690:

Not wrong, inappropriate for that age,

Quoting Anonymous:

Simply....because of shame you will be imposing on them.

Telling them that something normal, natural and healthy is wrong. Shame Shame Shame.

You will not be able to stop your kids from masturbating.  I could not imagine telling my kids that they aren't allowed to masturbate.  It just sounds so ridiculous.  THAT is what is inappropriate!

Quoting kmorales7690

[atlshine]

Who the hell buys a 14 yr old a vibrator?! Whoever suggested that needs to have their heads examined and parenting license taken away.