I don't think that gay people should be allowed to marry their partner. 5th Update.
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I'm posting anon because a lot of people are going to be mad at me but I truly don't think that gay marriage should be legal. I don't tell people this because most people I know support gay marriage. I'm not going to get all religious on you. I don't have a problem with gay people (ok, honestly it's weird to me but I don't hate anyone because of it). I can't really tell you why I feel this way. I do think that if gay marriage is legalized that there will be unforeseen repercussions decades in the future but I'm not here to argue that. I'm making this post because I want to get this out. I'm not going to write congress to tell them to not vote to allow it (if that would even do anything), I'm not going to protest, I'm not even going to tell anyone other than my husband this. He supports gay marriage and even though I can't say why I don't, he says that I still have the right to feel the way I do. I hate when people say that there should be equal rights for all. Technically there are. You can't marry a woman and neither can I. I can marry a man and so can you. That's equal in my book. I seriously hope that this can stay civil. If you support gay marriage please tell me why in a nice way. It might convince me to change my mind. If you go negative with this it will probably only make me feel better about my opinion.
Update: I tried to explain my way of thinking nicely and was hoping to discuss this with people without them being rude. Therefore if you are rude I will not respond. I also need to get off the computer so I will continue to respond to the nice posts later today.
2nd Update: Some people have mentioned health insurance and medical rights etc and people fail to realise that marriage doesn't necessarily eliminate all of those concerns. First of all, some companies actually do cover your partner (same sex or not) even if you are not married. And maybe we should work to make health insurance better for all rather than saying that we have to allow gay marriage so that health insurance will be better for some. Secondly, I feel that everyone, married or not, gay or not should have a living will, medical power of attorney, and a will. Do you guys remember the case where the wife was in a coma and the husband wanted to stop life support but her parents didn't so they sued? He eventually won but that took a while and that was prolonged because of the law suit.
And if I didn't want my family to have a say in my medical care then I could appoint a friend to have the say. That's what the legal documents do. That's for everyone, gay or not, straight or not.
3rd Update: So a lot of people are saying that if consenting adults love each other and want to get married then who am I to say that they can't that they deserve to be able to be married just like I can be married if I want. So do you all support polygamy? Consenting adults, just because you don't think it's right doesn't mean that you should say they can't do it. What happens in their bedroom is non of my business etc. All of those things that you're saying to allow gay marriage could be said about polygamy. So, do you support polygamy? And if not why? Who are you to deny them their rights?
4th Update: I never once said that allowing gay marriage would lead to people marrying pets or farm animals. Someone else said that and I ignored the comment.
5th Update on unforeseen repercussions (copy pasted from a response I did on page 30): I think that people are just going to give me crap for the few that I can think of now which is why I've avoided the question. Basically if you look back 20, 30 or 50 years there are people who were gay but still married into a heterosexual marriage and had kids. Since then those kids have had kids. Imagine how different things could be now had gay marriage been legal or accepted. People have given me crap because I said (something like) someone who could cure aids or cancer could possibly not be born. That's probably the best way I could think to say it but that's one. This next one is going to get me even more crap because people don't know how to hear someones opinion and leave it at that, they have to bash people for their opinions but... You never know what is going to happen in 50+ years. I bet 50 years ago they didn't even think of two women wanting to get married. What if in 50 years we've discovered life on another planet. Are we going to vote to ok earthlings marring aliens? (And yes I know that seems very crazy, I don't believe that in particular is going to happen but you never know what other situation could arise). That being said, I don't believe that gay marriage will lead to people marrying goats or pillows, just saying that you never know what is next. And if you think that people should be able to marry the person they love what about the persons that they love? Are we going to make polygamy legal? If we don't then we're denying them the same rights that you're fighting for. How is that fair?
Those are just a few that I could think of. And I really hope that people don't bash me for that, it is my opinion.
I think you have a right to your opinion just like everyone else and don't think it is right that you have to post anon because you are afraid people will hate you.
I do believe gay people should be aloud to marry, just like polygamy should be legal. If all involved are ok with it who am I to tell them they can't do it? Just because it isn't right for me doesn't mean it isn't right for others. Just like I wouldn't have an abortion but I would never tell anyone they can't have one.
California's was overturned the same year it prop 8 was passed.
Quoting samara_love33:
What really how can they overturn Cali that's one of the states with a high number of homosexuals
Quoting MrsJHoward:
Um, it's not legal in Cali. Unfortunately it was overturned. It's legal in New York, I think...
Quoting samara_love33:
He can just go to DC or Cali and get legally married you know
Quoting Ber-Lynn:Quoting Anonymous:
Of course I would, I was just using him and his partner as an example. I love both of them and I feel they should have every right to be able to have what I am going to have when I marry my df. I see so much love between them and it really hurts my heart that people can't just legalize gay marriage. There is nothing wrong with it what so ever, why can't they have the same rights as a straight couple?
Yes, it is stated earlier in the post. People might want to marry their goats is what it says.
Quoting Aeonix:Quoting Anonymous:
She seriously used that excuse? Wow. Pets/animals are not humans. I'm pretty sure we can all draw the line at only marrying other humans.
I take care of dh/ ds- she cleans and does the budget and writes bills.... But doesn't TOUCH dh- I'd be for it hahahaha
:)
Quoting Anonymous:
Lol, my husband is always teasing me about getting another wife.
I agree though neither issue effects me so I don't care....
Quoting xomrs.chase:
"So, do you support polygamy?"
Sure, why not? It doesn't change my marriage. Would I support it if dh wanted it? Hell-to-the-NO! But if others do it that's their business
Quoting mitchiesgirl:
Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York, Vermont, Washington D.C, and Iowa
California's was overturned the same year it prop 8 was passed.
Quoting samara_love33:
What really how can they overturn Cali that's one of the states with a high number of homosexuals
Quoting MrsJHoward:
Um, it's not legal in Cali. Unfortunately it was overturned. It's legal in New York, I think...
Quoting samara_love33:
He can just go to DC or Cali and get legally married you know
Quoting Ber-Lynn:Quoting Anonymous:
Of course I would, I was just using him and his partner as an example. I love both of them and I feel they should have every right to be able to have what I am going to have when I marry my df. I see so much love between them and it really hurts my heart that people can't just legalize gay marriage. There is nothing wrong with it what so ever, why can't they have the same rights as a straight couple?
Quoting Red227:
Exactly. I even have this issue in my hetero marriage. Apparently WI won't recognize my marriage because of their ridiculous outdated laws regarding remarrying. The only difference is, if I ever was in a position where I needed it legally recognized in that state, an amendment was made for exceptions to circumstances just like mine. A gay couple married in one state where it's legal does not have that 'luxury'.
Quoting BabyBrooke13:im a born and raised marylander too samara . . . my point was you didn't HAVE to go to a different state where friends/family may or may not have been able to attend, you had that choice . . . my bestie and his partner are now planning a wedding and holding their breath that the MD gay marriage bill stays in place and will be finally getting married next April after 25 years together . . .
I believe everyone deserves to be happy, everyone deserves the same rights . . . marriage in this country, in the legal sense, can be explained as simply as a legally binding contract attaching one consenting adult to another . . . why can't a gay couple who already lives together, pays bills together, raises children together, pay their taxes, contribute to the community and are otherwise prime examples of the way a US citizen should be, be denied the right to legally marry and have the benefits associated with said marriage ? ? ?
Quoting samara_love33:
Me and my DH are actually born and raised inMD but we had our families come see us get married in NC and we will renew our vows next year again in NC...your god brother has the right in some states so if he wants to be married now he can travel to those places probably even GA or he can try and wait it out until his state passes the law which could be awhile depending on the state and if he waits than there grows more opportunity for him to fall out of love with his mate or to start falling in love with someone new by than
Quoting BabyBrooke13:
when you got married did you HAVE to travel to a different state to get married and maybe not all of your friends/family would have been able to attend ? ? ? no you were able to get married where ever you wanted
Quoting samara_love33:
He can just go to DC or Cali and get legally married you know
Quoting Ber-Lynn:
Quoting Anonymous:
Of course I would, I was just using him and his partner as an example. I love both of them and I feel they should have every right to be able to have what I am going to have when I marry my df. I see so much love between them and it really hurts my heart that people can't just legalize gay marriage. There is nothing wrong with it what so ever, why can't they have the same rights as a straight couple?
But had gay marriage been acceptable and/or legal back then you could have never been born. Had she not had sex with your grandfather creating your mother or father you wouldn't be here.
Quoting Anonymous:
My reasona are deeply personal. My grandmother was a lesbian,her and her partner were together before I was born. They were my grammy and abby. Two of the most loving, loyal, compassionate people ive ever
known. I watched their struggles growing up. most gays 10 years ago risked losing family, friends, jobs as well as community and social standings if they were 'out' or openly gay. Even I grew up beliving they were sisters until they felt I was old enough to understand. If they were alive today, I would hope they would be living openly, happily, and with all the rights they were entitled too as HUMAN BEINGS, equal to the rest of the world, and not just 'gays'. As far as religion goes, I am deeply religous now and there is a constant battle in my heart over it. Heres what I concluded. tge bible states we are all sinners, and nowhere does it say one sin is greater than another. If I can be forgiven for my sins, why cant they? kinda went off topic a little but basically if my grandmother had been straight, theres no doubt id have a diffrent opinion on gay marriage. But i
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