My boyfriend and I fight a lot, but we love each other a lot, too. We've been through some rough times lately.
But, I've been fixating on something that is eating me alive.
About six months ago, he told me about this girl named Shannon who he believed was his soulmate. He didn't realize it until after she was out of his life (they only went on one date), but he felt she was the one for him.
We've been together about a year and a half and last night I said, "I just want to be the one for you. I think sometimes people can have more than one "right" person for them. I just want to feel right to you, and like we belong."
He said nothing...
Later, still arguing about things, he said he couldn't understand what the big deal was and why I felt like I was failing in the relationship.
Me: "What do I want more than anything in the world?"
Him: "To be the one for me."
Me: "Can you say I am the one for you, and that I'm right for you?"
Him: "I don't know."
Me: "Then, I'm failing."
Do I leave him or not? Is love good enough, even if it's love that is not as deep as mine? Or do I stay and hope he'll realize it on his own? Or, do we go on a break, so he can see if being without me changes his mind?
UPDATE: We went on a break this morning. We made love last night, he spent the night, and we cuddled. Got up, had breakfast together, and then sat down to talk. I told him that I NEED him to be able to say YES, I am the one for him, or NO, I'm not. No "I don't know."
So, we've agreed to be on a break until June 4th. If he hasn't figured it out by then, we'll break up. In the meantime, he can call me to leave me messages and he can email me, but he knows I will not respond to anything, because he needs to experience life without me.
I told him that if between now and June 4th he has any kind of epiphany to just leave a message or email stating he wants to get together to talk about things.
I'm pretty torn up right now, but I hope that this will either 1) Make him figure things out, or 2) Give me an easier transition in ending things with him. I've been in a few relationships. He's been one of the most successful ones. And I felt like he was my soul mate. I hope he can see it too.