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My husband has threated to leave and take my DD with him.

Posted by on May. 12, 2012 at 6:51 PM
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My mother's recent stroke has stared him and his little phobia of me ending up like my mother to another damn level. He has always bitched and bitched about me seeing a doctor. My left kidney is in constant pain, my urine is dark yellow, and I have a wee bit of swelling at times. Now we both fully understand that is the sign of one of my kidneys shutting down. I've got another, I'll be fine. He says I'm a hypocrite because I hate my mother for doing letting herself getting so bad off because of poor eating habits and bad choices. However, it's different for me. I hate doctors they never tell me good news and it's more of a "as long as I don't know, I'll be okay" type thing. I'll cut down on my soda and try to walk a little more. He doesn't think that is enough and that my choice to not see a doctor and figure what needs to be down to maintain my right one (I can do that by myself) means I'm neglecting my duties as a mother and wife. I'm not and I know I'm fine. I don't need him breathing down my fucking neck all the damn time. I am not my mother and I will never get like that. He is being an ass and calling me a bad mother for some stupid shit. Now if I was beating and starving my child yes, I can see being called a bad mother but just not going to the doctor is not a qualification.

He is boycotting MD tomorrow because I'm a bad mother. He says is I if I skip the appointment he made for Wednesday he will take our Dd and leave until I do see a doctor. He is not going to really leave me. He wouldn't even dare try me. I don't need a doctor to tell me shit I don't want to here and I don't need him trying to force me. I'm a good mom!

 

 

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by on May. 12, 2012 at 6:51 PM
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twisted_charlie
by on May. 12, 2012 at 6:55 PM
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You need to see a doctor. As for your husband freaking out, well I don't know what to tell you.

BeverlyKaye9878
by on May. 12, 2012 at 6:56 PM
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You need to go to the doctor. Yes, you have another kidney, but when that one fails... You are neglecting your duties as a wife and mother. You have to take care of yourself. You might end up worse than your mother, in the sense you may never get to meet your grandchildren. You say you can take care of it yourself, but it doesn't sound like it.

YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!
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ButterMeUp
by Butters on May. 12, 2012 at 7:02 PM

 

Quoting BeverlyKaye9878:

You need to go to the doctor. Yes, you have another kidney, but when that one fails... You are neglecting your duties as a wife and mother. You have to take care of yourself. You might end up worse than your mother, in the sense you may never get to meet your grandchildren. You say you can take care of it yourself, but it doesn't sound like it.

YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!

 There is no point. It's not like its coming back. As long as I take care of my right one I will be okay. A lot of people only have one and are fine.

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BeverlyKaye9878
by on May. 12, 2012 at 7:07 PM
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Yes, but it went out for a reason right?

What's to stop the other from going out?


Quoting ButterMeUp:

 


Quoting BeverlyKaye9878:

You need to go to the doctor. Yes, you have another kidney, but when that one fails... You are neglecting your duties as a wife and mother. You have to take care of yourself. You might end up worse than your mother, in the sense you may never get to meet your grandchildren. You say you can take care of it yourself, but it doesn't sound like it.

YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!

 There is no point. It's not like its coming back. As long as I take care of my right one I will be okay. A lot of people only have one and are fine.


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Jamie1972
by Ruby Member on May. 12, 2012 at 7:08 PM
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I see ur dh pov. By neglating urself u r not being the best mon and wife u can be. Yes u get bad news from drs but u get good news too. If 1kidney is failing now how will u be a good wife and mom in the hospital having a kidney removed and recovering? And what happens when ur 1 good kidney starts to fail what will u do then? U really do need to take care of urself and part if that is seeing a dr.
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by Anonymous 1 on May. 12, 2012 at 7:11 PM
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Can't the one that shut down cause a bad infection that will lead to the other kidney having problems and shutting down?

LatashaNicole
by on May. 12, 2012 at 7:11 PM
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Well he doesn't want to see his wife die in front of him or the baby so I understand why he so pissy you have a family to care for so I advice you to suck it up put you granny panties on and go get your health together..
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ButterMeUp
by Butters on May. 12, 2012 at 7:12 PM

 Yes, but that wont happen to me. I if I just try and watch myself a little more i will be fine.

Quoting BeverlyKaye9878:

Yes, but it went out for a reason right?

What's to stop the other from going out?


Quoting ButterMeUp:

 


Quoting BeverlyKaye9878:

You need to go to the doctor. Yes, you have another kidney, but when that one fails... You are neglecting your duties as a wife and mother. You have to take care of yourself. You might end up worse than your mother, in the sense you may never get to meet your grandchildren. You say you can take care of it yourself, but it doesn't sound like it.

YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!

 There is no point. It's not like its coming back. As long as I take care of my right one I will be okay. A lot of people only have one and are fine.


 

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kellysp6637
by on May. 12, 2012 at 7:13 PM
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 Sorry, I agree with your dh.....if you care nothing of yourself, atleast think of your husband and your child.

Go to the doctor......

ButterMeUp
by Butters on May. 12, 2012 at 7:14 PM

 It puts more stress on the one. You cant support an unhealthy life style on just one unless you do dialysis or medication. My mothers good one went out in about 3 years. however she didnt take care of herself or make any changes. I can stop the other one from shutting down.

Quoting Anonymous:

Can't the one that shut down cause a bad infection that will lead to the other kidney having problems and shutting down?

 

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