My husband has threated to leave and take my DD with him.

[ButterMeUp]

My mother's recent stroke has stared him and his little phobia of me ending up like my mother to another damn level. He has always bitched and bitched about me seeing a doctor. My left kidney is in constant pain, my urine is dark yellow, and I have a wee bit of swelling at times. Now we both fully understand that is the sign of one of my kidneys shutting down. I've got another, I'll be fine. He says I'm a hypocrite because I hate my mother for doing letting herself getting so bad off because of poor eating habits and bad choices. However, it's different for me. I hate doctors they never tell me good news and it's more of a "as long as I don't know, I'll be okay" type thing. I'll cut down on my soda and try to walk a little more. He doesn't think that is enough and that my choice to not see a doctor and figure what needs to be down to maintain my right one (I can do that by myself) means I'm neglecting my duties as a mother and wife. I'm not and I know I'm fine. I don't need him breathing down my fucking neck all the damn time. I am not my mother and I will never get like that. He is being an ass and calling me a bad mother for some stupid shit. Now if I was beating and starving my child yes, I can see being called a bad mother but just not going to the doctor is not a qualification.

He is boycotting MD tomorrow because I'm a bad mother. He says is I if I skip the appointment he made for Wednesday he will take our Dd and leave until I do see a doctor. He is not going to really leave me. He wouldn't even dare try me. I don't need a doctor to tell me shit I don't want to here and I don't need him trying to force me. I'm a good mom!

 

 

[emeraldangel20]

you need to see a dr. i can see where your husband is coming from. if you can't take care of yourself then how are you going to take care of your daughter?

my daughter was the reason i got my gallbladder checked and i'm glad i did. it's out now and i feel tons better.

go to a doctor.

[Anonymous]

At least he Loves you enough to care.

[katelynsmommy30]

You are in absolute denial. You need help. I don't doubt for one second that your a good mom and wife, but can't you see that your husband is being a good husband and father by wanting you healthy!!???? What are you even looking for here anyways, if your not going to take this seriously and get yourself to a doctor. I wish you good health and luck. And I mean that.

[Ashleeduhh]

This. I don't blame your husband. He's being harsh cause he loves you and cares about you. You are not a doctor and you're just scared of bad news but at the end of the day, ya gotta step up and take care of yourself not just for you but for your family, too.

Quoting BeverlyKaye9878:

You need to go to the doctor. Yes, you have another kidney, but when that one fails... You are neglecting your duties as a wife and mother. You have to take care of yourself. You might end up worse than your mother, in the sense you may never get to meet your grandchildren. You say you can take care of it yourself, but it doesn't sound like it.



YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!

[connorsmommy120]

You need to go see a DR.
 

[katelynsmommy30]

Exactly!!!!

Quoting Anonymous:

At least he Loves you enough to care.

[TraceyMR]

I feel your dh is right. It sucks to have bad news from doctors but that is part of life.

[Scarlet_begonia]

This is how people end up on dialysis a lot of times..it can most definitely spread an infection to other organs, or to your other kidney

Quoting Jamie1972:

I see ur dh pov. By neglating urself u r not being the best mon and wife u can be. Yes u get bad news from drs but u get good news too. If 1kidney is failing now how will u be a good wife and mom in the hospital having a kidney removed and recovering? And what happens when ur 1 good kidney starts to fail what will u do then? U really do need to take care of urself and part if that is seeing a dr.

[lillysnow]

I would leave you too because it is foolish that you are not seeking help for something that could take you out of your child's life. did you not think that being a good mother also means being there for your child. come on lady.

[emeraldangel20]

it's called tough love.