We also have strong convictions about how to be a parent.
Did you know that if you formula feed, you are a shitty mother? Never mind the reasons. The BF warriors will crucify you for admitting you didn't breast feed, and will also slam your "medical excuses", because after all, they were able to, so you must be a lying, selfish mommy who has no right to public assistance, formula, or any sympathy.
Did you know if you use daycare, you are a shitty mom? The SAHM warriors will fight tooth and nail to show you that you're wrong. You choose money over family, how dare you! Your child will grow up to be a wastrel who sucks down tax dollars for nefarious purposes.
Did you know if you have to go on public assistance, you are ashitty mom? The money making mama's will explain clearly that you should only get PA if you live in a one room, dirt floor shack with no electricity, heat, or windows. Probably walls are too extravagant as well. No, your circumstances do not matter! If you really cared for your kids, you would work 100 hours a week at minimum wage.
Did you know, if you get pregnant while on PA, you are a shitty mom? 90% of Mom's out there will argue this until they're blue in the face. You should not be having sex unless you can afford birth control, and since you are on PA, things like BCare a frivolous waste, so stop being human and having sex. In fact, you should probably stop sharing a room with your lover, because you should be sharing a bed with your child.
did you know if you feed your child any sugar ever, you are a shitty mom? The health food warriors will patiently destroy your will to live by politely explaining just what you are doing to your child, while calling social services to register a complaint against you.
Everyone out there makes 1000 decisions a day, ranging from the mundane- should I add an extra packet of sugar to my coffee, on up through hard ones- should I put my child in chemotherapy first, or seek a second opinion?
We all live in a home with our family, whether that family is a mom, dad, and kids, or two moms and their kids, or grandparents, a mom, and kids, etc. every family is different. It is made up of different people. Different traditions, different races, different cultures.
And yet, wel all feel the need to come here, and attack each mother here. We attack them for mundane reasons. We attack them to make our selves feel vindicated. We attack them, because it makes us feel superior in our own sainted motherhood.
Everyone out there does what they can to be the best mother they know how to be. They do what is best for their family, their children, and each other.
It sickens and disturbs me to see women condemning women for doing the same thing they themselves are doing- being a mom.