TO THE MOM WHO NEEDS TO GET A JOB BUT DOESN'T WANT TOO....
I replied to your post. Basically this is what I said..
As an able bodied individual, as a WIFE, and a MOTHER there is no way I could just sit around and watch my husband break his back to provide for his family. As long as I am physically able to help provide for my household, I will do so.
You said that you've done the math and your family can SURVIVE off of $10 an hour. The whole point of life (IN MY OPINION ONLY) is not to just survive, but THRIVE, to flourish. The jobs available are not what you may want, but it's what your family NEEDS right now. Not everyone is happy with their job, or career choice. But as ADULTS we make those sacrifices. We get up each morning when we don't want too, we put up with our bosses nonsense, because sometimes we have to in order to put food on our tables, and clothes on our backs. So put your personal feelings aside. Put your family first and do the right thing. You and your husband, that thing that you have called a MARRIAGE, it's almost like teamwork. You guys have to work together to reach a common goal. Your husband, your teammate, is asking for you help. Give it to him.
Quoting Anonymous:
Learn the difference between too, to and two. I learned it in third grade.
Quoting moosesmom:The difference is your husband isn't asking you to get a job. Her husband is. That means that something is wrong. It means that in THEIR HOUSEHOLD, not yours, $10 is not enough. You have the luxury of staying home, from what it sounds like she doesn't (even if she thinks she does) Understand what I'm saying?
Quoting militarywife09:
Uhh I didnt see the post, but that's bull. It's not all about money. My dh makes $10 an hour and I stay home because we want one of our children's parents there to raise them. We chose that to be me. So we make SACRIFICES (you know what you were talking about?) so I can stay here, and be with our children. Sorry if you don't agree, but at least my kids first memories will be with their mother.
Quoting dfollin:
I did not see the origional post,but I agree with you it is HER husband asking.But, staying at home is not a luxuary......that makes me mad! When my husband was alive he worked a lot....because he loved to work.And I mostly stayed home with our daughter.Sure it's great,a privledge to raise your own child not a babysitter or day care center....not a luxuary! One time when my husband hurt his back I went to work and our 4 year old dd was in day care after paying the cost of the least expensive day care around that left me $9 a week for lunches and gas to get to work,so my dh said what's the point??
Quoting moosesmom:The difference is your husband isn't asking you to get a job. Her husband is. That means that something is wrong. It means that in THEIR HOUSEHOLD, not yours, $10 is not enough. You have the luxury of staying home, from what it sounds like she doesn't (even if she thinks she does) Understand what I'm saying?
Quoting militarywife09:
Uhh I didnt see the post, but that's bull. It's not all about money. My dh makes $10 an hour and I stay home because we want one of our children's parents there to raise them. We chose that to be me. So we make SACRIFICES (you know what you were talking about?) so I can stay here, and be with our children. Sorry if you don't agree, but at least my kids first memories will be with their mother.
Quoting moosesmom:
I have no issue with staying at home even if you made $2 an hour. If it works for your family, go for it, you know? But when your husband is saying he needs your help...come on. I just don't understand anybody standing by watching their husband bust his a**, and not do anything about it. SMH. It was an interesting post. Go find it!!! LOL!
Quoting militarywife09:
Yeah you didn't really say in your OP that her dh was asking her to work. In that case I agree completely. Like I said I didn't see that post.
Quoting moosesmom:
The difference is your husband isn't asking you to get a job. Her husband is. That means that something is wrong. It means that in THEIR HOUSEHOLD, not yours, $10 is not enough. You have the luxury of staying home, from what it sounds like she doesn't (even if she thinks she does) Understand what I'm saying?
Quoting militarywife09:
Uhh I didnt see the post, but that's bull. It's not all about money. My dh makes $10 an hour and I stay home because we want one of our children's parents there to raise them. We chose that to be me. So we make SACRIFICES (you know what you were talking about?) so I can stay here, and be with our children. Sorry if you don't agree, but at least my kids first memories will be with their mother.
she posted like a week ago that they live with her father in law rent free.. so they probably do alright on 10 an hour, not defending her just saying..
Oh no,I don't mind.He was a plumber and was always having to work in tight places and he got a disinigrating disk in his back.During the preliminary test for the back surgery they found he had liver cancer,which in turn gave him Hepititus C.So,they refused to do the surgery,instead pump him with pain killers for his back.Therefore instead of him living an estimated 20 more years with the cancer,the meds made it worse and he passed away 3 years later.
Thanks for asking.
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"
- moosesmom
on May. 12, 2012 at 9:55 PM