Who else thinks that marriage is just an expensive ceremony with a high rate of an expensive divorce following it?
I have absolutely no desire to get married. People these days get married and hit a small bump and get divorced. It's almost like being a teenager in head over heels love and then your partner talks to another girl and you have this bitter break up.
The divorce rate is 52%. That means you have a higher chance of getting a divorce then staying together forever like you promised during your vows.
I've been in a committed relationship for 6 years. I wear an engagement ring but neither one of us ever want to get married. We still are completely monogamous but in the future if we decide that being together is not right for us anymore we can just go our seperate ways without lawyers and money and all that other stuff.
Quoting rkoloms:
Marriage is a legal agreement that gives you solid protection, such as the right to make medical decisons. Without a marriage certificate, you canlegally be banned from your beloved's hospital room, not be eligible for death benefits, and a whole host of other issues. A great bargain, for $75.
I cant say, as I havent fallen in love yet,but we will see when that happens.
But I agree it sometimes changes after marriage. I had friends who were together since they were 16, got married 14 years later, and thetare now going through divorce after 4 monthsof being married.
Quoting singlemom1208:
Very true!
Quoting rkoloms:
Marriage is a legal agreement that gives you solid protection, such as the right to make medical decisons. Without a marriage certificate, you canlegally be banned from your beloved's hospital room, not be eligible for death benefits, and a whole host of other issues. A great bargain, for $75.
Quoting MIA0223:
This
Quoting SarahLizyB:
I'm married, but I never did the expensive wedding. We've been married almost 7 years and very happy
If that works for you, then so be it! I am married, but I don't blame people for not wanting to seal the deal, legally. It's really not the same instutition as it was when our parents, or more like grandparents, were around. You don't need a piece of paper to prove your committment to anyone and divorce is just messy and ugly and ask me who gets rich? The effing family law attornies- that's who!
She won't have to split her assetts or pay an attorney. They can work out custody amongst themselves or with a mediator, which is a lot less expensive.
Quoting mommyof11050307:
Your so against marriage but yet you'll still go through the same hint as a divorce. You have to spli everything up and get cs and visitations set up. I don't see the difference between the two.
How about if they both have wills drawn up detailing who gets to say what? I think that trumps marriage and what the spouse/partner says. That way, they can decide for themselves individually if they want a DNR or to be on life support. I'm married and I have a will so no one gets into any arguments should anything happen to me and my wishes are outlined clearly, as far as a DNR, organ donation, where my money goes (to my son), and so on. Really, everyone, especially if they have kids, should have a last will and testament, regardless if they are married or not.
Quoting Mom2twosweeties:
Yup. If your so got in an accident and was put on life support, his parents would have the right to keep him on it or pull the plug while you would have no say at all. They would also have the right to donate or not donate his organs with care for how he felt or how you feel.
Quoting singlemom1208:
Very true!
Quoting rkoloms:
Marriage is a legal agreement that gives you solid protection, such as the right to make medical decisons. Without a marriage certificate, you canlegally be banned from your beloved's hospital room, not be eligible for death benefits, and a whole host of other issues. A great bargain, for $75.
I think my husband's a sociopath
- notjstanothrmom
on May. 13, 2012 at 10:59 AM