Molestation vs. rape? ***ETA***
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Most of the time,I feel bad for even being troubled by this because I know so many other women have been raped or were molested for years on end and what happened to me was just a one time thing. I kind of feel like I don't have the right to be troubled by it. But there's not a day that goes by that I don't think about what happened.
******ETA*****. For those who think 17 sounds too old to be naive, well maybe I should have just said ignorant instead. Would that be better? I was very sheltered growing up and was actually put in the position I was in by my own mother (through her own ignorance, not spite. She had no clue what was going to happen to me.). And I should have been made more aware of how to handle myself in that situation, but I wasn't. I didn't even fully realize the magnitude of what had happened to me until later. I did the best that I could at the time.
And for those who don't think the word "molest" fits, then we can call it "sexual assault" like someone suggested. It all feels the same from where I'm sitting though.
Sorry I took so long to get back to this post. We've had a busy day.
Ok, so I got curious, and the FBI apparently changed things this year to make forced oral rape. Would have been nice then, the one guy that was caught when I was five only got a couple years then went and did it again a few times with other kids.
Quoting Tressakim:I don't think oral is considered rape?
But a lot of that when I was 2/3-6ish, not violent or forced though. I was young enough that they'd convinced me it was a fun game you don't tell anyone else.
But it left me addicted to masturbation until a couple years ago, and I've never been able to be in a loving relationship and now that I am I have the hardest time in the world wanting to have sex with someone that actually cares about me. I'm glad it wasn't violent or worse than it was, but it still managed to mess me up for life.
I had an ex that would rape me. Then when I was 19 I was held down and well molested is a word that would fit it. I was hurt pretty bad because he cut me up. I never even saw his penis. That was worse. But it was violent. For the most part I've worked through being raped but even though the guy that did this stuff to me is dead I can't seem to get past it. It's worse because I have scars from it. They remind me.
I think it counts as sexual assult
Quoting Anonymous:
While you were 17 that's kinda old.
I was molested from 7-8 (step father took showers with me), then from 10 to when I turned 14 February 2001 I had my breasts foundled, at 12 he got in the bathtub behind me when I was taking a bath, put his fingers inside me and said "Feels good doesn't it?", used his body to pin me to the couch and slept beside me if I was taking a nap or watching TV so I couldn't get up. Police and CPS didn't believe me because he hadn't raped or and I didn't have any physical proof of the sexual abuse. Detective said I was "suffering from emotional problems". He also physically and emotionally abused me as well from 7 to February 2001-I left him when March 2001. I was also almost sexually molested by my babysitter's 13-14 years old brother (he took me into his room and told me to take my clothes off) and then shoved me halfway down the stairs when I walked out at 11 years old which knocked the wind out of me and I just laid there unable to move. I dropped winter quarter classes last year because I was feeling off about going to school and am convinced that if I had gone that quarter something would have happened to me on campus so I take my gut instinct of feeling off as a sign that I did the right thing by dropping that quarter clases.
Quoting Anonymous:
I've had both. I honestly couldn't say which hurts or troubles me more. Pretty much it has all fucked me up for life. I don't dwell on it anymore but I have many many insecurities now.
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"