She pissed my of so bad, is she really that blind?
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My sister and I have never really been close, but its been getting better the past few months. She lives 6 hours away but we normally talk everyday on FB. I sent her a mothers day card and she never called or anything to wish me a happy Mothers day. It really didnt bother me. But then I kind of had a break down when she messaged me on fb, just bc of everything thats going on. I have severe depression, and absolutely NO ONE to help with the kids. Usually My Gma helps me outwhen she can but shes been on vacation. So everythings been 10xs worse. I told my sister yesterday how I cant do this by myself anymore and I dont even know howto deal with everything, completely alone. She was like what are you talking about? What are you doing alone? There is no breakdowns when you have kids, how can you feel like that? Your kids should make you happy every single day, and they shouldbe your reason not to be depressed.
I dont get how she can say that, seeing as she has her in laws, my mom, her DF, my brother. And I have no one up here except my Grandparents who hhavebeen on vacation for a few months, and wont be home for 3 more weeks. She has 1 child whom is healthy. I have 2 children one with special needs. I dont understand how she can just say my life should be happy, perfect and zippity dooo daaaa. I dont know, now I feel like all the progress we made in the last few months is gone. I am back to resenting her, and not wanting to make it work.
Im not going to go into detail why we didnt get along for so long, bc I dontwant anyone to judge that situation now. I want opinions/advice on how to deal with this specific situation. Just keep an open mind in knowing shes reallly hurt me in the past.
Quoting Anonymous:
There are no breakdowns when you kids. You might be depressed or suicidal or whatever but you don't get to sit around whining about it. When I hit a low point I write out what I'm feeling and then I destroy the paper. I don't have time to sit around feeling sorry for myself and I'm certainly not going to ask people for pity. I put on my brave face and get on with life.
lol I get to do whatever I want to do. Everyone, every mom NEEDS to rejuvinate and NEEDS a break. And I am sure EVERYONE can agree with me on that. I had a few moments of where it was hard to snap out of, oh my gosh theres so much to do on top of this this this andthis, how am I ever going to get it done? I Cried, I tried talking to my sister about it but obviously that dint work, thankfully I have an awesome friend that helped me snap back. I am NOT by ANY MEANS suicidal, ever, and if you think that is what being depressed is you are extremely ignorant, and nothng you say about this subject matters.
Right? Im not a bottomless pit either,but sometimes things can get overwhelming, which triggers my depression. But I would not say I have a constant need of attention and love.
Ive been a single mom for 8 years, if I needed that constantly I most likely would not have standards and settle for anyone. I have rough moments, just like anyone else, but bc of my "mental illness" it intensifies by 100 or 1000.
Quoting tazdvl:Really? I am depressed but would never think of myself as a bottomless pit of need. I have never asked for sympathy, heck, the only one who knows is my husband.
Quoting NDADanceMom:
Honestly this is why I would never be friends with someone with a mental illness. You expect her to base her opinions on the framework of your illness. You have depression. Its the reason you arent out socializing and finding friends. You will come up with a huge list of why your life sucks but really when it comes down to it the reason your life sucks is because your depression doesnt allow you to change things. SHe has a great life. She has that life because of choices she has made. Your life sucks because of choices you made. You will blame other things but those of us that arent ill can take all of your problems and solve them or list ways they wouldnt have been in that situation.
I know your expectation is that she has unlimited sympathy and comes to help you but frankly mentally ill people are bottomless pits of need. If she did everything you want today, next week it wont be enough. NOTHING she does or says will make your life better. She will be involved in your endless cycle of need. She needs to live her life, be positive and not be responsible for your feelings.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Anonymous:
There are no breakdowns when you kids. You might be depressed or suicidal or whatever but you don't get to sit around whining about it. When I hit a low point I write out what I'm feeling and then I destroy the paper. I don't have time to sit around feeling sorry for myself and I'm certainly not going to ask people for pity. I put on my brave face and get on with life.lol I get to do whatever I want to do. Everyone, every mom NEEDS to rejuvinate and NEEDS a break. And I am sure EVERYONE can agree with me on that. I had a few moments of where it was hard to snap out of, oh my gosh theres so much to do on top of this this this andthis, how am I ever going to get it done? I Cried, I tried talking to my sister about it but obviously that dint work, thankfully I have an awesome friend that helped me snap back. I am NOT by ANY MEANS suicidal, ever, and if you think that is what being depressed is you are extremely ignorant, and nothng you say about this subject matters.
Quoting RhondaVeggie:
If she has hurt you in the past then why expect her to support you now? I've had issues with my sister too, we didn't talk for a few years, but we talk now. It's all light though and entirely through Facebook. I can't imagine going to her with any issue deeper than a fashion question.
I know this now. But at the time, I was desperate for any help, she was the only one. I understand, I shouldnt have.
Yet one more nasty post from you. How exciting. With everything you have posted, none of it at all positive or even nice, I highly doubt you have friends at all. Put that with how you have posted treating your own children, you don't seem to have much to add to anything on this site.
Quoting NDADanceMom:
Honestly this is why I would never be friends with someone with a mental illness. You expect her to base her opinions on the framework of your illness. You have depression. Its the reason you arent out socializing and finding friends. You will come up with a huge list of why your life sucks but really when it comes down to it the reason your life sucks is because your depression doesnt allow you to change things. SHe has a great life. She has that life because of choices she has made. Your life sucks because of choices you made. You will blame other things but those of us that arent ill can take all of your problems and solve them or list ways they wouldnt have been in that situation.
I know your expectation is that she has unlimited sympathy and comes to help you but frankly mentally ill people are bottomless pits of need. If she did everything you want today, next week it wont be enough. NOTHING she does or says will make your life better. She will be involved in your endless cycle of need. She needs to live her life, be positive and not be responsible for your feelings.
Actually most of what I post is nice. You must stick to drama posts. My kids are treated like royalty. I dont spank them, they wear nothing but designer clothes, they are in expensive activities, they each have lap tops and iphones, the only chores they have are keeping their rooms clean and doing homework. You are crazy if you think my kids arent some of the most pampered kids around!
My guess is you are pretty dysfunctional, trashy and easily offended. You probably posted something horrible and I called you on it. Now you want to somehow prove im a horrible person. Own your own issues. They arent my problem.
Quoting Anonymous:Yet one more nasty post from you. How exciting. With everything you have posted, none of it at all positive or even nice, I highly doubt you have friends at all. Put that with how you have posted treating your own children, you don't seem to have much to add to anything on this site.
Quoting NDADanceMom:
Honestly this is why I would never be friends with someone with a mental illness. You expect her to base her opinions on the framework of your illness. You have depression. Its the reason you arent out socializing and finding friends. You will come up with a huge list of why your life sucks but really when it comes down to it the reason your life sucks is because your depression doesnt allow you to change things. SHe has a great life. She has that life because of choices she has made. Your life sucks because of choices you made. You will blame other things but those of us that arent ill can take all of your problems and solve them or list ways they wouldnt have been in that situation.
I know your expectation is that she has unlimited sympathy and comes to help you but frankly mentally ill people are bottomless pits of need. If she did everything you want today, next week it wont be enough. NOTHING she does or says will make your life better. She will be involved in your endless cycle of need. She needs to live her life, be positive and not be responsible for your feelings.
Could you possibly get any more ignorant?
I never said depression is NOT linked, Im saying not all people that are depressed commit suice. You said "depressed or suicidal or whatever" like it was the same thing. ITS NOT.
Yes I have been suicidal before, infact at 14 I was in a instution for being so. However, I can honestly say since become a mother, I have never once thought I would bebetter off dead. I need them, just as much as they need me, and I would n ever ever ever put them in that situation of not having a mom, and being stuck alone with my crazy family.
Quoting Anonymous:
If you think depression and suicidal feelings aren't linked then you're the ignorant one. If you have honestly never once been suicidal then your depression isn't as bad as you think.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Anonymous:
There are no breakdowns when you kids. You might be depressed or suicidal or whatever but you don't get to sit around whining about it. When I hit a low point I write out what I'm feeling and then I destroy the paper. I don't have time to sit around feeling sorry for myself and I'm certainly not going to ask people for pity. I put on my brave face and get on with life.lol I get to do whatever I want to do. Everyone, every mom NEEDS to rejuvinate and NEEDS a break. And I am sure EVERYONE can agree with me on that. I had a few moments of where it was hard to snap out of, oh my gosh theres so much to do on top of this this this andthis, how am I ever going to get it done? I Cried, I tried talking to my sister about it but obviously that dint work, thankfully I have an awesome friend that helped me snap back. I am NOT by ANY MEANS suicidal, ever, and if you think that is what being depressed is you are extremely ignorant, and nothng you say about this subject matters.
They are linked but you can be depressed without wanting to take your life, Try to educate yourself before posting but I guess thats why you post Anon. She didnt say it was the worst depression ever.
Quoting Anonymous:
If you think depression and suicidal feelings aren't linked then you're the ignorant one. If you have honestly never once been suicidal then your depression isn't as bad as you think.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Anonymous:
There are no breakdowns when you kids. You might be depressed or suicidal or whatever but you don't get to sit around whining about it. When I hit a low point I write out what I'm feeling and then I destroy the paper. I don't have time to sit around feeling sorry for myself and I'm certainly not going to ask people for pity. I put on my brave face and get on with life.lol I get to do whatever I want to do. Everyone, every mom NEEDS to rejuvinate and NEEDS a break. And I am sure EVERYONE can agree with me on that. I had a few moments of where it was hard to snap out of, oh my gosh theres so much to do on top of this this this andthis, how am I ever going to get it done? I Cried, I tried talking to my sister about it but obviously that dint work, thankfully I have an awesome friend that helped me snap back. I am NOT by ANY MEANS suicidal, ever, and if you think that is what being depressed is you are extremely ignorant, and nothng you say about this subject matters.
LMAO!!!!! Is this real?
Quoting NDADanceMom:Actually most of what I post is nice. You must stick to drama posts. My kids are treated like royalty. I dont spank them, they wear nothing but designer clothes, they are in expensive activities, they each have lap tops and iphones, the only chores they have are keeping their rooms clean and doing homework. You are crazy if you think my kids arent some of the most pampered kids around!
My guess is you are pretty dysfunctional, trashy and easily offended. You probably posted something horrible and I called you on it. Now you want to somehow prove im a horrible person. Own your own issues. They arent my problem.
Quoting Anonymous:Yet one more nasty post from you. How exciting. With everything you have posted, none of it at all positive or even nice, I highly doubt you have friends at all. Put that with how you have posted treating your own children, you don't seem to have much to add to anything on this site.
Quoting NDADanceMom:
Honestly this is why I would never be friends with someone with a mental illness. You expect her to base her opinions on the framework of your illness. You have depression. Its the reason you arent out socializing and finding friends. You will come up with a huge list of why your life sucks but really when it comes down to it the reason your life sucks is because your depression doesnt allow you to change things. SHe has a great life. She has that life because of choices she has made. Your life sucks because of choices you made. You will blame other things but those of us that arent ill can take all of your problems and solve them or list ways they wouldnt have been in that situation.
I know your expectation is that she has unlimited sympathy and comes to help you but frankly mentally ill people are bottomless pits of need. If she did everything you want today, next week it wont be enough. NOTHING she does or says will make your life better. She will be involved in your endless cycle of need. She needs to live her life, be positive and not be responsible for your feelings.
leaving baby alone while i do laundry?