thinking of cheating
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This other guy it's more then sex I know he loves me and I could love him but it's complicated I wanted to have an open relationship he said no he'd try to show me how he feels and we talked about sex nothings changed....idk what to do I'm thinkin of just cheating
I know I'm horrible
Its hard its the father of your kids but you have to be sure about whats right.Right for your children then whats right for you. If being alone is what you have to do to figure things out so your kids dont see a move in then move out confused. Its pulling on there heart strings.you are always going to have a special place for the father of your children but if you guys are getting along its not doing the kids or you any good.
I would try maybe going on a date maybe it will help you decide how you really feel
Quoting Anonymous:
I'm crying right now idk what to do I love him but he never showes me anything I don't want to break up with him I feel like him and I both don't know what we want we don't live together he wants to move in but I don't know I feel like I don't want to yet
Quoting katiebeth1821:no i know how you feel. im lucky if my boyfriend and i have sex 1 once a month. FUSTRATED. Its hard to break up with someone when you had kids with them. you have a conntection. You have to weigh the pros and cons. you might be happier. i would sugest though if you do get a place of your own. take it slow with the other guy. make sure you know how you feel. Its hard. I hope the best for you and your family.
If it is bad enough to cheat it is bad enough to just end it. If you are that unhappy do the right thing and end the relationship first.
For the love of pete...are people really this dense?
OP-If you are even thinking about cheating...then the relationship is over! Period. If you TRULY love your SO, the thought would NEVER cross your mind.
Quoting katiebeth1821:Its hard its the father of your kids but you have to be sure about whats right.Right for your children then whats right for you. If being alone is what you have to do to figure things out so your kids dont see a move in then move out confused. Its pulling on there heart strings.you are always going to have a special place for the father of your children but if you guys are getting along its not doing the kids or you any good.
I would try maybe going on a date maybe it will help you decide how you really feel
Quoting Anonymous:
I'm crying right now idk what to do I love him but he never showes me anything I don't want to break up with him I feel like him and I both don't know what we want we don't live together he wants to move in but I don't know I feel like I don't want to yet
Quoting katiebeth1821:no i know how you feel. im lucky if my boyfriend and i have sex 1 once a month. FUSTRATED. Its hard to break up with someone when you had kids with them. you have a conntection. You have to weigh the pros and cons. you might be happier. i would sugest though if you do get a place of your own. take it slow with the other guy. make sure you know how you feel. Its hard. I hope the best for you and your family.
i know but you cant let that decide what you do becase he doesnt know whats best for him or her(your DD). Fighting is never good and they see more then you think. I say things not around my kids and they say somthing about it and i think to myself you were in another room how did you hear that. fighting sucks and it effects them even if they dotn hear it they feel it
Quoting Anonymous:
He always says we have no money....he has no money I do and i'd pay he doesn't want to do any of that we get along great when he's not here but we fight a lot when he is (the kids don't notice)....my dd wants him to live with us soooo baddly it breaks my hart
Quoting katiebeth1821:Its hard its the father of your kids but you have to be sure about whats right.Right for your children then whats right for you. If being alone is what you have to do to figure things out so your kids dont see a move in then move out confused. Its pulling on there heart strings.you are always going to have a special place for the father of your children but if you guys are getting along its not doing the kids or you any good.
I would try maybe going on a date maybe it will help you decide how you really feel
Quoting Anonymous:
I'm crying right now idk what to do I love him but he never showes me anything I don't want to break up with him I feel like him and I both don't know what we want we don't live together he wants to move in but I don't know I feel like I don't want to yet
Quoting katiebeth1821:no i know how you feel. im lucky if my boyfriend and i have sex 1 once a month. FUSTRATED. Its hard to break up with someone when you had kids with them. you have a conntection. You have to weigh the pros and cons. you might be happier. i would sugest though if you do get a place of your own. take it slow with the other guy. make sure you know how you feel. Its hard. I hope the best for you and your family.
i am posting this anonmously because I know I will get bashed to high heaven but I think that sometimes cheating can actually help a relationship. Only if you can do it and make sure you will NEVER get caught and are totally safe about it. Sex can just be sex. It can be a total physical thing with no emtions attached and you can be doing to it to merely fufill a sexual need. It does not mean that you are horrible person. However, if you are going to step out and actually try to have another relationship with someone then that is wrong but to just have sex and then move on is not as horrible as people may make you beleive. Trashy - yes...lol It does not make you a horrible person though. I think you can have the best of both worlds if u are super careful.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?