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kidnapped child found safe and ADOPTED!

Posted by on May. 16, 2012 at 10:55 PM
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The last time Loyda Rodriguez saw her daughter, the 2-year-old was being whisked into a taxi cab by a stranger in her native Guatemala. It was 2006, and Anyeli Rodriguez became a missing child, a victim of a kidnapping. But now that she's been located, the Guatemalan mom can't simply get her child back. Because the American parents who adopted her think Anyeli is theirs.

So who's right? They both are.

A child's biological parent is a parent. A child's adoptive parent is a parent. There's no clear line in the sand in cases like this. And if there were, it would nullify the whole concept of legal adoption. Biology can't simply trump the love and care that adoptive parents give a child.

And since 2008, Timothy and Jennifer Monahan have been loving and caring for "their daughter," a little girl ABC News reports they thought they'd legally adopted through an agency here in the United States. They've been her parents for four years! And they don't seem like bad people. Although the adoption is considered illegal in Guatemala because the little girl was kidnapped, Guatemalan officials have reportedly cleared the Monahans of any wrongdoing. The blame rests on the shoulders of the people who stole her.

But that doesn't mean Anyeli is theirs. Her biological mom is still alive and very much wants her. Loyda is doing everything she can in the courts to get "her" daughter back.

I don't blame her. I also don't blame the Monahans for holding tight to their little girl. They're both right. If I was on either side, I know I'd be doing everything both sides are doing and then some.

The sad thing is that either way, innocent people are going to be hurt here. Rip a kid who's been living in America for all these years out of the home she knows best, and drop her in Guatemala, and little Anyeli will have it rough. Not to mention the anguish the Monhans would have to go through. On the other hand, leave her in America, and the little girl may feel the pull of her biological family. And her mom and other relatives will most certainly be in pain.

The only choice here, frankly, stinks. These parents need to sit down and do the modern day version of King Solomon's old "cut the baby in half" suggestion. They have to decide what is best for Anyeli, not what's best for either group of adults.

What would you do in this situation? Could you let go of your child if you knew it was better for them?
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Buggy979
by Platinum Member on May. 16, 2012 at 10:57 PM
Yes, the child only know the new parents as there parent... It would be hard but I would let the child go...
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on May. 16, 2012 at 10:59 PM
There was a life time movie about a situation exactly like this last month, in the movie the adoptive mother gave her daughter to her bio mother.
jaysmommy04
by Gold Member on May. 16, 2012 at 11:01 PM
That is such a hard decision. It's hard to say either or.it's just one of those situation where you can't say unless you are in that situation.
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lhernandez7208
by on May. 16, 2012 at 11:02 PM
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I would also let her go. A child def would have a better life here in the US instead of guatemala where she would likely be poor
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chunkyhoney78
by Silver Member on May. 16, 2012 at 11:04 PM
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I think the adoptive parents and the bio parents need to team up and sue the hell out of the agency and maybe they can come to an agreement to co parent this little girl. The one in the end that needs to be thought of the most is this little girl she loves her adoptive parents because thats all she know right now but she may have resentment later in life for not allowing her to be with her bio parents.

Meand5
by on May. 16, 2012 at 11:05 PM

Wow...this is a hard one and I feel so bad for everyone involved

Try something new ALL THE TIME!!!

StephG718
by on May. 16, 2012 at 11:06 PM

Idk what I would do honestly. I see why both sides are fighting so hard. That is just a sad, sad situation all the way around. :(

baby2zacharias
by on May. 16, 2012 at 11:07 PM
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If I was the adoptive parents id give her back. How would they feel if the girl then got kidnapped from them and kept by law by someone else? Its insane. If my kids were ever taken like that id get them back no matter what it took.
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jojo827
by Silver Member on May. 16, 2012 at 11:08 PM
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I agree with the King Solomon story, and this situation should turn out the same way. Whoever loves the child the most will be willing to give her up and that person should get her
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 16, 2012 at 11:11 PM
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This. If I were the adoptive parents, I would try to sponsor the Bio mom so she can be in America with her little girl and make it 'open'

Quoting chunkyhoney78:

I think the adoptive parents and the bio parents need to team up and sue the hell out of the agency and maybe they can come to an agreement to co parent this little girl. The one in the end that needs to be thought of the most is this little girl she loves her adoptive parents because thats all she know right now but she may have resentment later in life for not allowing her to be with her bio parents.

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