Last year my boyfriend & I hit a VERY rough spot, We BOTH had a job...anyways we were living in an old office for a storage unit, yes it used to be an office...his boss rented it out to us. We didn't have a stove, couch, fridge (later we got a mini fridge) there wasn't a real kitchen (there was a sink), living room...nothing. It was 2 "bedrooms" side by side (they were offices) a big area which was big enough to fit our kitchen table & a desk, & a bathroom. For a freezer in the winter we used a cooler & shoved it in the snow (we had a massive blizzard & it was awesome for keeping our food frozen for awhile)
My boyfriends mom kept in contact with one of my boyfriends CRAZY ex one night stands (I already knew about her, she's crazy). She found out that we were stuggling & offered to help...WELL she offered him, she didn't know we were together. She said she wouldn't help him if he was with anyone. So suddenly he became VERY secretive, he ALWAYS had his phone, changed his profile picture on facebook, his passwords & just seemed sneaky. I caught on quickly but he claimed nothing was going behind on my back. Suddenly the car payments were being made, cell phones were being paid for, he said his mom was paying for them & I believed him.
Well things kept going the way they were & I couldn't take anymore, I finally faught with him because I KNEW something was going on, I ended up leaving for a week because I was tired of it & thought if I left it would help our relationship. I came back on a Friday & on Sat. My boyfriend asked me if I sent his ex one night stand a message on facebook, I said no I don't know her lastname & have no reason to. He FREAKED out on me calling me a liar & that he was going to leave me if I did. I started bawling telling him I swear I didn't. Well I got her lastname, looked her up & her profile picture was a picture of her & MY boyfriend of 2 years! I FREAKED out.
Soon the tables turned & I found out that they were talking behind my back, & she was giving him money to pay things. I told her he & I were together & have been for 2 years. ALL hell broke loose then. I found out this girl had a baby that was MAYBE his & they were meeting up to see each other the week I was gone. well when all this came out, my boyfriend was working, she was calling him, I was calling him, it was all a mess, I finally got through to him & he answered thinking I was her & was going on saying he didn't want to be with me blah blah blah. He later told me he didn't mean it.
When he got off work I told him I was leaving & that this was beyond more than I could handle. He explained to me that she offered to help & he accepted because with out her help we would have lost everything since we both weren't making enough. She was in love with him & just wanted him. Come to find out this son of hers isn't my boyfriends & she knew the whole time, she just wanted him. Anyways he told her he couldn't do it anymore & that yes he has been with me. He told me he was talking to her & leading her on, strictly for money. That's how desparte he was to keep bills paid for & stuff. He risked our relationship for it.
He stopped talking to her that day. He changed his number, deleted hers & blocked her on facebook. His mom blamed me for pushing for the truth so bad, she said I shouldn't be getting into his buisness...really?? I wont start with that. So for some reason I stayed & we worked things out. Since then everything is different, he leaves his phone infront of me, when he's busy & gets a text he tells me to check it. I know his password to facebook & get into sometimes because he said I could & I play farmville lol so I send myself gifts from his farmville.
Well to this day I STILL think about this situation, we talk about it sometimes but for some reason I have REALLY been thinking about it lately. I don't think he's doing anything...I know he's not, I just think about it even though our relationship is so much better & has made so much progress since then. I KNOW I'm stupid for staying but honestly at the time I had NOwhere to go permently. Literally. I love him & I'm glad things are better. I know I will get bashed, even though all I wanted to get out of this was it off my chest, I'm even brave enough to do this with my screen name.
I wont even say "please don't bash me" because I KNOW you all will anyway. I just needed to get that all of my chest. I'm 38 weeks pregnant, emotional as hell & thinking about everything I have been through in my life & how I don't want my son to go through stuff I have been through...my mom died from a drug over dose, my dad died from cancer I have been through so much all before I turned 21...I feel like I'm depressed tonight,I don't even know why. =/ Thanks for listening.
P.S I just turned 21 in March.