How much say should a husband have in his wife's hair???
I'm tired of puting myself last and everyone else first. Some things should belong to me. Just because I am a wife and Mother does not mean I don't have basic needs of my own.
Here's the scenario:
I have been married for 12 years and as a former hairstylist I cut my dh's hair and all of our children's hair each month. They all have styles that would cost more than your average cut. Meanwhile, I have spent the last several years hating my hair and my appearance to make my dh happy and to wear my hair the way he likes. I have tried to like my hair long by doing so many different things but the bottom line is that I don't feel like myself with all this long, heavy hair on my head. Many, many times I have resisted the urge to cut my hair shoulder length because of my dh.
Today I finally could not stand it and went for a cut. It's right at my shoulders but as far as my dh is concerned it's SHORT. And, yes, compared to what it was is it short. But, I feel like I have suffered enough and that my self-esteem is important. After All, I have to wear my hair on my head.
Well, dh is being a real jerk about it and it's almost making me feel like he's loved me for my long hair instead of for me. I'm also feeling like it's some kind of control issue. He has known all these years that I hate myself with long hair. He has known all this time that I have been wearing something I dislike just to make him happy for a long, long time. I would thin that he should think about how I feel for a change.