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my bf and i hate being parents *edit

Posted by Anonymous
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he got some fling pregnant almost 5 yrs ago and when the kid was 1 he met me and i adopted him.. then we had our own baby to give the other a sibling.. and we are depressed all the time get no time to ourselves our relationship is deteriorating hes too depressed to keep a job, im too depressed to be a decent mom.. wtf this sucks... i wish we could have waited

my bf does HAVE a job, a good job too, he is just depressed and it makes it hard for him to function. we were both depressed with other issues since childhood and we've been spending the past few years together trying to fix eachother and ourselves,and healing from fucked up childhoods, we have come a long long way, i just wish we couldve done all this healing and such without our kids bc i have missed so much of their little lives and still have so much work to do.. i have tried every pill out there they have made me violent, comatose, etc. i have been a sahm for 3yrs now, i worked pt before.. but i want my 2nd baby to have the sahm benefits my older one does.. he is very smart because i taught him all that stuff! so don't bash me! i made mistakes that had good intentions behind them and i don't want to run off and go clubbing, i just want some sanity and peace and want to be a happy active good mom instead of being buried by mental illness.. and i have a therapist i have since i was 4 and im well versed in psych but nothing has helped..

thanks to those who had supportive things to say!
Posted by Anonymous on May. 18, 2012 at 1:15 PM
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by on May. 18, 2012 at 1:16 PM
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 So you had a child to give the other a sibling.  Bad reason to have a kid. 

Sounds like you need counseling and help from family with babysitting.

by on May. 18, 2012 at 1:17 PM
How old are you?
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by on May. 18, 2012 at 1:19 PM
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Wow! Give the kids to someone who will care and love for them. Then go have some "fun". SAD
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by Anonymous 2 on May. 18, 2012 at 1:19 PM
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.....Welcome to parent hood. If you don't want them give them up. WTF is up with all these moms on here today complaing about not wanting your children. I get depression I have dealt with it since I was a kid. Get off the computer and get some help you both are doing a diservice to your children.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 18, 2012 at 1:20 PM
Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

How old are you?

we are both in our 20's.
by on May. 18, 2012 at 1:21 PM
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I say get some councling and maybe need to grow up a little , because you dont jsut have kids to give the other sibiling and just because you are depreased by being aparent you still have  an oblgation to take care of them so your bf needs to get a job.  They didnt ask to be born they were born because your bf decided to have sex with that woman  and you two decided to have a child so that means you guys owe them the best of you .

/i dont care how rough it is being aparent. it was your guys doings not theirs.

by Bronze Member on May. 18, 2012 at 1:21 PM

I too wanted another child so our DS could have a sib but then I though about the added expense of another child and not to mention college tuition twice!! I like my sanity and going on family vacations, more power to the ladies on here with multiple children because I know that it could not be me! Lol

by Anonymous 3 on May. 18, 2012 at 1:22 PM
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Well go to the Doctor, get some meds and deal with it...

by Emerald Member on May. 18, 2012 at 1:22 PM

Make the time for yourself and your bf, no one is going to hand it to you.

Go to a therapist and get some meds for your depression and take care of your children.

If you don't want them, there are wonderful families out there that will love them!!

You need to make a decision, you are damaging your kids this way and they won't thank you for it later. Get off your ASS and be a PARENT!!

by Anonymous 4 on May. 18, 2012 at 1:22 PM
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Ha, well you didnt wait and now the poor kids have to see the two of you wishing you weren't their parents. GOOD JOB!
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