Your daughter is sooo RUDE and it is YOUR fault!! *edit in red* **LAST EDIT**
I became good friends with Dh's friends' wife. They have a 3 yr old daughter who is the RUDEST child I have met in my life. I have a 6 yr old sister that has NEVER acted this way, even when she was 3, and she has always been courteous and respectful so maybe I am not used to children like my friends.
About 2 months ago I threw Dh a surprise bday party with his friends and I got him balloons and a cake. The little girl tried to take all of his balloons (even though I was forced to buy her a bag of balloons for her because she was crying at the store) and she kept screaming because I wouldn't let her get to his balloons. When the cake came out, she stuck her fingers in it and after asking her countless times to stop (and her mom seeing her do it and doing nothing about it) I had to move the cake to a higher counter so she couldn't reach it.
Every time I am having a conversation with her mom or dad she will stand right in between us and start talking, LOUDLY. And her mom just laughs. Dh and I look at each other crazy because he knows if my sister did this, she would get disciplined. This little girl does whatever the hell she wants and her parents wont discipline her. It is sad and it makes me not even want to be around them!!
One night at MIDNIGHT she was running around her apartment and the lady that lives below them came up and cussed her mom out. She was mad and her husband was mad at the neighbor for having the audacity of coming to their apartment and when we left I told DH I would have reacted the same as the neighbor because 1. it is midnight, why isn't your child asleep?? 2. neighbors have to work and get sleep and they have to teach their daughter boundaries and that the world doesn't revolve around her.
I dont want to make a big deal out of this and I dont want to tell them anything because I feel it isnt my place to do so...idk what to do...
**For those of you who say I dont understand because I dont have a kid of my own yet, I do understand. If your child has a disability and they dont behave because of it, that is FAR different from this situation. You dont have to be a genius to know that kids need discipline and structure (especially at such an age) Her parents will be VERY hurt if I say something so I am trying to deal with the child when I have the chance to. I wont discipline her, but I will atleast direct her to another activity when she is being rude. Even in the short 5 minutes it takes her mom to go to the bathroom I can control her to the point where she isnt tearing everything apart, and I think she truly wants some type of structure and rules that her mom will not give to her.
We wont stop hanging out with them because Dh and her Dh grew up together and I wouldnt make Dh have to choose between us. I have tried to do all adult activities, I even asked we go to a hookah bar, and the first thing she asked was if she could take her daughter. So i canceled the plans for obvious reasons. For those of you saying it is NORMAL 3 yr old behavior, It is NOT unless you let your kids run your house.
**I want to thank all of you who have given me good advice on how to handle the situation. We will see them next Sunday and hopefully I will have the courage and opportunity to bring it up. And if I dont, I will try to correct her on my own terms and maybe her mom will get the point. I am sorry I havent responded to many of you because there are so many replies. And again THANK YOU! =)