Your daughter is sooo RUDE and it is YOUR fault!! *edit in red* **LAST EDIT**
I became good friends with Dh's friends' wife. They have a 3 yr old daughter who is the RUDEST child I have met in my life. I have a 6 yr old sister that has NEVER acted this way, even when she was 3, and she has always been courteous and respectful so maybe I am not used to children like my friends.
About 2 months ago I threw Dh a surprise bday party with his friends and I got him balloons and a cake. The little girl tried to take all of his balloons (even though I was forced to buy her a bag of balloons for her because she was crying at the store) and she kept screaming because I wouldn't let her get to his balloons. When the cake came out, she stuck her fingers in it and after asking her countless times to stop (and her mom seeing her do it and doing nothing about it) I had to move the cake to a higher counter so she couldn't reach it.
Every time I am having a conversation with her mom or dad she will stand right in between us and start talking, LOUDLY. And her mom just laughs. Dh and I look at each other crazy because he knows if my sister did this, she would get disciplined. This little girl does whatever the hell she wants and her parents wont discipline her. It is sad and it makes me not even want to be around them!!
One night at MIDNIGHT she was running around her apartment and the lady that lives below them came up and cussed her mom out. She was mad and her husband was mad at the neighbor for having the audacity of coming to their apartment and when we left I told DH I would have reacted the same as the neighbor because 1. it is midnight, why isn't your child asleep?? 2. neighbors have to work and get sleep and they have to teach their daughter boundaries and that the world doesn't revolve around her.
I dont want to make a big deal out of this and I dont want to tell them anything because I feel it isnt my place to do so...idk what to do...
**For those of you who say I dont understand because I dont have a kid of my own yet, I do understand. If your child has a disability and they dont behave because of it, that is FAR different from this situation. You dont have to be a genius to know that kids need discipline and structure (especially at such an age) Her parents will be VERY hurt if I say something so I am trying to deal with the child when I have the chance to. I wont discipline her, but I will atleast direct her to another activity when she is being rude. Even in the short 5 minutes it takes her mom to go to the bathroom I can control her to the point where she isnt tearing everything apart, and I think she truly wants some type of structure and rules that her mom will not give to her.
We wont stop hanging out with them because Dh and her Dh grew up together and I wouldnt make Dh have to choose between us. I have tried to do all adult activities, I even asked we go to a hookah bar, and the first thing she asked was if she could take her daughter. So i canceled the plans for obvious reasons. For those of you saying it is NORMAL 3 yr old behavior, It is NOT unless you let your kids run your house.
**I want to thank all of you who have given me good advice on how to handle the situation. We will see them next Sunday and hopefully I will have the courage and opportunity to bring it up. And if I dont, I will try to correct her on my own terms and maybe her mom will get the point. I am sorry I havent responded to many of you because there are so many replies. And again THANK YOU! =)
Oh no. I am NEVER mean to her, I play with her and give hr attention. I am more annoyed at her parents lack of parenting.
Quoting BEXi:It doesnt sound like a RUDE three year old. It sounds like a three year old who needs a little more structure and guidance.
Try not to be so harsh towards a toddler.
People who have no interest in learning how to "parent" should never be PARENTS!!!
I have dropped friends because their idea of parenting and mine were complete opposites. I suggest you do the same. :) Makes life MUCH easier for you.
There is a HUGE difference between the way 3 year olds act and 6 year olds. That is typical 3 year old behaviour- however- the parents should be taking notice and starting to teach her how to behave..... Even if it doesn't do a whole lot right now, it will eventually kick in when she matures a little more....
I meant by calling her rude.. Three year olds dont know how to be rude. The parents are the rude ones.
Quoting EAzizM:Oh no. I am NEVER mean to her, I play with her and give hr attention. I am more annoyed at her parents lack of parenting.
Quoting BEXi:It doesnt sound like a RUDE three year old. It sounds like a three year old who needs a little more structure and guidance.
Try not to be so harsh towards a toddler.
My sister NEVER acted like this, even at 3 yrs of age because my parents disciplined her accordingly.
Quoting BabyDio:There is a HUGE difference between the way 3 year olds act and 6 year olds. That is typical 3 year old behaviour- however- the parents should be taking notice and starting to teach her how to behave..... Even if it doesn't do a whole lot right now, it will eventually kick in when she matures a little more....
I have a dear friend that has the rudest little boy ever and he's 8. It makes me not want to hang out with them because of the lack of discipline in the house. It doesn't help that his dad is a complete freaking moron and the wife does whatever her husband says.
That the thing though. Her parents are not rude at all. They are very sweet, I dont understand why their daughter is that way besides because of the lack of discipline.
Quoting BEXi:I meant by calling her rude.. Three year olds dont know how to be rude. The parents are the rude ones.
Quoting EAzizM:Oh no. I am NEVER mean to her, I play with her and give hr attention. I am more annoyed at her parents lack of parenting.
Quoting BEXi:It doesnt sound like a RUDE three year old. It sounds like a three year old who needs a little more structure and guidance.
Try not to be so harsh towards a toddler.
That's the ugliest name everrrr!!!
- EAzizM
on May. 22, 2012 at 12:47 PM