My husband is really fat.

[Anonymous]

I love my husband, he is the kindest most amazing man I know.

but I am NOT sexually attracted to him. at all. in fact the thought of sex with him grosses me out kind of...

see the thing is he was my best friend for over 8 years, and he has always been there for me. for a long time he was in the "friend zone" because he is fat. but after years of meeting stupid guy after stupid guy, I realized he was the one for me, and it didnt matter what he looked like. I get along with him way better than anyone i've ever met. he used to be 450 pounds. then he lost 150 pounds after getting a surgery. he keeps eating pizza and hasnt lost any more weight after the 150. I feel bad because I love him so much, and I want to want to have sex with him, and I want to be sexually attracted to him. but seriously when we try to have sex he crushes me, and i just cannot be turned on by that. Idk what to do. 

anyone else have this problem?

[Sassy762]

Then you need to be on top all the time...he can't crush you like that

[Anonymous]

That shit fat

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting Sassy762:

Then you need to be on top all the time...he can't crush you like that

ontop doesnt work either because his stomach is too big it like pushes me off. lol.

[Sassy762]

That is just MEEAANNNNNNNNNNN, lol

Okay what about on your side?????

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Sassy762:

Then you need to be on top all the time...he can't crush you like that

ontop doesnt work either because his stomach is too big it like pushes me off. lol.

[squezze]

No but at least they make good sex toys

[Pink.Frosting]

On hands and knees?

[Taylor_Dawn]

Quoting Anonymous:

That shit fat

If your going to attempt an anonymous insult at least make sure it makes sense.

Pathetic.


Op- remember why you love him, and good luck.

[AnastasiaKorsh]

Help him get in shape, try something along the guise of "lets work out together! I need to shed some pounds and I'd like you to join me," encourage him to make better eating choices. If all else fails, be honest. It might not be a popular opinion, but I'd like to know if I weighed so much it turned my SO off. 

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. My dh is not that big but big enough that it does have an impact on how attracted to him I am. Since February we have been working out together and eating right and he has lost nearly 30 pounds. The only way this is happening is because I am doing it too. I am so proud of him, and me. But it is not easy. Can you try and get him out walking just to start? There are also healthy pizzas that you can learn to cook together. And a million other healthy options that us junk food junkies really do like. But it takes work, and planning, and being the motivating factor in your house. Is that something you can do? The alternative really sucks.

[Mrs.Bryant1201]

Dh used to be really big. He has lost 85 lbs. We motivate each other. We both have made HUGE lifestyle changes.