If you do everything for your children, you don't know what it means to be a parent
I really don't get how women that announce that their 19 year old son has never had to make himself a meal his entire life, or how their 16 year old daughter has never had to do one load of laundry, or their 12 year old has never washed one dish shows how awesome of a parent they are for catering to their child's every need.
Really, it makes you look incompetent. It is not our job to never create a hardship for our children. Our job as parents is to raise our children to be independent, productive adults and positive contributors to society. If you aren't providing them with the resources and skills to do that, you are failing at your job. End of story.