Does anybody else hate the term "play house"? UPDATE!! Update 2
I hate that term. It makes it sound like just because you aren't married, you're just playing a game. SO and I aren't married and our life is anything but a game. He works full time, I go to school full time, we raise our daughter and are expecting twin boys in august. We do basically everything that a married couple does except we're not married. How does not being married equate to "playing house"? Nobody's playing here and it most certainly isn't a game. It just irritates me because it makes it sound like our life isn't as serious as somebody who's married when the only difference is a legal piece of paper. We are just as committed as anybody else and maybe someday we'll get married, but it doesn't mean we're just playing some game with our family.
Update: Woot! I made a featured post. I didn't think any post of mine would be that popular. I've read through all the replies and thought maybe I'd clarify a few things...much quicker than replying to everybody. I do want to be married and SO wants to marry me. We've talked about it, but right now it's not a good time. We're trying to prepare for our boys that are coming soon and make sure that we have everything that they will need. SO has been considering getting a vasectomy and I want for us to be married before he does that. I would feel horrible if he got it done and for some reason we didn't work out. We do not have a fear of the commitment of marriage....children happened and right now they are taking precedence over everything else.
Update #2 - I do want to get married. It's not the right time right now. We literally do not have $100 to go to the courthouse. SO is down at the pawnshop as we speak so we can have some money until payday. We ran short this month. He's looking for another job so that we can have extra money. The vasectomy isn't set in stone yet. My mom has been telling us that one of us needs to get fixed and she keeps saying that it should be him. Me and him were talking about it and he said he was thinking about it, but he doesn't want my mom to think that the only reason that he got it done was because she suggested it. If it comes down to it, if I end up needed a c-section, I might just have my OB tie, cut and burn my tubes while he's got me open anyway. I don't have an issue being engaged with 3 children if that's how it works out. I'm not taking the easy way out. I would probably get custody of the kids either way because I am their primary caregiver and with 2 newborns on the way, who else is going to take care of them. Once I graduate from school this summer, I will be more than able to support me and the children if something were to happen between me and SO. This whole argument is ridiculous. I simply posted about hating the term because it makes it seem like what I'm doing, that every other family does that has children is just a game when we do exactly the same thing as a married couple does. I don't see how raising my family becomes "real" instead of a "game" when I get married. I will be doing the same damn thing with the same damn people.