What do you think about old fashioned marriages?

[bmcandmmh]

I grew up seeing my mom be a sahm and my dad working his ass off to provide for us. He worked very hard so we could take vacations and etc. He brought my mom flowers, was a sweetheart to her and rarely got mad or yelled. They both made meals but she did most of the time and he mowed the lawns and she cleaned the inside of the house. She never went to college and never really had a job. Anyway I'm not sure if that impacted the way I view marriage but my dh is the exact same and I love how we work everything out like who does what and etc. I do work part time but am pretty much a sahm. (20 hours a week I work) the only difference in our relationship is dh cooks much more than i do. He likes it and is better. He also insists on being super dad and helping clean when he's off work but I try to make sure everything is clean so he doesn't have to. He commutes 1.5 hours each way to work and works about 55 hours a week and is always dead tired so I feel if he throws a dirty shirt on the bathroom floor he deserves to have that privilege and I will just throw it in the wash. I feel like he works sooooooo hard to provide for ds and I to make all our bills and to have nice vacations and things etc. Dh opens doors for me, brings flowers and all that stuff. Is this old fashioned way of thinking gone? Am I weird? In no way am I bashing any mom who works full time. It's just not my cup of tea.

[LucyMom08]

I get all that, and we aren't married *shrugs* I like gentlemen, marriage has nothing to do with it for me.

[anotherhalf]

My marriage is very similar to yours except I do most of the cooking.  I love it this way. 

[erica7227]

Good for you I guess.

[mommy0708toJC]

you are very lucky! 

[Kodysmommy928]

 I think that if that works for a family then it is wonderful.

My husband is a SAHD and I am the breadwinner.  There is no one size fits all when it comes to a functioning family. 

[NDADanceMom]

My husband is like that, but im educated and I have applied and had interviews to go back to teaching next fall.  I miss working.  

[ElitestJen]

Our household is very similar.  It works for us.

[sonnyswoman75]

I think marriage is 50/50. Nothing should be just the womans job or mans job.

[awilliamson]

I think it is weird, to other people.

My marriage is the exact same way. He does the "man" things, I do the "woman" things. It works perfectly for us. I do about 100% of the cleaning, though; it has never been his cup of tea. But it doesn't bother me at all. I do have a degree in Education, but have never used it. 

I consider us lucky! Not many men view marriage this way anymore.

[AdellesMom]

We both work. Right now, my DH isn't working. He's still in recovery. When he goes back to work, I'll be quiting my job. I love working, but I want to try being a SAHM. I think I can do it.

Even though we both work, we split the housework 50/50. Right now, he's unable to help. Usually, he does the laundry, yard work, and the dishes. I usually keep the other parts of the home clean. The kids have a chore list as well. It works for us.

I am in a Christian Submissive relationship though. That works for us too.

ETA: I do have a College Education. So does DH.