I don't have the same level of respect for military wives.
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YOUR spouse serves for our country not you. Its not a sacrifice YOU had to make. There are plenty of other men out there. I don't take credit for my husbands job which takes him away for weeks at a time. You are not an extension of your husbands job, quit claiming how hard it is to be "that kind of wife". You had to know he was going to leave, risk death ect <which as an American I am indebted to> but you meh, your just a side dish of the main course.
Yes, single moms are amazing.
I have been a single mom, so I know how hard it is.
But I mean to be married and commited and STAY with someone who is never there, and not cheat on them. That is also VERY hard.
I imagine it gets really lonely, and you can't just go out and meet someone, unless of course you are a whore and cheat, then no respect for you.
I am just saying, i don't understand what these rude post are for, they help nothing, they are nothing but negative and hurt TONS of peoples feelings, just for what? attention?
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Quoting vinalex0581:single moms do that too
Quoting mommy2annaliese:Yes, because its not hard at all to be by yourself most of the time and take on ALL the responsiblitys of your children and home all by yourself at all.
Seriously? this post was probably made to stir the pot and get attention.
I can see your point ass well but thou you can't choose who you love you can choose whom you marry. So when they complain I'm thinking really? military men leave behind wives and children. They need to school these women on what is really left behind and the reality is they are single mothers. So again the question asks WHY would a woman do that. To many young women lose themselves to men who in the end come back broken. Kuddos to them but thats what they signed up for and no one shoved the pen in there hand. What makes me sad is the kids. Its fine if you want to piss away your life but don't make kids if you can't watch them grow
Quoting mom23heathens:
My dd is a military wife. At first I too was meh'ing her when she would call and complain since i am a truckers wife. But I started to see her point. These wives do make sacrifices. It's like being a single parent when they're gone and the worry they feel at all times but can't show it. My husband is gone but not in probable danger. I also know that my dh will roll in on a certain day to take care of business. Hers will be gone for several months. I don't think of an army wife in the same light as her soldier but i appreciate that she shared him. She can't help who she loves and should not have to walk away from him because of who he is. look at it from the soldier's point of view. Who would be a soldier if the woman they love doesn't want him for being one? He is trusting us to look out for his family while he is looking out for us. It is ungreatful to our soldiers to not respect their families sacrificing their time with or the risk of losing him.
Quoting Anonymous:
look play your part of the dutiful wife I get it and thank you. But there will come a time you will see the other side of this and realize time wasted. Not saying its wasted so much as you could have made better life choices so that you wouldn't be stuck like this
Quoting sheramom4:
Quoting Anonymous:
When you choose this life its easy for me to say really? your surprised a man leaving behind his wife and children is difficult? YOU DIDN"T HAVE TO BE IN THIS POSITION. YOUR LOVE BLINDERS GOT IN THE WAY. Chances are your marriage won't last. Chances are some china girl is giving him his best blow job EVER and he will come back indifferent and you won't even know WTF happened. The hardest part from a civilian standpoint is watching young girls piss away their lives when you know they could do better.
Quoting halliebug:
You forgot to add the weeks that we run the house while they are I'm the field. You forgot to add how hard it is to te them goodbye and knowing you won't talk to the while they are gone. You forgot to add how bad it sucks to have to handle family emergencies alone. Or to find out that you're expecting a baby while he is gone.
You, OP, don't wanna show me respect for standing by my husband, then you can kiss my ass because this is the hardest role I have had in life. Being a civilian wife is nothing compared to this.
Quoting missamanda86:
I stand by my husband, the soldier, who puts his life on the line along with hundreds of thousands of others. I am the one left to raise our kids alone if he dies fighting for our freedom. Unlike civilian wives, us military wives sacrifice so much more IMO so that everyone has the freedom they fight for...a side dish? Get real....how many of those military men and women wouldnt be half the person they are without thier spouses support and love
That was disgusting and completely uncalled for. I guess since my DH is now disabled (and a veteran) I should remove my love blinders and leave him for someone better? There is NO ONE better. I have given up my career and finishing school to take care of him (my PHD) and also to take care of our kids, house and just about everything else because of his injuries. I LOVE my husband, I will stand by him no matter what. I did it while he was in the military and I will do it until the day he dies. I am not pissing my life away nor are most military or former military wives. UGH...so disgusted by this comment...UGH.....
I am not stuck. Something happened to my husband and I am not breaking my marriage vows because he is sick or injured. My life choices are just fine thank you. I have a Master's degree, I had a career for years and now I am his full time caregiver. Virtually the same thing happened to my mother and she was not a military wife. My dad broke his back in six places while working (he fell) a civilian job. 17 years later he passed away. They were married for 31 years. You attitude is terrible aout this situation. I really hope that you never have something happen to one of your children or your spouse that would create a similar situation. Would you leave your spouse because he became disabled or caught cancer or some other illness? I made the wrong choices because I won't leave my spouse....SMFH
I'm guessing you've never had your husband gone for a year and come back with ptsd. Dealing with that requires a LOT of sacrifice.
It is definitely not the same as your husband's job taking him away for weeks at a time. My husband has done that too. That was MUCH easier.
So if you are a civilian your husband or so will never die, thats good to know, i'm not saying it's easy being a military wife but it's not easy doing a lot of things, why should we bow down to you because you married someone in the military?
Quoting pasteeater:
Totally disagree. My niece is a military wife and I'm a military mom. What if the spouse died? Does that make it hurt less because as you say they arent actually in the military themselves? Is your husband in the military???
again how would I hurt less becasue we are civilians?
Quoting pasteeater:
Totally disagree. My niece is a military wife and I'm a military mom. What if the spouse died? Does that make it hurt less because as you say they arent actually in the military themselves? Is your husband in the military???
It isn't hard for me to not cheat on my dh. I don't cheat on him because I love him. You must have issues if it is "VERY" hard for you not to cheat on your dh.
Quoting mommy2annaliese:Yes, single moms are amazing.
I have been a single mom, so I know how hard it is.
But I mean to be married and commited and STAY with someone who is never there, and not cheat on them. That is also VERY hard.
I imagine it gets really lonely, and you can't just go out and meet someone, unless of course you are a whore and cheat, then no respect for you.
I am just saying, i don't understand what these rude post are for, they help nothing, they are nothing but negative and hurt TONS of peoples feelings, just for what? attention?
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why would I marry someone who would leave for a year or years at a time. Doesn't make sense. That's not sacrifice that's stupidity.
Quoting mewebb82:
I'm guessing you've never had your husband gone for a year and come back with ptsd. Dealing with that requires a LOT of sacrifice.
It is definitely not the same as your husband's job taking him away for weeks at a time. My husband has done that too. That was MUCH easier.
But more power to ya if youre that proud spouse, Ive been both a spouse and am a soldier and being a spouse is harder than being a soldier.
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