Stopping Former Nanny From Sleeping With Other Dads

[Anonymous]

My children attended a wonderful preschool until they turned 5. When our youngest child left the preschool my husband and I hired their favorite caretaker, twenty something Kate, to be their part-time nanny. Over the past three years, Kate has practically become part of our family. Last year, I wrote her a recommendation that helped her gain entry into a prestigious special-education college program. Last week, I found out Kate and my husband have been carrying on an affair for two years. I don't know yet if my marriage will be salvageable, but Kate is no longer working for us. I know Kate wants to continue to work as a child care provider. I think that if most moms and facilities knew about her past, they wouldn't give her the time of day. I'm also worried she'll betray other families the way she betrayed mine. I'm not sure how to make sure she doesn't work in a child care setting without going down a seriously psychotic path, like mass-emailing every day care in our city. Should I do my best to forget about Kate? Or is there a sane and justified way I can keep her from hurting other families?

WWYS to this woman who sent this in to an advice columnist?

[SlightlyPerfect]

Forget Kate and deal with your husband.

[twinmommy27]

This.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Forget Kate and deal with your husband.

[Not_A_Native]

I would let go of thoughts about Kate - and realize the problem lies with my husband.  He's the one who cheated.

[Joels-My-Love]

I would go the psychotic route and email everyone :-)

[SlightlyPerfect]

Seriously. The dude banged the nanny. If it wasn't the nanny, it would have been someone else.

Quoting twinmommy27:

This.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Forget Kate and deal with your husband.

[kjfamily]

I would leave him and ruin her life. She can't be trusted and acted unethical in an employment situation, other wives should know what kind of person they are dealing with.

[Mysty_1961]

This, you could also get yourself involved with the legal system by putting out this information.  Remember there are always two sides to a story so putting out personal information about this person and preventing her from obtaining employment could come back to bite you.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Seriously. The dude banged the nanny. If it wasn't the nanny, it would have been someone else.

Quoting twinmommy27:

This.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Forget Kate and deal with your husband.

[Anonymous]

That. Is so. Fucked up. If you go after her career she could sue you...I think. I would recomend forgeting about her. And as far as the husband is concerned. Fuck him too! You know damn well she was under the impression he was going to leave you for her. He just had to wait for ...something like the kids to grow up. You to get a job. Or he was just living with you untill you were able to take care of yourself. He was being the martyr because he cares so much about humanity that he refuses to let you and his child live on the streets. So it was a gift to you that he stayed with you while HAVING A RELATIONSHIP with another woman. Two years!? That is a long time. He was living a double life.

[bustybee]

this and lorena bobbit my husband

Quoting Joels-My-Love:

I would go the psychotic route and email everyone :-)

[JLS2388]

One thing you have to remember is kate didn't rape your DH, he was a willing participant so if she does to work for another family, the husband isn't going to sleep with her unless he wants to. Now I would call that school and recant your recommendation and if someone asked about her I might say that I don't recommend her at all but that's about it.