Can You Be The "Other Woman" and Make It Work

[kcangel63]

Are there any women here who cheated on their spouse, or slept with a married man, and then married that man and it worked out?

If so, how long have you been together?

Are there trust issues? Are you afraid he'll cheat on you? Is he afraid you'll cheat on him?


It just seems like it wouldn't work out. Starting a relationship out with lies and deception is a bad way to begin. I would think there would always be the "if ____ did it to ____, it could happen to me" thoughts always nagging the mind.

[ramonafrog]

I don't think relationships that start with lies will end up being healthy.

[Anonymous]

My husband was married when we met, i was in a serious relationship. We both left our s/o to be with each other. When its right its just right. We have been married 5 years and no we dont have trust issues

[Anonymous]

Like my grandma always said, "if he does it with you, he will do it to you!"

[Lillymygirl]

I could not do that. I have something called morals that would never allow me to do something so horrible.

I did know a woman who had an affair that broke up a marriage and they are married now and have been for over 20 years so I guess sometimes it can work . But who would want it , ya know?

[mommac10]

 Ok, prolly gonna get bashed here but I worked it out for 7 years. It hurt, I felt awful but I swear I loved the man. I was with my dh now and I dated a married man who my ex husband worked with for 7 years. Yeah, 7 years. She knew about me and he knew about dh but we still seen each other. It did not end well, and I would not recommend it to anyone because no matter what they say, they will never leave. If they will cheat with you they will cheat on you. For the record I am now 100% faithful to my husband. :)

[justgracie]

You are a holocaust denier and you think you have morals?  Maybe you don't know what that word means.

Quoting Lillymygirl:

I could not do that. I have something called morals that would never allow me to do something so horrible.

I did know a woman who had an affair that broke up a marriage and they are married now and have been for over 20 years so I guess sometimes it can work . But who would want it , ya know?