Never thought I'd be the other woman

[Anonymous]

I feel like such a dumbass

He never told me he was married until I asked.  This is how it came about...we were talking about being more "serious" and he goes, I could see myself being with you, and in the midst of this convo I go, wait you aren't married are you?  

Keep in mind, I am 20 he is 21, never would think to ask that for our age range, so I never thought to ask.  

He says yes he is married, keep in mind, no signs of this wife.  He lives with roommates, never mentions her, nothing.  So I am like blind to this. 

We went places together, talked all night, went on vacation together, everything, so it's just a huge shock.  

But it finally hit me, and now I am so torn up about it. I don't want to feel anything else for him, I just want to move on, don't know how.  

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Yeah this fucker said he wasn't with anyone either until I asked speifically if her was married.  Douche

Quoting mummy1990:

I was almost another woman. As soon as I found that out, I said, fuck that, never spoke to him again. He wasn't even going to tell me either, I found out from someone else, which I had asked him before if he was with anyone, and he told me he was single. We didn't really date, just hung out after class, had lunch, stuff like that. I talked to him for like 3 months, and we started to get a little more serious, then someone told me hes married.....no thank you....I'm sorry you're going though this. It kinda sucks

[Benjamins-mama]

now a days that should be something you ask to start with.  have you ever been married before you even move forward with dating.